to die or not to die
@juliarodriguez (6)
Philippines
4 responses
@ronaldinu (12422)
• Malta
15 Feb 09
hi juliarodirguez i am sorry that you have passed from this terrible experience. I hope that you will have the courage to pass through this story with head held high. Your two adorable kids need you. I hope that you fix things in your marriage, if not to move on in your life. Life is worth living for.
@3SnuggleBunnies (16374)
• United States
15 Feb 09
You need to think of your kids. Would you want to leave them in the care of a cheater? Are you going to divorce him?
What you have to focus on is building up your esteem! You are better than this man, you will get thru this. Wanting to hurt yourself will only punish YOUR KIDS not him, he's clearly moved on!
Don't punish your kids for his foolish behavior!
Your kids will be the ones hurting the rest of their lives as they will grow up with out their mom. That's not fair to them, that's almost as selfish as his behavior!
Do what you have to do to get the anger tward him out! Write letters to him (tear them up, see below), tell him how much he hurt you and that you are bigger than this and you will perservere to rise above this and be the best damn mom ever! Write whatever you need to vent, get it all out and when you are ready tear it up and be free of his hurt!
Also take the time to confide in a good friend, family member, clergy about this. They may be of great resource to you during this time. I know I had some PPD issues in 07 and my MIL helped me thru it thru by writing letters about how I felt to God and just alot of talking. You have to let your anger out and then learn to let it go and move on.
I know so much easier said than done..... But you have to put a positive spin on it don't let this man bring you down! Let this experience make you a better Woman & a better Mother to your children!
@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
15 Feb 09
I am so sorry that you found out that your husband is cheating on you. I hope that you can find a way to talk to him and to work out any problems the two of you have. Not just for yourselves and each other but for the children. Seek help from online services, or find a local phone number that can help you with the way you feel. I am not sure where you live as I haven't checked your profile to see if you've revealed where you live, but in America there are hotlines for various different things that might help you.