Miserable Depression

Adolescence is a hard time and it can take a hard tool on you. You have asked for help and that is a major step, I wish I have done that when I was a teenager. You are already on the road to recovery. Medicine can help to deal with the symptoms but it won't fix the root of the problem. It's like treating a cold, we take the medicine but that only helps with the symptoms, the cold will take its tool either way. It is a long way and there are no fast tracks, but what it WILL help on the long run is therapy, however slow it may seem now. With therapy, 95% of depression cases are cured. You can not solve the problem if you don't find out what is the root of that problem and fix it. Remember that the relationship with your therapist is vital. In fact, it is said that 60% of therapy is based on the therapeutic relationship. So, if you are not happy with your therapist don't feel you are stuck with him/her. You can look for another one, until you find one that you feel comfortable with. You don't say what age are you exactly but you might want to look into actually studying psychology at college in the future. Sometimes understanding how it works it gives you a sense of control and helps you deal with it better, not to mention that your experience might help you become a great therapist should you decide to follow that career path.

Ainokea I'd recommend reading: "The Mindful Way Through Depression. Freeing Yourself From Chronic Unhappiness" by Mark Williams, John Teasdale, Zindel Segal and Jon Kabat-Zinn. It was written for people like you who have suffered multiple bouts of major depression. Here's an excerpt from the introduction: "What if, like virtually everyone else who suffers repeatedly from depression, you have become a victim of your very own sensible even heroic efforts to free yourself - like someone pulled even deeper into quicksand by the struggling intended to get you out? We wrote this book to help you understand how this happens, what you can do about it, by sharing recent scientific discoveries that have given us a radically new understanding of what feeds depression or chronic unhappiness: At the very earliest stages in which mood starts to spiral downward, it is not the mood that does the damage but how we react to it. Our habitual habits to try and extricate ourselves, far from freeing us, actually keep us locked in the pain we're trying to escape." The book and the CD that comes with it, is easy to read and follow and helps break the mental habits that allow depression to hit you over and over again.

Well focus on what is working right instead of what is not. do things you enjoy doing. and this site has loads of tips http://depression.about.com I used to work there as a depression chathost. Make sure you are getting enough to eat, and sleep, and take time out for yourself to just relax... Be as open to you therapist as you can be comfortably... I will keep you in my healing prayers or thoughts. I think adolesances is one of the word times, as the body is still growing, and developing, and teen hormones can be a menance too. Even if you do not get rid of depression for good, you can learn to cope and handle it better, and as you grow older it will get better :) .... hugs take care - DNatureofDTrain

Hi there Ainokea, I'm sorry to hear that you're going through a difficult time. First of all let me begin by saying that you cannot just get over it! Many people assume that if you just are determined enough then you can move on with your life that that's simply not the case. I'm now 30 but as a teenager I too suffered severe and frequent episodes of depression for which I was hospitalized as well. It seems like it will go on forever and that there is as dark cloud hanging over your head. And it also feels like it will never end… Let me assure you that it does end and things can get better. You can get help and receive treatment and can go on to live a happy and healthy life. I know! I've been down so far I didn't think I could ever crawl back out of the hole I was in. However, like you I also went through therapy and counseling. Therapy has got be one of the scariest and most intense experiences you may ever face. The hardest thing for me to do was let go into trust the process. I had to decide that my life was an absolute mess and a nightmare and I didn't know how to fix it. Since I have been doing everything I knew to make my life better and it wasn't working it was time to hand the control over to someone else. That someone else was a trusted therapist. Handing over control and trusting in the process is perhaps the hardest thing because it's what sets up the dynamics for you to continue on your journey. The other thing, I thought of when I was reading your comments was that you said you wanted to accelerate the process. Unfortunately, there's no easy fix. In fact, I went into therapy thinking that I was going to solve all of the problems and that is in fact not what happened. I went into therapy and I came out of therapy withof the same things I went in with. Things did not just magically disappear. The difference was how I chose to approach the problems in my life the skills that I learned to deal with the challenges that come up. So, while I know that you're looking for a way to get it over with as soon as possible, there is no way to speed up the process. My best piece of advice to you would be to trust in yourself and to trust that you are exactly where you need to be for today... And that you will take the next step when the time comes. I know that is extremely difficult to deal with and accept. We want a solution and we want it now! Unfortunately in life we don't always get what we want, immediately. Trust in you and have faith that it will happen in time. I hope my comments will help a little. You'll be in my thoughts and until next time, take care.

I use to manage depression, listening musiq, playing violen and i like chocolates, and i feel i get refreshed after having my chocolates. And best remedy is Meditation, try breathing exercise, it will help you balance and handle depression.