update on MOM
By Lakota12
@Lakota12 (42600)
United States
February 20, 2009 11:27am CST
well things work faster than I would think all prayers that wnet out yesterday seemed to have worked a miricle as I got and email from my brother after I had posted.
the first one askng forprayers ,
and he said that they decided to keep her where she is for right now! as she isnt bed ridden they can still care for her.
Now just pray that she will start eatting! SHe is drinking some now. BUt she also told my brohter she wants to waste away as in answer to huis question.
So am thinking she is getting ready to go be with my dad who died in 93.
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@Darkwing (21583)
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20 Feb 09
She may just be tired of the battle my friend, but she's in the best place and you can be sure that the staff at the home will put something of substenance in her drinks if they can't get her to eat. lol. They're used to these strong-willed older people, but at least, if she thinks it's time to go, my dear friend, she will leave in peace, rather than pain.
Brightest Blessings in the hope that she continues to pick up now. It sounds as though you got your strength partly from your Mum, my friend. She'll be ok, because she knows what she wants. 
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@Lakota12 (42600)
• United States
21 Feb 09
I dont know what the staff is doing. They bring her her food but if ya cant get he to eat and drink even if they put something in it you would never know if it would help or not.
I think that is the English and welch side of her.
and she calls me stuburn lol
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@Darkwing (21583)
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22 Feb 09
I just hope she's doing the right thing for her. We have to respect these elders of ours and their decisions about their own lives, but it's so very difficult to watch it happen. I fear if she continues to refuse food and drink that she'll end up in hospital on a drip, which will put certain vitamins and such into her body in the absence of food. I do hope it won't come to that. Bless her.
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@bombshell (11256)
• Germany
20 Feb 09
in other side sounds happy and other side sounds sad.so we still keep praying for her.
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@bombshell (11256)
• Germany
21 Feb 09
hehehe Lakota
.i am sure it will change soon
.i will never let him eat during lunch.we will see how he react if he is here.but i will try to ignore his call.if we sees its from him we dont answer or i will tell that hubby needs rest.
.i am sure it will change soon.i will never let him eat during lunch.we will see how he react if he is here.but i will try to ignore his call.if we sees its from him we dont answer or i will tell that hubby needs rest.1 person likes this
@gtargirl (5376)
• United States
24 Feb 09
I hope she doesn't just waste away, Lakota. Hopefully she will start eating soon and we shall pray that her share of joy will return also. Many blessings to you and your mom. Hang in there.
@Lakota12 (42600)
• United States
24 Feb 09
Thanks so much hugs.
talking to her yestrday didnt give me much hope I think she kept putting the phone down as I would lose her and holler till she said something again.
SHe isnt very responsive.
And now they my brother sis and sister in law have to take turns going toget her ready for bed.
every night.
So this is a double driving for my brother and his wife!.
Thnaks again
@Grandmaof2 (7579)
• Canada
20 Feb 09
I agree it sounds like your mother is willing to give up her fight and as much as we hate to see our parents take their last sleep we will all have to face it. I would definately be able to handle this at my age now by just kissing her and telling her I love her and to shut her eyes, but when my dad passed away he was all I had and I was young, that was tough. About all there is left to do is keep her as comfortable as you can and let God take care of the rest. Prayers are on going for your family dear friend.
@Lakota12 (42600)
• United States
21 Feb 09
yes I know you are right but see I cant even do that. I am 500 miles away from her in the same town I was in when my dad passed away in 93 WE had come down here for hubby to work.
my dad passed away reallsudden he was to go home from the hospital that day but they kept him longer and I think they gave him to much potasium for he had a massive heart attack that night.
and I lost my hubby 4 years ago .
Oh I have been there With the deaths of almost every one I love.
@Grandmaof2 (7579)
• Canada
21 Feb 09
OMGoodness you have had more than your fair share. It's times like this a person feels so darn helpless. I will continue prayers but it seems like it's hopeless sometimes I know. I am so sorry you're doing this by yourself it's just not an easy walk in the park. What is next? What are your plans? I wish I could help.
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@Lakota12 (42600)
• United States
23 Feb 09
thanks continuing to pray for her.
as my brother said last night we have to play by ear now.
My plans for right now is to wait and see.
and I am not alone I live with my daughter we are buying the house together.aslo have grand daughter her e too that helps just watching her grow lol hugs
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@Perspectives (7131)
• Canada
1 Mar 09
I know we have been chatting personally about your mom but hearing that the prayer and energetic support for her is assisting is wonderful news.
We all know how powerful unified prayer support can be...you are a walking miracle yourself!
Your understanding of her transition shows your wise woman insight. All any of us can do is love and support our precious ones until they let go and move on to the next stage of their journey.
David and I are joining you and others in offering our love, light and support.
Hugs and much love as always,
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
1 Oct 09
hi lakota see I am responding to one of your older discussions. now I am left wondering did your mom make it through or did she'
pass on to a better world. I think I responded to this before but maybe not, if so my count will not go up but I still did keep my word to you. then again I was out in the life mess so was not even mylotting then. Hope either way you are doing well and are happy again.
@Thoroughrob (11742)
• United States
23 Feb 09
I am glad that they are leaving her there for now. It is so sad to watch them go downhill like that. With my grandma, we had to threaten to have a feeding tube put in and then she started eating. I found that when I was dealing with her, I had to treat her like one of my kids. Good luck to you.
@Lakota12 (42600)
• United States
23 Feb 09
My mom would sull up more if we tried to treat her like a kid.
and She has opt out on the feedingtube.
From what my brother said on phone last night that she is trying to drink more and they told him she had tried to eat breakfast but had thrown most of it back up.
! WE just have to play this thing by ear.
thanks for responding!
@winterose (39887)
• Canada
23 Feb 09
It does sound like that is what she is doing and if she is in her sound mind, then let pass away the way that she wants too. Give her that last control over her life.
@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
21 Feb 09
I'm sorry that I didn't get a chance to respond to your first discussion about your mom but I did just now read it. I don't quite know what to say but my prayers are with your mom. That she's starting to drink something now sounds promising, but to hear that she's kind of giving up sounds so sad. Here's hoping she recovers somehow((((hugs))))
@walijo2008 (4644)
• United States
20 Feb 09
Well I will keep on praying for her, its good to hear that she's able to stay where she is and that she isn't bedridden. I'll pray that she gets her appetite back, so she will get her strength up. Who knows, maybe she is getting ready to be with your dad, she may know something is about to happen, you just need to be strong for your family if it does, I pray that she will be ready when it does. Its never an easy thing to go through, even when we know its going to happen, we're never ready for it. I'll be praying...
@Lakota12 (42600)
• United States
21 Feb 09
Thanks so much my friend! Yup I do think she is getting ready tro go . But her goal was to make 89 years of age before she did.
dont know the reason for that.
and she will be 89 in April I told my brother to remind her of that and to get swollering her food and drink more Ensure .
