Who do you add as friends on Facebook?

@maezee (41988)
United States
February 17, 2009 12:31pm CST
What is your "policy" towards adding new friends on Facebook? Do you accept everyone who adds you as a friend, or do you make sure you actually are friends with the person you're adding? Do you add friends-of-friends and associates that you only know to a certain extent? A lot of people I know will add just about anyone to increase the number of friends they have (like it's some sort of "popularity contest"). I personally don't like doing this & I personally feel like the cliche "Quality over Quantity" definitely applies to this situation. I personally like to have at least MET the person who I'm adding (or is adding me) rather than just blindly accepting their request. What about you?
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@yanachka (30)
• United Arab Emirates
17 Feb 09
Well me too, I don't get the point, you add someone you don't know and u don't even communicate, what for? I only have my friends on Facebook, or someone I know at least through chat, or someone who knows my friends (but very rarely).
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@maezee (41988)
• United States
17 Feb 09
Thanks for your response! I do that too.
• China
18 Feb 09
i can't agree with you anymore.
@maezee (41988)
• United States
13 Mar 09
What? I don't understand what you just said. You don't agree? Well, then, explain! This is a discussion after all.
@mishastar (734)
• United States
22 Feb 09
When adding friends on facebook, I only people who I actually have met and talked with face to face. I don't like to add people I don't know very well or have never met. My facebook is very personal, so I watch who I accept and decline.
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@maezee (41988)
• United States
13 Mar 09
Thanks for responding! I agree, I do the same thing as you. Happy mylotting!
@mammamuh (582)
• Sweden
18 Feb 09
Yes, this far I have done so - but it's mainly since I known them. I have some people that I've never met IRL, but since we've known each other for over 10 years from mailinglists and chats I consider them as my real friends. I have some on my lists that are siblings to friends or even cousins, some I've only want to school with for shorter times or are friends to my sister. I wouldn't say no to a person I have or have had a relationship with.
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@maezee (41988)
• United States
13 Mar 09
I do the same - I'll add online friends that I've known for a while. Why not? You trust them and talk to them (and treat them) like they're normal offline ("IRL") friends, so why not add them? It makes sense to me. Thanks for responding!
@angelia286 (2029)
• Singapore
18 Feb 09
Haha girl, the world is already a dangerous place to live in without us knowingly adding more danger into our lives. Facebook is an too open concept for me to allow just anybody to see my life and my outlook towards life. It's open to the extent that it's scary. Therefore, I usually just add people who I have know personally for quite some time. Most of my friends on my friends list are people whom I know personally and are friends with. Some are close friends who I have lost touch with for many years and managed to contact via Facebook. However, usually when strangers try to add me, they will be faced with a rejection call. Lol. I don't like the idea of being in anybodys list just so they could increase their "popularity count". I agree with you that Quality is always better than Quantity. Havings real friends on our list who genuinely care for us is always much better than having a bunch of strangers on the list. A high friend count of people who we don't know is not a way to prove how likable or how popular we are. Just my 2 cents worth. Take care!
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• Canada
17 Feb 09
Well,all the peoples on my facebook are friends or peoples i've meet through other peoples,but i know them enough to have conversation with them or at least care about them.I however don't add peoples i don't know and the only reason they want to be my friends is because i am a girl and they can see pictures of me...right.Cause some guys do that.
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@maezee (41988)
• United States
18 Feb 09
That's totally true! Or some guys just add you to try to arrange a hook up with you. Thanks for responding!
@jazz_123 (211)
19 Feb 09
I accept whoever adds me, because they have obviously added me for a purpose. However if they add me, and do not talk to me in the form of a comment or a message or something like that, then I just delete them because what is the point of them being on my contact list? The same concept of mine applies to other social networking sites such as myspace. I don't neccessarily feel that I need to meet the person in order to accept them, because it's just a social networking website, but I can see how people have that point of view.
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@maezee (41988)
• United States
13 Mar 09
Nice. Thanks!
@sacmom (14192)
• United States
18 Feb 09
I've only added family members so far. But I would be more than happy to add people I have known or at least went to school with. But I won't add anyone just for the sake of adding them, like I do on here. I just don't see the point.
@maezee (41988)
• United States
18 Feb 09
I don't see the point either. =/ Thanks for responding!
@shamsta19 (3224)
• United States
18 Feb 09
I have used Facebook over the last year to reconnect with long lost family and friends. For the most part everyone on my friends list are people I know personally. It is a kind of personal site for me and I only like my friends to see whats going on anyway. It's not really about how many friends I have like on Myspace or something but I guess it depends on what purpose you have the site to begin with. I use Myspace to promote my music and encourage anyone to add me as a friend.
@maezee (41988)
• United States
18 Feb 09
Thanks for responding! I agree..It depends on what your intent is. For example, your intent on Myspace (Music) is to spread your music around and have people listen to it, so therefore it IS a popularity contest..But on Facebook, it just doesn't make sense.
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• Egypt
17 Feb 09
I Only add people I know in real life, or sometimes, I use facebook to shop (clothes and accessories) so I would add the seller so I have access to his/her latest news
• Egypt
19 Feb 09
it's usually branded clothes and accessories brought from Europe or USA , so the person (usually a girl) make a group and put picture with the size and price of the item if you like it you tell her and go pick it up from her place or she could send it to you via courier. OR Some other people put up pictures for stuff from the shop they intend to buy from and if someone like something they'd ask for it and pay 50% of the price and when she comes back she gives them the item and take the rest of the money. I don't think this kind of shopping exists except in Egypt, because most online shops don't deliver internationally and also there is no paypal in Egypt
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@maezee (41988)
• United States
18 Feb 09
I've never heard of shopping on facebook! How does that work? Thanks for responding btw!
