Starting over....and an update
By Ravenladyj
@Ravenladyj (22902)
United States
February 19, 2009 7:29am CST
First off thanks to everyone who replied to my thread about my bf's suicide attempt...Your replies and positive vibes, prayers etc were and still are greatly appreciated!!...he is still in the hospital but is now on Anti-Depressants and getting counselign every day as well as actively participating in group sessions etc..His P.O is NOT going to lock him back up which is good and we ARE goign to put in a home plan application for him to move here to N.Y with me and mine..He will be going from the hospital to a Dual Diagnosis facility and then from there we arent sure...He's taking it day by day and of course has good moments and bad which is to be expected...but so far so good...I talk to him at least once a day and as soon as I can get the money together to go visit him I will..He's realizing finally that he really DOES need to completely change his life meaning staying away from ppl he cares about BUT that are drinkers etc, he knows that he has to leave behind the negative environments and temptations but he is terrified...He is in the process of starting life completely over and goin on a road that he's never been on in his 45 yrs (no drugs, drink, riff raff types etc) and I know from personal experience that its terrifing BUT I also know that its very doable....
so to make this a discussion...here is the question
Have you or anyone you know ever had to completely change your life on all levels, start totally over and leave behind a life that was damaging and negative to you? If so how did you do it? What pointers would you give to someone who is about to take that journey..
Finally...thank you all again for replying to the other thread and showing such compassion...It really does mean the world to me and my bf.
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3 responses
@lecanis (16647)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
19 Feb 09
Hi! I apparently missed everything, because I've only been around off and on since I came back. Sorry to hear about your bf, but I'm glad that he's doing so much better. *hughug*
I've had to do it a few times, starting over. The first thing that I'd say is that you really have to cut more ties than you want to sometimes. The first time I had to really start over, I kept trying to find compromises and ways to still be involved with my old friends without messing up my new life, and I just couldn't make it happen. It took a long time and a lot of pain to learn that lesson.
Right now, I'm in need of a new start myself, so I'm not sure what else to say. *hugs*
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@moonlitmagikchild (22181)
• United States
20 Feb 09
im glad to hear he is doing good and yall are putting in for a transfer!! i have had some things in my past that i have changed completely but nothing really huge.. just attitude and outlook.. but most people i know that have gotten into some deep crap usually stay in it 
but with your strength you will get him out of it 
but with your strength you will get him out of it 
@sparkofinsanity (20471)
• Regina, Saskatchewan
20 Feb 09
Start every day looking into the mirror and smiling at yourself! I mean it. Tell yourself, "I'm worth it" and then tickle your tummy until you laugh. There's no better way to start a day than with a giggle and a good feeling. I know this advice is for your bf, but you get what I'm saying..............
I wish him and you and yours all the best Raven.
