Accepting an excuse or an explanation.

It works both ways for me Alok. In case of my close ones, family or friends I would go to the crux of the matter and make their lives hell until they confess the truth. Its more about telling me the truth than being apologetic. And then, I would let go. Its up to the person then and his wish. Sometimes actions speak louder than words and even when he person does not apologise his action speaks about it. I would be normal again. On the contrary, in job place or in professional atmosphere, I rather not ask for explanation. I would maintain the decorum and decency and would let the person know through my attitude and gestures that I am unhappy.If he come forward to give an explanation, he is most welcome but most probably I would behave in an extremely professional way. May be await his written apology. Having said this, I have never been into practical experience as of now so this is based on assumption.

I want to be very frank Alok.I hate excuses and explanations. I can readily accept an apology.I am sorry I have done a mistake will do.A person who believes that he can get away with excuses is a pain .He never learns and always is at the look out for excuses.And who need s the excuses and explanations which is taxing on us and our timeour time.

I think we can feel when a person's explanation/excuse is acceptable. So, if I feel his sincerity then I will accept his excuse.

Hi alokn! I accept the explanation if it make sense and if I can see sincerity with the person. But I guess, sometimes it is hard to tell if the person is sincere, specially if you don't know them well.

Well, though I never expect something from anyone but as it is concerned with one or two dearest ones, I dont want any explanation/apology for something bad they do to me, just if they say sorry for that, I am all right, Mutual understanding is very important in relations. I dont let anything come in between. What about you...

I easily accept excuses and explanation. It really doesn't matter to me if you wrong me now but what i expect from you later is the change your going to commit after the explanation you provided.

I find explanations alright, as long as they are true and honest, and not made up. To me excuses mean something is just making up a fake explanation to escape something. Many times, I have had hard things hit me on and off like dominos since the year 1999 things went downhill more and more in my life... goes up a little down more... People do not understand or want to accept my explainations because one my life is weird, or two they do not believe my family and living situation ever got as bad as it did.. three they think I make things up because I seem to have the X-Files director had to have paired up with G-d to write my life that is how bizarre it is... So, my simple true explainations often are people yelling at me for making up lies,excuses, and bullstuff... But, I am sorry I had not had the pleasure to have a normal life like others but since I do not.. I am done giving explainations to anyone who starts the line out. "Don't make excuses" .. - DNatureofDTrain

I have 2 different attitudes to things like this actually. The first being related to work and the second in regards to my personal life. I am far more tolerant of excuses in my personal life than I am at work! When it comes to personal situations, my level of tolerance is generally directly influenced by the level of sincerity behind the apology or excuse. If there's a lack of sincerity, then I have practically no patience at all to be honest. As for work, well my approach and subsequent attitude here is quite straightforward really. For example, I will discuss a particular task with a team or an individual and will then ask THEM when they expect it to be finished. I will then negotiate a slightly faster timeframe and seek an honest acceptance of these terms. If after all of this, they miss the deadline and then try to offer excuses and/or apologies, then the proverbial crap pretty much hits the fan! I believe my approach is very fair, so if they have made a committment then I expect it to be realized. After all, it's THEM that have given me the original timeframe and not me forcing one on them, so there's really no reason at all for excuses!

I do not expect apologies or explanations but do accept them when they do arise. Life is not a discrete place where if something happens then anything else can't and that is why we may come across things that are not as we wanted them to be but are there and we have to do with them.

I prefer an explanation, I like honest people and even if the explanation won't be a nice things to hear I still prefer to know it. I am not OK only with an excuse because I can't understand the point and if I don't know the reason I can't accept the excuse.

Hi, To answer your question,myself do not encourage accepting excuse.When one thing is accepted to deliver,excuse of not delivering it within time-frame is an excuse only.Which is not acceptable.We may analyse the 'genuine reason'(sudden sickness/accident etc),if any, later and accept apology for the same.But if it happens frequently,then again it is 'excuse'.You can derive which is an excuse and which not, from your experience and attitude of ur people u r dealing with. =Lahiri,Kolkata,India.

i think there's no ever enemy. If he or she is kind from their heart. sometimes, they do just for youself. But they adopted the wrong ways, perhaps deviated from you, you may get irrated. At the satat, you need get angry with them, but i believe you will get smooth after some days. if one alway oppose with you, he/she is helping you superficially, in fact, she is opposing you.i think I can't accept this kind of excuse.