Can you trust your spouse when they say they have changed?
By tabbys
@tabbys (78)
United States
February 19, 2009 9:03am CST
I have been with my husband for 8 years now. When we first started dating he was big into drugs and alcohol and I was more into my work. I didn't think it was going to work so we discussed it and apparently he really wanted to be with me because he said that he stopped doing what he was doing. I trusted him because he just seemed like he was telling me the truth.
After we got married 3 years later I caught him in the act at a friends house. It tore me apart, not to mention I was 5 months pregnant. It scared me for my child's safety. I left him after the baby was born. We were apart for around 4 months when he said he was finished with the drugs and alcohol. I took him back. As far as I know he has been sober every since then and he has held a steady job. He doesn't go anywhere other than work or with his brother and I am so very proud of him. I just have this little thought that is always in the back of my head about what he is doing when I am not around. I trust him but I just think about what he has done and it bothers me. What about you? Can you trust that someone who has deceived you?
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@rmuxagirl (7548)
• United States
16 Apr 09
It really depends on the man. My ex deceived me and I tried to trust him, but he kept showing me how much of a fool I was for trusting him. He kept falling back into his old habits. So I have a hard time trusting people when they tell me they have changed.
@Jezebella (1446)
• United States
16 Apr 09
I couldn't trust him either. My ex told me he changed his ways when he met me. He wasn't into other women and wanted to be with only me. But I found out he hadn't changed his ways and was actually cheating on me which hurt tremendously. I don't trust mean too easily either rmuxagirl. It's no wonder many of us women don't trust men.
