Would you let adult children move back home?

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I know this is a touchy subject to some people, but it does come up more often than you might think. I have(in the past) let my adult children move back home for a time because I wanted to help them when they needed it. Most of the time it proved to be a good experience but there was at least one that I remember was not good at all. I read on About.com some of the questions you should ask yourself before you decide whether or not to let an adult child move back home: 1. Does your child have specific plans - he wants to buy a house, pay off debts, go to grad school or find a job - that would be made possible by a dramatic, temporary change in his living situation? OR: Does he need to get his feet back on the ground after a devastating life event - a bad break-up, divorce or medical crisis? 2. Is your home and bank account large enough to accommodate your returning child? 3. Do you have a good, supportive relationship with your child? Does he visit frequently and without any particular problems? 4. Does your child respect your privacy and your needs? Can he be relied on to follow mutually agreed upon rules? 5. Are the chances of his finding satisfying full- or part-time work in your town better than where he is now? 6. Does he still have close friends in your area? Depression and loneliness are, unfortunately, common problems for the "boomerang generation." His support network needs to encompass more than his wonderful parents. If you answered "yes" to all - or nearly all - of these questions, welcoming home a returning, grown child may be a great solution for your family, particularly if you talk frankly and openly about concerns, lay ground rules ahead of time and keep the channels of communication open.