letter to my huaband

Writing a letter is a good way to express yourself especially if you cannot express it as calmly as possible. But then I would advice you to loosen up your being jealous at all times because it is not healthy anymore if you would continue being like this. Trust is also an important factor in a relationship if you are jealous it also means you do not trust your husband anymore which could also mean you don't love him too. So I guess a balance of those two would work, jealousy is a good thing as you've said but always in moderation too much is very bad already. Always trust that he will do good in dealing with other person.

Hello meggiehan! I also did that everytime my husband and I have some little arguments. I sent him an email saying sorry (because most of the time it's me who initiated it) hehehehe..I also got jealous but like you, it only means how much I love him. The only problem is that we are away and we are both scared that because of some arguments we might leave each other and cut our communication.

I don't often get jealous. There's no point really, you're only torturing yourself, as nine times out of ten, there's nothing to be jealous about. Sometimes though, the warning bells go off in my head, and I too am very sensitive. If I sense there's something more than friendship, or family love, then yes, I will get jealous, but I don't stay jealous for long, I sort out the problem and get that "other" person, the heck out of my life! lol. Brightest Blessings.

Just don't let your jealousy go overboard. My husband was jealous of every guy I ever knew or talked to. He was so paranoid jealous that he finally left me because in his paranoia and jealously convinced himself that I wanted to be with someone else when I only wanted to be with him. I think writing your husband is a good idea, if he reads them. Communication is the key, see I didn't know my husband felt like he did until it was too late. If he had told me maybe we could have worked something out instead of him filing divorce papers which he did in Jan.

..jealousy will always be a part of a relationship between husband and wife.. It is a symbol of love between them.. I myself feel jealous at times when my husband give important attention to somebody other than me. However, jealousy should be controlled in a way that our partners will not feel that we are holding them by their neck.. we are all human and we have the capacity to admire things which are pleasing to our eyes.. Lesson also for husbands, they have to be sensitive to their wife's feelings since we are the sensitive type.. we needed understanding from them.. to manage jealousy well, husband and wife should help each other.. In cases where the husband needs to admire something or someone, he must know how to talk that out to his wife in a way that his wife will not feel uncomfortable. Jealousy is one of the most causes of family break ups.. it needs to be managed well.

I heard lots of psychologists in television shows advising the viewers to write things first before squaring it out with their partners. Somehow, writing things down helps people sort our their minds and dissipates the anger and too much emotions. So for a change @meggiehan, try to vent your jealousy and anger in paper before you face your husband. It might help you control your anger. Do continue writing your letter of apology each time you wronged your husband. I know how hard it is to say "I am sorry" but I do hope though that next time, you can tell your husband directly how sorry you are.

Hi meggiehan! I do agree with you that we all feel jealous one way or another. And sometimes, when we feel jealous we can't really speak so calmly and writing him a letter is a very good way for you to tell him how you feel. That is very good communication and we all know that communication is very important in a relationship. Opening your heart through a letter to your husband will help in making your relationship with your husband stronger and smooth sailing. I, too usually writes him a letter or a short note just to tell him how I feel. Take care and have a great day! lovelots..faith

Open communication is for me the best way to keep the marriage work. it is good that you let your husband know how you feel through letters. It is better that way than keep on nagging about being jelous of somebody. Stay happy and God bless.

I have never understood why people are jealous. I think they are insecure, else why would they want to be the only one in someone's life? You have to trust your husband and be friends with the other people in his life.

Letters are another form to express our feelings towards a person. If you can not say it to the person it is preferable to write it and let the person read it. This will also not lead an argument if the letter is saying that your angry.

Hi, Nice to know,U r jealous and U've reasons to be jealous--as U Love Ur hubby so intensely.I am sure he loves u dearly too and accepts Ur jealousy as 'compliment'. Now,about me--will you believe if I say,"I,(though a male)speak the LAST WORD?"Yes,believe me...I do repeat what she says in the last,for last 30 years!hehe... =Lahiri,Kolkata,india.

I think a certain amount of jealousy can be a natural, instinctive reaction and it exists in animals as well as humans. I don't believe it is a problem until you become suspicious of your partner over every little thing, basing your judgement of situations on what might happen instead of what really is happening. Believing your partner, unless there is real proof that he is lying, is the key to a happy relationship.