@ljbinkop (744)
• United States
17 Feb 09
I absolutly DO NOT accept everyone who asks for my friendship on Facebook! I think it is a great site for keeping in contact with people you know fairly well, actually, but not a really great site to GET TO KNOW people. I know personally I put a lot of personal things on my Facebook page, and really don't want just anyone looking a them. These days I am quite careful of what I do put on the site and MySpace, because I realize that nothing you put out there on the Web is truly private and that scares me a little...
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18 Feb 09
Hi, I get people adding me and they don't know me but I don't accept. I have a few people who I accepted that I don't know but thought I knew. I have been thinking of removing them because what is the point? Now I check if I know them because they might be from my infant school who I forgot. I have so many photos of my kids on facebook I don't like strangers looking at my photos. Thanks for the reminder as I am going to look through my friends list and remove anyone I don't know now.
@maezee (41988)
• United States
18 Feb 09
That's true. You never know who these people might be! Thanks for responding, btw!
@daneg33 (1128)
• Canada
18 Feb 09
I have had some requests from people I do not know on Facebook. What I generally do is block them and deny their request. I have no desire to be a friend with some guy in the US I have never seen/met. I think about the fact that I have a lot of personal stuff posted on my profile and I also think about who is viewing it. My profile is on very limited view to everyone who is not my friend, so they need to become my friend to see everything. Sometimes I will put a person on a limited profile view even though they are in my friends list, for example, my mother. I don't want her to see every detail about my life. As far as this site goes, (MYLOT), I think it is a different situation, because your profile does not contain such personal information, plus you are engaging in discussions and the more people that read them, the better (in my opinion).
@maezee (41988)
• United States
18 Feb 09
Thanks for your response! I like the "limited profile" idea but I haven't yet figured out how to do it. =/
@maezee (41988)
• United States
13 Mar 09
Sweet! Thanks for the info! I'm thinking about doing the same for some of my relatives who have facebooks; it's just better that way.
@huxen69 (118)
• India
18 Feb 09
I do add people, but not to increase my count number. But once you add them i guess you can talk and become friends hehe,I add freinds-of-friends a lot of time.But then the it's kinda messy also with lots of friends hehe.
@maezee (41988)
• United States
18 Feb 09
It is! It's hard to keep track of if you have too many. Thanks!
• United States
17 Feb 09
I mostly add close friends, maybe class mates, since I am in college it'll be easier to communicate instead of setting up times to meet face to face. I also add online friends if I know them well enough. I don't have a lot of friends, nor do I care to have the most friends either. It's really rather idiotic to add people you don't even know.
@maezee (41988)
• United States
13 Mar 09
Yup! That's interesting that your teachers/professors have facebooks. A few of my old high school teachers have pages, but none of my college professors. That would be quite strange. lol.
@maezee (41988)
• United States
18 Feb 09
True! I'm in college too, so it's easy to arrange group-meetings and carpools on facebook.
• United States
18 Feb 09
Exactly, It's much simpler. In fact one of my teacher's has it. She's amazing by the way, and I can ask her questions and such about the next subject in the class. Since the program I'm in is so detailed I can talk to her on there when I'm not in school.
@Gesusdid (1676)
• United States
18 Feb 09
the onyl thing i have to say is to least shoot me a msg or something , because some people add u as a friend and have nothing to say , they exepct YOU to TALK to them and they requested YOU ? ! very weird and strange i must day it really doesnt make any senese to me , Y would u add me as a friend and not having anything to say . and not even on facebook lol IN REAL LIFE its a even worse senario,
@maezee (41988)
• United States
18 Feb 09
I agree! I hate when people don't message you or write on your wall after they add you, and let them know who they are! Ugh! Thanks for responding!
@eagle_f15 (1827)
• Malaysia
18 Feb 09
I don;t simply add anyone that ask for friend request in facebook , friendster or even here in myLot. In facebook I add only people I know. Most of them are my school friends of the same year or even seniors or juniors, church friends, relatives. I don't like to add people I don't know.
@maezee (41988)
• United States
18 Feb 09
Me neither. Thanks!
• United States
17 Feb 09
I totally agree with you. I only accept people I know. It is a numbers game with some people. But if you do not talk to them or know them it's like what is the point in sharing your information with them. But I totally hear you on that one.
@maezee (41988)
• United States
18 Feb 09
I like how you put it - "a numbers game". It's so true! Thanks for responding!
@cndn420 (2062)
• Canada
18 Feb 09
I never add someone I don't know or haven't met before. I never understood those people why people just add people without knowing them just for the sake of having a higher number of friends
@maezee (41988)
• United States
18 Feb 09
I don't get it either. Thanks!
@reichiru (748)
• Canada
18 Feb 09
I definitely make sure that I know that person before I add them, I've gotten requests from lots of weird people before and rejected them. It's usually those who just add everyone in their network, so half the time I go on and see that I don't even vaguely recognize the person, so what's the point of adding them? I do however sometimes add people whom I don't know, because they're part of an online store group and I need to be able to see their profiles to check out the items they're selling, thus I need to add them.
@maezee (41988)
• United States
18 Feb 09
That makes sense. Thanks!
@hahalee (28)
• China
18 Feb 09
i will add someone i know and accept everyone who wants to make friends with me^^
@maezee (41988)
• United States
18 Feb 09
But there's a difference in being "facebook friends" and ACTUAL friends. Know what I mean?