Being widow is a great curse in our country

India
February 18, 2009 5:19pm CST
Hello everyone here Ji, After seeing a serial last night, I am very much tempted and excited to express myself about great draw-backs about this tardditions and cutoms. It is a great curse to be widow, they are out-casted from society. Let's look behind for this system. For more Log On : http://www.indianchild.com/sati_in_india.htm Sati is the practice through which widows are voluntarily or forcibly burned alive on their husband's funeral pyre. It was banned in 1829, but had to be banned again in 1956 after a resurgence. There was another revival of the practice in 1981 with another prevention ordinance passed in 1987 (Morgan 1984). The idea justifying sati is that women have worth only in relation to men. This illustrates women's lack of status as individuals in India The History Behind Sati Sati, the wife of Daksha, was so overcome at the demise of her husband that she immolated herself on his funeral pyre. Sati was the consort of Lord Shiva. She burnt herself in fire as protest against her father, Daksha did not give her consort Shiva the respect she thought he deserved Sati in the Modern times In general, before this custom was outlawed in 1829, there were a few hundred officially recorded incidences each year. The efforts of Raja Rammohan Roy and other Hindu reformers greatly impacted the movement to outlaw this practice. Even after the custom was outlawed, this custom did not vanish completely. It took few decades before this custom almost vanished, In 1987 an eighteen years old widow, Roop Kanwar, committed Sati in a village of Rajasthan The 'Sati' version is that Roop told her father-in-law she wanted to commit Sati. Roop was forced to commit Sati. The case went to court, but no one was charged with her murder. Even in the year 2000, you hear about Sati occurring in rural villages. Please opine. may god bless you and have a great time.
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5 responses
@krajibg (11922)
• Guwahati, India
23 Feb 09
Hi! The account you have upheld is good for the outsiders. But the overall scenario has improved a lot. Barring some states the widows are quite aright today. Particularly in the north -eastern part of the country widows never suffered like that in the past either. now they are getting remarried nor have to be within white apparel. This is in UP. MP, Rajasthan and the interior of Bihar that the condition is not so satisfying.
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• India
23 Feb 09
Hello my friend krajibg Ji, So nice for your response and confirming that Eastern part of our country is fairely much better. Women have better career prospectus and people respect them It sounds really great. But it again becomes our duty to eradicate this problem in other Northern states of our country. May god bless you and have a great time.
@shenqixu (130)
• China
23 Feb 09
Being widow is a great course for the human all over the world. The stupid ceremonies and customs like Sati, exist for a long time in our human history, different countries,different tmes. Even now, they are still practised in some rural places.It is pity and miseralbe for our human..It is more unfortunate for the people living in that times and societes. We should not forget this miserable history and never let these stupid ceremonies revive again.
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• India
23 Feb 09
Hello my friend shenqixu Ji, So nice of you to join my views and finding sme solutions to eridicate this problem. But, is it at your country , China as well. I understand your sincere feelings. One must never encourage these practices. Why the word, 'Widow' came into existance at all. may god bless you and have a great time.
@lilaclady (28207)
• Australia
18 Feb 09
This is awful, it is easy to see all the traditional books and I would say even religious books were all written by men, its disgusting that men have managed to put themselves in such high places..thank heavens women are standing up and giving it back to them..how dare men through time have tried to make women so belittled to keep them in a place they want them...all women should stand up and be heard...
• India
18 Feb 09
Hello my friend lilaclady Ji, So nice of your positive tresponse . You are very much right that more than men, we women are responsible, under the laws, no body can force us. Then why to think about that, it is time that we all join together and root it out. may god bless you and have a great time.
@riyasam (16556)
• India
19 Feb 09
i do agree,there are very bad customs in our ccountry,which leads to womens downfall.from centuries together women are being downtrodden in india.i think education is the key to eliminating such practices and would give the women some self-confidence.
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@anne25penn (3305)
• Philippines
18 Feb 09
It is very sad and disturbing that women are held in low regard after losing their husbands, who I know are also from arranged marriages. This system or belief has to change since it is no one's fault or desire to lose someone they love, or their partner in life. i know of some cultures on how they deal with widows, but I have only learned now with your post about Sati.
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• India
18 Feb 09
Hello my dear anne25penn Ji, So nice of you for your positive response. System requires sea-change and as a women, we must help to eredicate totally. may god bless you and have a great time.