Do you feel sometimes that you wasted time with your friends?
By n30wing
@n30wing (4767)
Philippines
February 17, 2009 8:43am CST
I have some friends who are seeking advice to me, they usually poll and consider a few point of view before making up their minds. Well I am flattered that when my friends trust me enough to want my opinion. So when I see them not have acted on my words I just feel I wasted my time, but I also realized I just give them my opinion, and it is not a command to obey, and just contributed only solution to their problem. It's a take it or leave it, it's just up to them. Good night!
3 responses
@Llonorra22 (1150)
• Philippines
20 Feb 09
I guess you're right. As friends we are just here to guide them and not to command on what they need to do.
@janelacson (200)
• Philippines
20 Feb 09
I do sometimes feel like I wasted my time with them if they did not appreciate my presence but in terms of troubles, I am just there to listen to them, give them advice and share my insights. I have no right to make any decisions for them, they will still decide for themselves. I just want them to know that I will always be around for them especially in times of sadness and I hope that the will be also when I need them.
@n30wing (4767)
• Philippines
20 Feb 09
Hi my friend jenellacson, well for me I can listen to my friends, I can only suggest, cause I know they have their own life to make. But when they need me I am always there to support them. It's what is a friend for right! You take care! Keep on smiling! God be with you!
@daneg33 (1128)
• Canada
17 Feb 09
I think the problem is that many people just want an "ear" to listen to their problems. If you offer them a solution, they don't really want to hear that, am I right? I think they just need to vent and you are unfortunately in the "line of fire", but sometimes that is what good friends do best - just listen. Offering advice in those cases is not really needed. Sometimes they ask for your advice, but if it isn't what they want to hear, they won't take your advice.
@n30wing (4767)
• Philippines
18 Feb 09
Hi daneg33, well they ask for solutions, I don't just mind their business when they don't ask me for an advice. I rather just listen then telling my opinion and solutions to their problems, but it's up to them to take it or leave it! Have a nice day to you!
