Compulsive Liars
By pinkpassion5
@pinkpassion5 (351)
February 21, 2009 11:30am CST
How do you maintain a friendship with someone who continually lies on purpose or by ommission? Once you lose the trust it is hard to maintain the friendship. Instead of people being honest especially when confronted they turn around and lay the blame on you. Then they turn around and talk about you to anyone who will listen and you get a bad name for being a bad friend.
I'm honest with my friends and when I am in certain circumstances I'm blames for not being a good friend or I'm insulting them. If you are asked a question, would you not want an honest answer or an answer to pacify them?
Dealing with liars is a struggle. Instead of being honest when confronted they end the conversation or keep on lying. Admit the truth and then the friendship may continue and get better. I can't maintain a friendship when I know they've lied over and over again about everything. Even little things that don't really matter.
Any suggestions on how to handle a friend who lies and then blames you?
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@katsalot1 (1618)
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21 Feb 09
I'm afraid I just couldn't have a friend who lied all the time. A friendship with someone like that would be pointless, well it couldn't be a friendship could it?
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@pinkpassion5 (351)
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21 Feb 09
You are right it isn't a friendship. Not one with purpose or meaning. Life is hard enough especially in this day and age. We should not have to be friends with someone who is selfish and self-centered. I have done a lot of research on this and I now find my self avoiding people like this. If you lie have the guts to own it. What my friends think of me matters therefore I don't lie to them even when I'm told I'm dishonest. I know in my heart I've been honest and I have stopped tolerating friends who don't respect me enough to be honest. There always comes a point when someone has to step back and say enough is enough. Admitting a lie to the person you lie to and moving on can and will strenghten the friendship. The constant lies just makes it more difficult to carry on with it.
They have deep issues if they feel the need to lie to everyone in their lives and they can act like they've changed. What they need to do is to prove it to the ones they have hurt.
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