Do you have to be close to have a successful loving relationship?
By YoungInLove
@YoungInLove (1254)
Canada
February 15, 2009 10:29am CST
So this is a question I just have to ask. I was laying down with a guy Im casually dating or you could say "seeing" last night and we started to have a deep conversation about relatinships. We havent made it officially becuase its new and in 2 months hes leaving for 5 months becuase he is a hockey player and goes home after hockey season, which is 6 hours away from here. He asked how much I liked him and where I saw things going, and I said personally I dont think were going to far becuase were not close and share stuff like most couples do. He just told me thats the kinda guy he was, it took him a really like time to completely open up, which is understandable, but im used to being really close weith my exes. So it got me thinking, Im just used to having close relatinships, but not all relatinships are like that.
Does a couple have to tell eachother completely everything, every little detail, to have a happy loving relatinship? Or can you both do your own thnig without feeling the need to tell eachother absolutely everything? Whats your opinion
6 responses
@jpso138 (7851)
• Philippines
3 Mar 09
Well, I think that there is some little space or detail that should be left behind. Though there is nothing wrong with telling everything but I think as a person, we have to leave something for us. A healthy relationship is based on love and trust. You do not have to tell every detail to gain trust to the person you love. Otherwise, you will end up losing your identity and would not be able to decide on your own even for the simplest things. This for me would be unhealthy.
@jyesha (105)
• Philippines
16 Feb 09
relation is to be base on trust love is made for a reason its the boundary of to people who care for one other. Everything that are said and done is base on 1 simple principal is telling that person you love everything even thou you know it will hurt them cause you know if you love a person you should never hurt that's person's feeling but if you do your a complete idiot for doing so is but the fact of trust stays and that's the most difficult question will you just take the pain and act every things alright that's a lie as you broke your trust but to save her from pain or tell her everything and be the baddest person on the earth by sharing pain and hurting the person you loved The question is have faith let love do its part and every thing is gonna go fine.................. by hoping????????????/
@gitfiddleplayer (10362)
• United States
15 Feb 09
Trust and honesty are forefront, without those you can't open up and tell the other person how you feel without conditions. You have to be close enough with somebody to tell them everything, its a hard part of the relationship that most people never experience because they don't want to seem so vulnerable.
@Jacson528 (6)
• China
15 Feb 09
Everyone should own one's space and secrets, even she\he has married or not.
And keeping secret is good for relationship between spouses. U tell the guy
who u love everything and that means u are a cup of water no colour,no flavor
for him, at last u have no attractiveness to him, on the other side,if u tell
every detail what u have done especially exboyfriend, sometimes it will make he
feel sick. More terrible is that when u break up, he may hold yr secret and exort
u.
@lynnemg (4529)
• United States
15 Feb 09
My husband and I are very close, but we do not tell each other absolutelt everything. I think that closeness and success in a relationship comes from many avenues. Can you trust him? Do you believe that he will be faithful to you? Is he honest with you? Those are things I would be asking first before wondering how much he isn't telling me.
In time, I think that you will both open up to each other more and more, and you will find your own unique closeness. Just because he doesn't want to tell you everything does not meant hat he does not care. I know plenty of long lasting relationships that were built on a lot of things other than total disclosure.
@maanrodriguez (604)
• Philippines
15 Feb 09
long distance relationships are hard but if you like him enough then why not give it a try? you just have to be prepared to exert more effort into the relationship cause it will definitely suck a few times. if you feel you have the patience and the strength to deal with all the nuances of a long distance relationship, then go for it. who knows, he could be worth it afterall.
