do you often feel it is what it is with life ?
By syankee525
@syankee525 (6261)
United States
February 18, 2009 7:00am CST
all my life i had nothing but hurt, sorrow and pain all through my life. i've seen hurt in my parents eyes because of my brother, felt sorrow from loosing close friends and family. i felt pain from beating growing up i gotten from others and my brother.
now i am older and it seems this much be part of my life story hurt, sorrow and pain. i see the hurt in my wife's eye that our kids not getting along that well, ad in my dad's eyes because now that same brother has nothing to do with the family and the pain i have is from my medcail issues.
i walk around refusing to be depress over all this, it does bother me but i keep a smile on my face, if it is what it is, it';s how i deal with it all, and learn to say wth.
do you often feel this is your life it is what it is? how well do you deal with it ?
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14 responses
@sharay (2769)
• India
18 Feb 09
everyone of us face these kind of situation in life, it just depends on how well we handle the situation, you said you manage to keep a smile in your face always, which is a very good sign for your bright future...as for me, i dont have a smile in my face always, whenever upset i just tend to stay calm and dont speak to many people around, i just need to be alone to analyze whatever had hapend and why it hapnd inorder to not face the same situation in my life again and defntly learn from it, so most of the times, i take it as a learning process not worrying too much, i know worrying is not going to change a thing, "time" is a good friend to me, it heals my pain and will heal your's too..just have some more hope and dont ever let that smile get off from your face
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@syankee525 (6261)
• United States
18 Feb 09
yeah i try to keep a postive outlook, often its hard specaily with the things with our kids. i grew up with it in my family, but my wife family never had to deal with it. but it seem when things are getting better then something else happens.
but i will often make fun of things or myself to ease the hurt or pain
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@azeemjz (445)
• Pakistan
18 Feb 09
Man you are passing such a difficult life. I also have such a situation when I used to escape from my college. But when the I join the university all these things get better for me. Now I am serious in studies and relations with every one improves slowly.
@sukumar794 (5040)
• Thiruvananthapuram, India
19 Feb 09
Depression,anxiety,worries form the most part in everyone's existence on this earth.It is but natural that one has to realize such hardships as part of our living.I have often felt that I am no longer needed in this world.Alas! we are but victims of the indomitable destiny.
@imaginearea (363)
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18 Feb 09
I believe it all depends on what we choose to focus on. Yes, there can be so much pain and sadness in all our lives, but I believe there is also so much pleasure and joy in our lives too...what we focus on is what we will feel. I have had a great deal of pain and sorrow in my life too, but I refuse to let my focus on those things dominate my mind. Whenever I feel that I am focusing on the pain too much I force myself to snap out of it by immediately focusing on some positive aspect of the situation. It is not always easy to do this...but I believe it is the only way to keep depression at bay. I am glad to see that you have some positive strategies in place for coping with those sad and painful moments that life brings to all of us.
@bombshell (11256)
• Germany
20 Feb 09
sorry to hear about your problem.when i was a single i was like that before lots of problems but even i depressed i still think that there is tomorrow.just like storm,after storm there is sunhsine and you should always put that in your mind and always think possitive.so now i live happily.so head up and move on.dont think all the negatives what you have now.think the possitve ways to make you alive
.dont forget also to pray.you can pray everywhere and it helps a lot.
.dont forget also to pray.you can pray everywhere and it helps a lot.
@Llonorra22 (1150)
• Philippines
20 Feb 09
I also feel that way as I respond to your discussion. Like you, I've been through a lot too. In fact, I'm a bit depress now. But we have no choice but to deal with all our life's struggles and pain. All we need to do is ask for God's help and guidance for us to surpass all our life's struggles... Good luck to both of us...
@lucy02 (5015)
• United States
19 Feb 09
I do like you and just take it one day at a time. Sometimes its hard. Unfortunately I do get depressed sometimes and upset. A week or so ago I spent almost a whole day crying over something that had happened that morning. It was almost like once I started I couldn't stop. I'm feeling better now. Maybe the crying helped.
@Denise_Tung (647)
• China
19 Feb 09
Hi. I am sorry that you had such a hard time but like what you have said, always keep a smile on your face. There are ups and downs in our life and the hard time comes, we need t have a positive attitude and a little faith. Things will be better. Well I am happy most of the time. Life is brief, haha, seems it's too early for ppl at my age to say it, but I hear it so often in movies and I guess it's true. Time flies and why keep on feeling low? Life moves on:D
@lynnemg (4529)
• United States
19 Feb 09
I think that life is what we make it. If we always focus on the bad issues and do not take steps to make things better, things will always seem bad to us. On the other hand, if we focus on the good things, such as simply being alive, life seems much better. We all go through hardships in life, and it seems like some go through more than others. I think a lot of that impresion is more because of how they look at things rather than what actually happens.
I am a firm believer that things do not change unless we make a change. I deal with hardships by not only looking at the bright side, but reminding myslf that it could always be worse.
@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
19 Feb 09
Hi, It is very sad to read about your life. But i can tell you that none of us have a perfectly happy life. The circumstances and the degree of sorrow may be different , thats all.I have had my fair(unfair? ) share of sorrows and at times have felt like ending it all ! but something just made me go on and, now i feel that it has made me a stronger person
Dont ever give up hope and try to see the bright side of life and many a times it is the simpler and smaller things in life that give us immense joy and pleasure, once we appreciate this fact it becomes easier to accept everything in life!
I wish yu the very best remember that most of us are more or less in the same situation !
@suzzy3 (8341)
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19 Feb 09
Lose your baggage losen up and stop looking so hard,try to enjoy yourself a bit more and the world will seem a happier place,I have been through many rough times in my life but being a true survivor like many others have battled on and come through the other side.You never forget what has happened to you,but you end up dealing with it in a better way,and beleave it or not the memories do fade enough to move on in life.replace all those bad thoughts and memories with happy ones, take care love suzzy3xx
@Imsocool (19)
• United States
19 Feb 09
I understand you deeply. Find something that interest you or inspire you, it can be the littlest thing. Its hard to deal with hurt in your life while your rasing a life now. WAIT!!! that's it.. Your rasing children and you have a wife that needs you unconditionally see thru them and find peace within to guide you. if you have to search for belief do so, but know that you dont want to repeat the life you had and pass it on. Life is a bunch of fun and games, ups and downs, in and out. I met a guy one time who let out all his bad past out to me and he didn't even know me. The thing he said stuck with me and it was so simple, here it is. If you do the best you can then nothing else matters.
