Do you think its better to have a past or not with....

i think its good to discuss it as it shows tht u have a open relationship wid them!! but at the same time they'll expect u not to scold them wen they do such things!! so in this case ur athority will b lost!! so telling them is a good idea.. and telling it in a early age is a bad one!! tell them wen u think they have matured. wht say?

Hi Artemis, It has been ages since our last chat. How are you? I am not here much because David and I have spent the last year or so revamping our business, creating a website, forum, working on the last edits of my book and a variety of other personal and business ventures. From what I recall of our last discussion you and your family were moving and I have ofter wondered how that worked out and how old you little one is now? I drop back to Mylot as time permits because I value the many wonderful friends i have made here and you are among them. I remember your interest in learning more about "light workers" and other metaphysical interests. So I thought I'd check around and see if you were still here and I am glad you are. Whew, enough of the little updates. In regard to your question even though we do not have kids of our own we do deal with these kinds of questions in our life coaching and seminars. Our position is what you tell any child depends on their age and emotional maturity. There is no hard and fast rule with anyone or anything in life because every person and situation calls for different approaches. The most important things in creating a solid relationship with anyone include some of the following: openness, trust, love, walking one's talk, respect for differences, non judgment, attentive listening and accountability. Most people have made errors in judgment along their life path. We learn by making mistakes..but if we learn something then it really isn't a failure. If parents have been involved in some of the things you present and a child is old enough and mature enough to hear the whys and hows of those experiences and what the parent deduced about them it could be an important teaching aid for the child. However, if a parent is spouting a "don't do as I do...but do as I say" philosophy it could be counter-productive. So as I mentioned...each case is different. Interesting discussion and good to be back in touch. Raia

I think a moderate background would be best. Having done some things but not others. That way you could share some experiences with them, but nothing having been wild yourself, you could encourage them to be moderate with their behavior.

That's a bit of a double edged sword. By having a past you are more eqiupped to be aware of a child's behavior and give advice as needed but on the other hand it can give them the go ahead..cause mom or dad done it.By not having done it you can set an example and advocate not doing it. But that also may add a gap between you and the child because.."you don't understand".I suppose when it boils down to it,I think it depends on how you teach them and not so much what you have or have not done.

hmm, interesting question. I'm a bit torn cause a part of me thinks it would be easier if you went through all those things but at the same time based from personal experience, my dad he had no vices. he doesnt drink nor does he smoke. and as a daughter of someone who did not do all that, I did feel the pressure of not doing those things as well. so far, so good. havent drunk, havent smoked a day in my life.