Do you treat lying as cheating?

@mermaidivy (15394)
United States
February 18, 2009 7:21am CST
I have found my hubby lies a lot, it makes me feel he does bad stuff when I am not around. :-(... And I don't if there is any other stuff he is lying to me...
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5 responses
• Egypt
18 Feb 09
Personally I do that if someone lies to you then he is basically cheating you, because he's misusing your trust. I can't stand liers,
@mermaidivy (15394)
• United States
18 Feb 09
Everytime when he lies, I feel like I am being cheated and he acts like nothing happened... gets me very upset. I hate liars too and he promised he won't lie again but... liar is a liar, he will still lie...
@mermaidivy (15394)
• United States
18 Feb 09
makes my faith to her is fading away...
• Egypt
18 Feb 09
don't wanna sound like am butting in! but it's seems like a very unhealthy relationship for me. Trying to find out why does he lie soo much and try to get him help if he needs it.
• United States
18 Feb 09
Well that is a tough one. I would have to say that for me cheating and lying fall into the same category. I think if a person is prone to lying to a loved one then they are cheating themselves and you. I was in a marriage for years where my spouse was lying to me on a regular basis and then I found out the worst...he was lying about a woman he was seeing. I don't know if it is like which came first...the chicken or the egg but I do think that eventually it can be very distructive. Have you tried to ask him about it or tell him how you are feeling?
@mermaidivy (15394)
• United States
18 Feb 09
I knew he lied and I said can you promise not lie to me anymore but he is still doing the same thing. I don't want to repeat to say stuff like that and he is not promising it... I feel like cheated!
• United States
18 Feb 09
Maybe you need to sit down with him and explain to him that when he lies that is puts doubt in your head and doubt is never a good thing in a relationship. After all how are you supposed to feel love and trust if he isn't being honest with you. Let him know that by continuing to lie he is just giving you more reasons to doubt and suspect things not to mention how much it hurts you.
@22angel22 (450)
• United States
18 Feb 09
I've caught my husband in a few lies. None of which are extremely important. I think some of them were to "get" me before we got serious. I love him and trust him. I know he would never cheat on me.
@mermaidivy (15394)
• United States
27 Feb 09
Thank you for your response! :-)
@krajibg (11922)
• Guwahati, India
18 Feb 09
IT would have been better if you had given a detail of the behavior of your hubby. As long as you are not sure you have to rely on doubts only and doubts lead to misunderstandings. better be open and ask him what actually he does and why he lies before you. It will coo the situation and your relation would get a boosting. Besides telling lies does not mean cheating. Both are different in their applications.
@mermaidivy (15394)
• United States
18 Feb 09
When I say stuff to him, he either says" blah blah blah" or have a deaf ear, I hate it. So sometimes I just let go and forget it...
• India
18 Feb 09
If you are sure that he is into bad stuff then I think it is cheating. Try to catch him red-handed someday and then demand an explanation.