Hostel life: I am already sure of one thing

That's too bad, it sounds like many of the other residents are pretty immature. What they don't realise it that in disrespecting women like that, they're really disrespecting their sisters, mothers and future wives. Are all of the other residents going to the same classes that you are? Hopefully you have others to make friendships with. Just remember: To thine own self be true.

Hi coolmailraj, Well that is the way of the world today, I'm sorry to say but you just have to ignore all this and get on with what ever you are doing, don't let them put you off, you are not the same as them and its their problems not yours and I don't think girls respect them too. Tamara

It doesn't sound like a good place at all. I don't envy you, but I hope things get better.

Well infact some people enjoy living that hostel life. But I think it is just a bad day and not really bad hostel life.

In life we have to go through many unpleasant experiences, just look for the lessons to be learned. If you get your mind set on that you will find some interesting things and overlook most of the unpleasant parts.

I feel so bad for you that you hate where you are staying. When you mentioned that you were staying in a hostel in a previous discussion I related to the fun times I had when I lived in one while I was travelling. I am now aware that you are not having a great time at all; I'm sorry, I hope your stay there won't be too long. I am impressed that you are appalled by all the "boy talk" in there. It shows that you must be a very decent young man. It must be tough, ignore the guys talking and be glad you are not like them, hang in there and I hope you can live elsewhere soon.

I am so sorry that you are having such a hard time about all this.

If a person has self-control and is determined that he will not spoil his/her character, no one can make him/her like that. You can have other activities like computing, reading books etc which will keep u busy and at the same time you can attract other boys to such activities, encourage them for online earning etc, that will help u change the atmosphere there. Good Luck !!

hi coolmairaj...that would be very miserable for most females. wish there were a nicer place for you to stay. hope you don't have to stay too long. try to think of better things. try to keep your mind occupied with good thoughts. find things of interest and fascination to occupy your mind with. i'll pray for you. best wishes.

now, so many young people like to have their night outside----in the hostle, maybe it is not the boy cheat the girl, the girl herself is willing to have such a night.

Sounds like a hell of a place to live.you don't say why you ended up there,did you fall out with parents,in which case make up quick and say sorry even if you are not the one in the wrong,or maybe you are at school and cannot get home everynight.Young men have a vivid imagination and make a lot up, to make them look more of a man,big mistake,buy ear plugs and a good book,choose your friends wisely and don't take to much notice of all the bragging, and stay away,you don't want to catch something nasty,and more fool the girls for going back with them to the hostel rooms they don't have to,even if you listened in at the girls hostel it won't be much different I suppose.

Well, i've been through this experience and, yeah boys will always talks about girls and things associated with girls. My advice is to you is that, 1st of all it's ok being part with your family - it's a way to experience having to started to live on your own. It's also a way to self-discipline yourself, learn to make self-judgement and seek your own path and destination. 2nd of all, you cannot avoid this stuff. Its everyway - even in workplace you can hear men talks about ladys and how they make love with them (Believe me - sometimes it's worse than hostel life!). All you got to do is be an open-minded, if you can ignore them, then ignore them. If not, try to understand these boys (Although sometimes i find that boys always talking. I think you'll find a good, suitable friends in hostel, and after a while i believe you will see hostel life in a different way. Good luck to you.