Do you listen or do you inturpet?

I am a listener, and make a conscious effort to listen, because sometimes it can be quite hard, and you are right we can have a tendency to interrupt. I really hate it when people interrupt me when I haven't finished what I want to say. So often I will stop and give them "that look" which indicates that I think they have been rude. Then they realise that they weren't listening and often apologise and ask me to finish. I don't think it hurts to remind people that we need to listen. Not only is it polite, but it also aids good communication so that the job gets done right in the end, even if it does take a little longer. :)

Being a good listener is really important. I have to own up to sometimes helping people when they appear to be struggling for words. But the way to prove you have been listening is to respond appropriately, and show interest by asking relevant questions. You can also regurgitate what has been said to you to make sure you have understood the other party properly. It isn't always about listening to people who want advice. Often it is more about taking an interest and getting excited alongside them. I really do think that being a good listener means you have to do more than just listen. Then life becomes more interesting too.

I've always been a listener. I guess it's in my nature. I was born under the sign of Libra so it's one of my birth traits to listen and advise, and to try to make things balance. Therefore, a lot of people seek me out when they want to talk, or get something off their chest, because they can't talk to others. I've heard some amazing stories in my time, and have been asked for advice by several. However, I listen to the end of their story, think awhile, and then deliver the advice. I don't like to interrupt people... it's rude, and I think, a little selfish. I asked a couple of people why they chose me to talk to, and they told me that I have an aura around me, giving them the impression that I won't "judge" them. Fair dos... I'm happy with that! :) Brightest Blessings.

Hey pat! I sometimes am guilty of only half listening and half skipping to the end of the story! I do have a bad habit of doing that because everything that I do I do very quickly! I just am that way and can't help it! I work fast, walk fast, talk fast, move fast and I guess sometimes I listen fast too! I don't mean to be like that it is just in my nature! I can't seem to slow down! I guess it's good that I am a New Yorker since that's how everything here is done!

I am a listener for sure! I do know someone that when your talking to them they try to jump in and finish what your going to say..lol..drives me crazy. She's really nice and I don't think she even realizes she does it. It's like she does it so that you know she understands you.

I am a Listener by far. People are always coming to me for advice. With some people, Its always the same problem so I know what they are going to say before the even open their mouth. The bad thing about being a listener at least from my expirence, is that you have no one that returns the favor.

This has been driving me crazy, Pat. We teachers have been well-trained in "active listening," which involves constantly interrupting to encourage the speaker. It's so rude! I try to overcome it, especially outside the classroom. My husband told me one day that he was surprised that someone so quiet wouldn't let anyone else talk without interruption when we were with a group of friends. I want to listen. I love to listen. I need a big clip to hold my mouth shut!

hello savypat i always try to be a good listener when somebody is talking to me. and then when that i listen to what that they have to say, then i will respond back to them. sometimes thou, it is very difficult to refrain from saying anything when another is talking to me, and i do have to interput their conversation with me sometimes due to me not understanding what they might be trying to explain to me or to tell me or something like that. i have both kinds of friends that either will listen to me, or stop me before that i can finish what that i was trying to say to somebody. and i have never heard of the saying, the faster we work, play and live the less we listen. and i try not to find that in myself, which it is sometimes and i also find that in other's as well. take care and have a beautiful evening.

I try to listen to others. But there are some people that I tend to turn my listening button off on. They call me on the phone and talk for hours. I can't say anything about myself, just yes or no what they're saying. So I tune out and make the obligatory umm noises and work on housework. I hate doing that, but I just can't concentrate while they keep going on about the same things. The other people I listen to and try to understand what they're not saying besides just the words. I'll ask questions to try to get to the bottom of what's bothering them.

I do like to listen to others before arriving at any conclusion.I try not to anticipate the rest of the statement as much as possible. However, in some cases the rest of the statement is obvious so even if I do anticipate, I do not interrupt the speaker in between. I feel it is not the right way to interact with people. Even if one anticipates the rest of the statement, one can always learn about a new way of putting forward the same thing, as the way the speaker puts it forward might differ from the way we have anticipated it to be. I mean.. I hope you get what I am trying to say.. Happy mylotting!

For the most part, im a good listener. I have a tendency to sometimes get a little ahead of myself soemtimes though. It is usually just to show that i understand what the person is saying by giving one of my own opinions or experiences on what the conversation topic is about. I think that is just how i was raised though because if you didnt get your two cents in soon, in a minute, the conversation would change with no warning. Very "speak asap or forever hold your peace" lol.

I have a problem that sometimes while listening I have a tendance to interupt its not intenional or on purpose its just that it happens I be thinking a thought while listening and dont want to forget what i want to say so I blurt it out

I am a listener, but I have found that the more you listen, the less YOU are heard. The people who come to me to vent...get advice...tell stories...etc....talk so much that I get tired of listening. This is a recent thing. The time has come now that I need someone to listen, but I have surrounded myself with talkers!!!!!! I can't get my thoughts, concerns or feelings into the conversation because they are concerned with me listening to them! Does that make any sense?

I am a good Listener as far as suggestions are concerned. When some statement is not true or it is incorrect then I may interrupt that person.

it depends who i am talking to. some people dont know when to shut up. u have to interrupt to get ur say or contribute ur opinion on the subject. i usually listen before i talk because most people dont talk that much.

I try to listen when it seems like someone is just trying to get something out or something off their chest. I will intervene if we are having more of a discussion or something like that but I think that talking has to be equal parts of both people giving and receiving.

Very true! We are becoming more and more impatient with everything because everything else is so fast. We don't even have time to communicate anymore.

my friends & all always use to tell me that i am a very good listener. And i believe that listening someone at any given time gives a peace of mind & belongingness. i appreciate to listen to them completely & then only start speaking something as the time demand.

I tend to be a good listener most of the time but there are times where I cut people off in the middle of the conversation. I will do my best to improve on this category as well as others and try to eliminate all my bad habits.

I know I have a problem with this. I have a hard time listening when I am being told something that I do not want to hear. That is the true test of how good a listener you are. It is easy to listen when you are being told something you agree with.