understanding loving husband
By amy1999
@amy1999 (13)
India
February 18, 2009 10:37pm CST
how do you try to understand your husband who is completely in love with you and your perfect man, as any one would admire. my husband loves me very much but its me who at times feel that he does'nt love me maybe he is just pretending just because we need to be close as a family with two children. he is suffering from a rare eye problem called ocular myasthania gravis. i just don't know but he is still not mature sort of, that he has responsibilities to see to his family. he likes to entertain his friends, be spendrift, does'nt spend quality time with me or the children. which is according to me. and just by saying i love you is not true. he does'nt like to share things with me most of the time, i have to dig into him to get to know about any thing,overall we don't plan our things. there seems to be a chaos. can someone help me to understand things here? or is he really sick. or guide me some tips should i say.
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@ellen_mom (174)
• United States
19 Feb 09
My husband also is immature and likes to hang out with his friends instead of being at home with me. I just take it that he is like that. He had a rough childhood and he has some issues, but I love him, and he puts up with my nagging and OCD tendancies in the kitchen (Don't make a mess in my kitchen...that would be bad)
Maybe, because of his vision problem, he is stressed out, and needs the time with his friends to make himself feel more normal. There are agencies that help people cope with vision loss, including counceling. Contact the National Federation of the Blind in Baltimore Maryland for local help. I used to work for the Idaho branch and they were really great. I know he is not actually losing vision, but it does cause involuntary eyelid movement and double vision, so I am sure they would have resources for him.
@Anora_Eldorath (6028)
• United States
19 Feb 09
Husbands are odd creatures. Ok, not really. It's called communication. That's the first thing to understand, and develop in a relationship. Men do not communicate in the same way we women do. Men don't want to get all touchy feely with feelings. It's not their thing. They tend to show by doing. In speaking with him, you may have to give him the choice of sharing or not. If he does share, don't be quick to answer with your solution. Men are problem solvers.
In terms of his spending habits, you may just have to be honest. If he's over-drawing your bank account make him do the bills. He'll learn quick enough not to do it.
I hope that helps a bit. Namaste-Anora
