Who is a friend ?
By K.Rajib G.
@krajibg (11922)
Guwahati, India
February 15, 2009 1:23am CST
HI every one! As I was having a look into the topics that are recently launched here at mylot, quite a disturbing topic hit my idle brain - 'friendship;. We all know what this is and we are friends to some one or the other in both the real and the virtual situation/world. Some of them are just friends, some are bosom friends, some are hi & hello friends and still some other the best friends. The thing I often wonder is, are we really committed to our friendship, I mean do we carry on the jobs that a friend in the true spirit is supposed to as when we say 'so and so are my friends'? Or we have never understood the semantics of 'friendship'and remained in a nebulous state. The way my friends behave sometime, I really wonder if I have ever understood the terms -'friend' and 'friendship'.
I have a mixed feeling about it, what is your? Le us pour into...
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@dragon54u (31634)
• United States
15 Feb 09
I have a few friends in the "real" world who I'd do anything for. They are the gold and silver in the treasure chest of life, my family are the jewels. I let them know how wonderful they are and we help each other when we are in need, encourage each other in good times and bad.
My virtual friends are special to me, too. There are a few that I feel an affinity with and I think of them often and wish them the best. Those that are here on myLot, I try to reply to all their discussions and do my part to help them earn while getting to know them better.
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@krajibg (11922)
• Guwahati, India
15 Feb 09
Very honest. You are the second person after RoadRocket (who will not be around for quite some time)I have felt sort of closeness though we are placed far away from each other. May be this is the growth of the true bonding and this would lead to a true and committed friendship. Another thing that I believe there should be that is tolerance. It could so happen sometime that unintentionally I hurt you, but you must have the patience to see what actually is the wrong there in me. Or else it would collapse like the Berlin Wall. What say?
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@dragon54u (31634)
• United States
15 Feb 09
If a virtual friend hurts my feelings (which is very hard to do) I usually assume that it's a difference in language and culture and that they did not do so intentionally. Sometimes I have to read things several times to understand what my non-English speaking friends are trying to say, but the important thing is to take the time! Do not worry about that, I always give my friends a lot of leeway due to my own failings. 
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@totallyundecided (3190)
• Philippines
16 Feb 09
real friends stab you in the front. =) meaning, that they are not afraid to tell you what you've done wrong even though this will create a feud between you and them. they might be that way too but they're also not afraid of letting you make a mistake for they always know that in making errors in life, that's where you find fulfillment of yourself as you grow maturely.
cheers!
@krajibg (11922)
• Guwahati, India
16 Feb 09
Wow that is the right thing I guess. A friend is he who calls a spade a spade so far his/her association with you. Greatly conceived.
Thank you for responding.
@izathewzia (5134)
• Philippines
15 Feb 09
Virtual friends for me are those you can exchange ideas with via online. Those who will help you earn money and vice versa. Those who will lead you to honest paying sites and will shy you away from scam sites.
@krajibg (11922)
• Guwahati, India
16 Feb 09
Ya, you are right. But what I feel is that there should be parity in their outlook and they must be like-minded ones or friendship would not last. There is a difference between a casual friend and a real or serious friend.
thanks for responding.
@krajibg (11922)
• Guwahati, India
16 Feb 09
Yes that proverb itself speaks volume on friend and friendship. Trust, commitment and sharing probably seal the bond more tightly.
@killhawaii (112)
• United States
16 Feb 09
A really good friend will be on your side at every time. A friend is someone you just hang out with and hope they dont have bad habits. A best friend will be there with you when you really need their help going through a difficult time and will share their situations with you and will tell you everything and knows that you are a vault when it comes to secrets and never will you ever tell them to anyone. Not even god when the time comes.
@krajibg (11922)
• Guwahati, India
16 Feb 09
Well sharing and caring come by default as soon as you are friends. The testing would follow when one is in diversity or in a crucial situation.
Thanks a lot for responding.
@Anora_Eldorath (6028)
• United States
16 Feb 09
This is a great discussion! I think that at times we can definately just use the term friend/friends as just another word, yet with no real meaning. One might say they have friends online but what they mean are that they have many people they know online. I personally think that friends have certain criteria that come with that station in life. I think we cannot throw around the term friend lightly, if that makese sense.
