would you have a baby soon after having one?

i would say that i was married quite young.. before i graduated, and had my first child when i was 25.. the second one two years after that... my husband had already planned to have at least 4 children, 2-3 years apart from each other,.. and so now, in the end.. i have 5 children.. all born between 1994-2004, which means my children are all born between 2-3 years between each other as planned. i think 2-years age difference is just nice.. some may think that the age difference is to small, and that the first or elder child maynot get the 'right amount' of attention.. i dont think so.. i think it is just right, because by the time the elder one is 2, she's already quite ready to have a little brother/sister.. i dont think the 'sibbling rivalry' is not such a big deal for them at that age, either.. my eldest daughter enjoyed having a baby in the house, and took it upon herself to be the 'big responsible sister'.. making more fuss of her younger brother, than we all did...

I have the same concern too. I am going to be 30 years old soon, and I'll be having my first baby in a few day time. As I wish to have three kids, so in order not to get pregnant when I am too old, I am thinking perhaps it'll be good getting pregnant after 2 years. So, the age gap between the children is about 3 year time, which is good for them to grow up and have fun together too. Also, I will not have to take the risk of getting pregnant when I am at elder age.

Personally, no. I don't like the idea of having kids too close in age (unless it was a multiple birth). I'd want to be able to enjoy the one baby that I have and wouldn't want to add another until a few years down the road. But at the same time if parents can handle their kids being close in age then that is their choice. I guess having babies within 1 year age of each other would be too close for me.

I'm still young to answer your question but since I dropped by here, I'll just post my answers. If I have my own family it would be okay if I'll wait to get baby soon maybe after 4-6 years after giving birth... Because of the crisis, we have to be wise and practical especially when it comes to growing your family... We have to think first if we, as parents will do our responsibilities for our family and children.

It is really fine to have the second child after the first one. THere is no any problem if we do it back to back. Considering your age, it is a wise decision and you should stick to it.

It completely depends on once situation

Well I think everyone has different views when it comes to this subject. I feel if a mother can handle two babies that are close in age, then more power to her! It's your choice & I don't see anything wrong with it. I think it is actually a smart choice & you have it all planned out pretty well. But, remember that their needs might still be way different from eachother, so don't count to much on that... But, good luck with everything! I hope it all works out the way you plan!

Hi there, I think it really depends on what the family can handle. Our first 2 was 14 months apart and I didn't think it was that hard. The worse was I thought that the 2nd child would be as easy going as our first. He wasn't. LOL! He had colic and was ADHD. Still nothing to wish differently. We then had our 3rd child 3 years later. Now about 3 years later (I had wanted another baby) we had twins, that was a big surprise. Even more of a surprise when I got pregnant yet again, totally unplanned this time. She was born 13 months later! At this point we had 1 boy and 5 girls. We decided to try for one more when we bought our own house. Luckily it was a boy as our son said if the baby wasn't a boy we weren't allowed to bring the baby home. LOL! People thought we were nuts and that I would be gray and old by the time that the youngest was 10. LOL! Not so, and we are now raising one of our 10 grandbabies, so I think it just depends on what you can handle and if you have patience and of course A LOT of love!

I always wanted to have babies but I've got only one. If I was blessed to conceive on a yearly basis why not. But she I cannot, then there is problem with it. I am happy and contented to have a witty and healthy baby girl.

there is 2 yrs an 27 days between my two girls, its been fantastic. they adore each other it was harder the second pregnancy but then i had a lot of problems so was a little stressed. i think as long as you feel you can cope with two small children thats all that matters x

Congratulations! I can understand where you are coming from, I am 35 and single, and plan to have children someday...I'm realizing now that I probably won't have more than one, for the same reasons you discussed. Sure, it may be possible to be pregnant at 40, 45, or later, but why risk it? But on the other hand, having 2 babies can be very difficult. They will both be needing a lot of attention at the same time. I would see how it goes with the first one, and then decide. Good luck!

Well this has happened to me. I had a son in January of 1999. Then in July of 1999 I had found out that I was pregnant again. I did use the pill but apparently it does not work that well for me. So then in April of 2000 I had givn birth to my daughter. I find that because of the gender difference and them being so close in age that they tend to fight alot. This was the same with me and my brother. We were also born within a short time.

I think I will wait until the first one to be 2 years old first then to start the second one. Because the bigger can learn to bebig brother/sister, it's good for them. But if worry about the age problem,you might just get pregnant right after the first one comes out.

i guess it depends on how young the mother is and how eager she is to have children hehe, I used to think that I want my kids to have a few years gap so that the older kid can help me with the second baby, and if money is an issue, then it is more practical to save more money again before getting pregnant for the hospital bills, diapers, school, etc. but for mommies out there who are nearing menopausal, they should hurry and make more babies now than later :-)

Congratulations on your current pregnancy. I hope that you will have a superb birthing experience. In just a few months you will be meeting your dear little baby. I know a lady that was 39 when she had her baby girl and she got pregnant 3 months later and had her baby boy when he was 40. That timing isn't the ideal for a lady's body but at least she had two children. I think it wouldn't be wise to get pregnant for at least six months preferably a year after having a baby. It takes time for the body to recover. Having a baby and a toddler is hard work but it gets easier in the future and they have each other for company.

I had my two eldest sons just eighteen months apart they are now 15 and 17 and are good friends they get on really well. They also have the same group of friends because they are so similar in age. It was hard work having two in nappies at the same time. But when they were younger they would keep each other amused and play together. Good Luck with your baby I hope all goes well for you.

im in my second pregnancy now and i got pregnant in june and i just had my daughter in febuaury. and trust me it wasent the smartest decision because its kinda hard to keep chasing a one year old that just started to learn how to walk. and she loves to be carried and its kinda hard with my belly. so i think its better to wait. but if you dont have much time to have kids then hey go for it.

Hi Spoiled311, i am 33 years old and for now , still waiting to have a baby. I'm glad that you will be a mother soon. And for me, i don't see any problem if i will have a baby after having one since i will race on my age. In our age, we should be having baby now before we reach older age like 40. It will be difficult for us to give birth too if we are 40. And the doctors would also tell us the same. But if you think that you would pause first, before trying for another baby, well that's you and your husbands' decision. Because a gap of one year before having a baby is likewise healthy.