Have you ever lived with someone who interfered with your parenting?

Ok, the short answer is YES and it was bad so I moved out. If you look at my older posts...and I wish you wouldn't...you will find many, many rants about my former living arrangements and all the horrible craziness that came with it. I have put those days behind me in life and hopefully here as well so forgive me for not going in to detail. All I can say is, you have 3 options: 1-move out 2-put up with it 3-put your foot down really, really hard The problem is none of those are easy or guaranteed to work. I tried all 3 with only limited success. All you can do is to be the best parent you can be, ignore as much as you can and hope that this stage in your life passees quickly!

Hey Good topic! I also lived with my mom and dad...i got pregnant when i was 15 and had my son at 16. So i lived at home with my parents, im grateful for it because she allowed me to finish highschool and really supported me through everything she was amazing in that aspect! However it was horrible when my son was born. I know she did everything out of love, but it was so stressful because i dont know if you have noticed...she prob doesnt even tell you to do what she did to you, my mom was in grandparent mode and thought my son never needed to be disciplined. There was so many times when i had to sit with her and say you have to stop doing this...it ended in alot of heated arguments and hurt feelings with her feeling like i didnt respect her opinion...and we feeling like she didnt care about mine. However in the end....like 6 years later lol she finally started to get it...i could see it in her face that she wanted to butt in on me and my son...but she would bite her tounge and talk to me later...sometimes i would agree and others i wouldnt. But the point is the started to learn not to over step her boundaries. It would be different if i was wasnt living thier and we went for a visit and she wanted to spoil him with a cookie before bed or somehting...but because you are living thier it's harder for them to be grandparents. Like they cant set rules for thier house that grandparents have....because it is the childs house so they need house rules. lol i hope i made sense i have only had 3 hours of sleep and have a headache...so sorry if I dont forgive me. But in short yes i know how you feel and keep reminding her that she cant overstep her bounds...there might be some hurt feeling but in the long run it will make your relationship with each other stronger.

My mom used to always interfere with my parenting even when she did not live with me but my mom was one that interfered in my life anyway. She just very controlling and also very critical and it frustrated her to no end that I would not "mind" her. I did about 10 years ago, live with a boyfriend whom I had a child with. He did not critisize my parenting so much but did way overstep his bounds in disciplining my other kids that weren't his. It was over the top and borderline abuse...enough so that I promised my girls that I would never let another man live with us again while I was raising them....and I haven't. I have had boyfriends that immediatly think they can come in and start telling me how to budget my money and handle my kids...not happening. With your mom, you have to be a little more delicate than you would a boyfriend. I think I'd choose a moment when you aren't arguing about these issues to sit down and talk with her. If she disagrees with your ways then she at least should not compromise you or critisize you in front of the kids. If she is watching the kids....let her do it her way but if you are right there....your the mom and she needs to respect that. I have grandchildren and there have been a couple of times that I have bit my tongue and sat back when my daughter handled a situation different than I would have. She is a good mom....it's not my place. If she were doing something very wrong...I'd speak up but otherwise...it isn't a good idea.

well we also live in same way but well there is small disputes going on and but i dont consider any thing a wrong , when my parents who are well experienced and now as i have to see my child's future . some times it so happens is they say what is wright and wrong to my child and my wife always had some dispute with them on this topic but well i take it lightly as i know what they say is right and i dont thing any thing wrong in it