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@krajibg (11922)
• Guwahati, India
16 Feb 09
Thats great. I really like your concept, though crispy they are. Speak less but convey much. Thank you very much for your meaningful lines.
@rhadoo2006 (562)
• Romania
15 Feb 09
A real friend is the person who sticks with you at good and worst, a person who helps or at least try to get you out of troubles, at least that is my opinion.
@krajibg (11922)
• Guwahati, India
15 Feb 09
Yes, this should be the real quality of a friend. But how many of us do follow this?
Thanks a lot for your response.
@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
15 Feb 09
Friendship comes to those who need friendship. It goes with those who see the need of others. Friendships is one of the few things in the world which you can make. You make friends. You may have to count penny, yet be rich in friends. You may live in only one room, yet it may be a palace of friendship. A friend is never known till a man has needs. A true friend is someone who can be there when we are in sadness and sorrow.
@krajibg (11922)
• Guwahati, India
15 Feb 09
True you have to make friends but the question that keeps on nagging me is would the made friend always be with you? If the friend turned out to be the like of Brutus then? Its a difficult I guess to define a friend in this context.
Thanks a lot for responding.
@krajibg (11922)
• Guwahati, India
16 Feb 09
Very well said, a friend in need is a friend indeed. Thank you very much for responding.
@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
15 Feb 09
"A friend will help you hide. A true friend will help you hide a body" 
True friends are rare I think.
A true friend has seen you at your worst and loves you anyway; you can be totally yourself with that person with no pretence.
A true friend's love is unconditional and will walk to the ends of the earth for you.
Friends can come in many shapes and forms from a beloved pet to an old school friend.
A friend is someone you never get sick of and are always glad to see.
A friend is the one who always listens.
If you are a friend you special because you were chosen.
True friends are rare I think.
A true friend has seen you at your worst and loves you anyway; you can be totally yourself with that person with no pretence.
A true friend's love is unconditional and will walk to the ends of the earth for you.
Friends can come in many shapes and forms from a beloved pet to an old school friend.
A friend is someone you never get sick of and are always glad to see.
A friend is the one who always listens.
If you are a friend you special because you were chosen.
@sparquel (121)
• United States
15 Feb 09
Paula, I agree with you completely.
I'd like to add by saying a real friend is true-blue, wearing no facades or masks. Also, a real friend will be there through thick and thin ... no matter what, and will always have your best interests at heart. A real friend will also be honest and upfront with you.
@krajibg (11922)
• Guwahati, India
15 Feb 09
Yes, I guess a true friend is some one like what we say an alter ego. And others are just around you to share. But even these people sometime betray you. You rightly put it that it is difficult to get a true friend.
Thanks Paula for responding.
@shiva529 (285)
• India
15 Feb 09
hi to my view friendship can be made by sharing the feelings of two hearts not just by outer appearances...friendship stays longer if they believe each other in critical situations.so friend should be a person who cares for us,try to provide a solution to our problems..
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@krajibg (11922)
• Guwahati, India
15 Feb 09
Hi!, you said the right thing I guess. this should come from within and not from outer side. Thanks a lot for responding dear.
@jd107nette (1454)
• Philippines
15 Feb 09
For me friends are simply those people you can turn to when you are in need of a hand and a shoulder to cry on, someone who'd wish you for the better and help you reach your goal in life...
It doesn't really mean that if you're friends with someone, you have to understand each other all the time and be there all time.. We are human beings and we can't help to have different opinions and commit short comings to our friends and maybe start a misunderstanding or so...
That's when we know that we're friends...
When through thick and thin, through wars and peace, we stand for each other... though we fight, we make up and admit to our faults.. well, that's how it works with my friends...
@krajibg (11922)
• Guwahati, India
16 Feb 09
Yes,I agree with you. But I feel a friend should never take his friend(s) for granted. It so happens in many occasions that you just do not give much attention to your feeling and take it for granted that if you enter into hi/her privacy he/she would not mind. But there he/she has committed a mistake and this could now lead to a split in the relation. What say?
@krajibg (11922)
• Guwahati, India
16 Feb 09
But we have very few of them and most are just opportunists. Thanks a lot for your response.
