Isn't it enough to be together?

I beleive it takes a great deal of time, patience, love, honesty and understanding to make a marriage work. No 2 people in this world are exactly alike therefore we must make allowances for our partners needs, ideas etc. Dont run when you dont agree, or fight and argue when opinions differ. This is bound to happen. Sometimes we need to agree to disagree. We were all created different for a reason. Today with so much independance in the forefront, people tend to give up when things dont go exactly "their" way. True love is about sharing all times together both good and bad. Enjoying the happy moments and working together through the rough patches. But there are times when enough is enough...When one partner is abusive, and by this I mean in any of many ways whether it be physical, emotional, verbal etc....Remember we do not intentionally hurt the ones we love, instead we agree to disagree and continue on.

i think being together with respect and love is enough. if love him/her you must ready to face the consequences that may arise in the mids of relationship. i wonder why some people can't handle marriage ralationship? it is because they are not contented on what they get or because they are not financially stable and find something rich to pay everything. marriage is divine and no one can make it null and void because it is God's grace. why would you say enough. are you getting marriage and contented what you are right now?

I wish I had an answer for you. I am in the process of getting a divorce after 18 years of marriage. We really did try to make the relationship work but I am not able to meet his expectations and he is not able to meet my expectations. The relationship does not work. No regrets. We tried.

This discussion is truely, one that will never be answered in the fullest, but people like myself can only speculate. I've been married three times and I'm only 35. What happened? I don't know. This wasn't something I planned on doing when I was a little girl. I guess couples have way too much expectations from each other. Often times, the arguments are either due to s3x or money. With my first, it was because he wasn't a good man, plain and simple. The second was because he was an annoying jerk, but he's the one that I've often said had his head screwed on the tightest. This last one, decided that his pastor and "church" was worth more his time than his family. So, my ideas and visions of marriage is totally down the tubes. I just think that the whole, "wait before you're married to live with another person" is so outdated. If I'd spend more time with those husbands of mine, I would have been able to have seen what they are like. Now, I'm dating a younger man who has never been married or have had any children. He's a sweetheart, but I want to keep him at a comfortable distance. Don't worry, he feels the sameway. What we have versus what the other relationships I've had in the past is simple: what's on the other side. We know he's a man that likes his freedom and I have my children. Right now, we're at a comfortable spot where, the future isn't a part of us, just one day at a time. That's such a reliefe! He's not trying to be the man we need because he knows he's got to change. He may not be willing to change such things and you know what? I'm ok with that. As long as he's happy first and foremost then that's all that matters. *Pleiades