can you fall out of love with a person you been with for 25yrs.?

Hi wildcat, it happens to all of us. Sound like the affection, hugs, kisses, sitting next to one another, going for rides together, walks together, has stopped too. I can totally relate. We are married over 36 years. I think after so many years it is like an old pair of slippers, they are just comfortable. That is the way it happens in a lot of marriages. The lucky ones have marriages that still grow, ours just get stagnant. All you can do is try with what is missing, or ask him out on a date, and try hard, and see if he responds.

I think marriage counseling should be at least talked about in this situation. It will help get all the uglies up front so they can be at least dealt with. It would be hard work also to keep it afloat and going smoothly. both will have to make sacrifices that you may not want to. But for your health it is needed. The way your living is cheating each other out of living a full rounded life. That isn't a way to live. And the first you have to ask yourself, is it worth it? Then take it from there and list the pros and cons of staying or going . When the romance,love,excitement has went out of a marriage and all you have is heart aches and fights it is not good. It won't take just one of you to make it work it will take both to work and working for the same things..paddling in the same direction or you'll just end up with a sunken boat/marriage. With kids in involved it makes it harder still.

hi friend..it's a bad decision to avoid your partner...ADUSTMENT should prevail in both of you..then only life will go smoothly...anyway all the best for your future...

H[i]i wildcat, wow..this is hard! Why not talking each other to help resolve this problem..It will not be healthy for both of you. You both deserve to be happy! Anyway, I am newly wed and I know it's not a perfect relationship but we always discuss things that we are both adjusting. Communication is very open. I have heard one of my hubby's friend who is living with her hubby without love, just for the sake of the kids! I can feel how hard it is for her.[/i]