limitation of helping others

I think so. Helping others in all aspects of life have to have a limitation. It is true that there will always be happiness when we help other people, but we also need to consider our own selves when helping others. It is not always a selfish attitude when we control ourselves not to help someone in need, but we need to think first before lending our help because sometimes we never realize that you are tolerating them to be idle and dormant or perhaps they are abusing your generosity and kindness without you knowing it. I had been in a situation where i had been helping a friend of mine financially. Now that I need the money, she has many alibis. She took advantage of me lending her money easily and promised to pay me back on a certain date, but those promises were many times broken Right now, I don't want to think and believe what she says. I also have this classmates then, I was very helpful to her with respect to our paper works. Almost I did and finished everything for her to meet the deadline, but when I asked a little favor to her, she had many reasons telling me that as if she would go somewhere and that she is busy, etc. Yet, I know for a fact that she was at time in their house doing nothing. In short, when you help someone, you have to be cautious. It is in the sense that you help people who are REALLY or APPARENTLY IN NEED OF HELP. It is not wrong when you ask questions of WHAT, WHY and HOW. When you throw them questions and you see and feel that they are not telling the truth or not responsive, that means they are LYING and trying to FOOL you.