hello
By mommamusic
@mommamusic (882)
United States
February 21, 2009 11:50am CST
hi to all my friends i just wanted to say hi and ask a question,do you ever feel like you are all alone,i live alone except for my dogs and bird.I feel like i am coming apart at the seams,i cry alot i work two full time jobs and one part time job.I am so tired when i get home i don't eat i read my emails and go to bed.Does any on else ever feel like this.I lost some body i cared about so much for and now i have that to deal.Can any one give me a little advice please.Thank you
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12 responses
@sandymay48 (2030)
• Canada
21 Feb 09
Hello mommamusic...I do not know your situation at all but it seems like you need to rearrange a few things. First of all, why does a single person living alone need to work 3 jobs? You dont really need to answer as its not my business, just what I am thinking to try to help. ON top of this, you mention you have dogs, meaning more than one and a bird. A lot of care for someone who works 3 jobs. I would think that working that many jobs, there must be at least one person you look forward to seeing as a friend. If not, do you block them all out for some reason?
I totally understand being too tired when you get home . I would be too and then to have to clean house, feed yourself and feed and look after all those animals. I would cry too Im sure.
Maybe you need to look at a new way to rearrange your life to make time for important things in life that would make you happy.
The loss of someone who you cared about thrown in the mix of all this is not helping the situation. Sounds like time to rethink making a new beginning
@mommamusic (882)
• United States
21 Feb 09
Well i have to pay bills house payment all of the other bills that go along with with life,yes i do block people out of my life for reason being i have been hurt way to many times,by men and friends as well i dont close to ny on or trust them.
@sandymay48 (2030)
• Canada
22 Feb 09
Hi mommamusic...sorry I took so long to respond but I was going over some of your other responses and topic answers to see if I could get an idea of what you are about so I can offer my opinion.
I was really disturbed by the article where you said everyone hates you. You stated you are outspoken and tell it like it is. Well I admire that in a person, because I never have to know where I stand. I would rather be told something outright and honest then lied to and talked about behind my back. Dont let go of that trait reguardless of what others think.
I also read you are a nurse. That tells me you are a caregiver....It takes a special kind of person to do that and then have another job sitting with the elderly. You have very admirable qualities.
Sounds like you have been dealt a rough life in ways. I know what you mean by not trusting people..I find it hard to trust as well. At one time after my first marriage, I hated men altogether, or so I thought I did.
Also you stated that you had grown kids who are in pain and shocked also by this loss of someone. Are you able to chat with them about it?
Its really hard to put our trust in people but if you could find the right people, the friendships could be returned two fold. I realize that true friends are hard to find. I thought I had a few at work til I took sick back in 2003. Oh they sent me a card while I was in the hospital but when I got out and they discovered that I wouldnt be returning to work, they vanished. I had heart surgery and nobody in the way of friends to help me when I first came home and hubby had to work.
My daughter took time off and stayed with me every day for 2 years til she she had some changes in her own life and had to return to work. My daughter is now by best friend.
Yes life can suck, people come and go and are never there when you need them,people hurt you and pass on. But life still goes on and there is someone who loves and appreciates what you do. I bet many of your patients do!! They need and rely on you. Be strong, cry like never before, wash out the sadness, pick up your sword, and march forward. Looking forward to chatting to you more on mylot!!
@sagarthe7th (89)
• India
22 Feb 09
actually you should manage your time and try to meet that person and talk about whatever had happened between you and solve it.
@mommamusic (882)
• United States
22 Feb 09
Will i can manage my time but i cant bring back life,all i can hope for is justice and that the murderers are caught.
@smileonstar (4007)
• United States
22 Feb 09
Hi, friend. it sounds so lonely and stressful about your story. You work two full job and one part time job? how do you do that? I understand that you want to keep yourself busy from thinking. you need some time off and go out with your pets... go to the Beach and see people around. Dont work and worry too much... i know you lost someone that you care the most but you have to care about yourself as well... you have long way to live and you can't make yourself feel sad each day like this. Call friends and get together or go do something that you are interesting. how about Vacation? some where that far away from home... really far, like Asia, Europe ... I hope you feel better and dont forget us here. 
Smile for me if you can
Smile for me if you can @mommamusic (882)
• United States
22 Feb 09
I will try its not hard,some thig i have done most all my life.Oh i cant leave right i have to be here for my son and my other kids my friends are in and out,and i am sleeping a lot i have some time off from work but i will be ok,i am needed here now,thank you for caring enough to have kind words for me.
@roberten (3128)
• United States
22 Feb 09
You are way to spread out. When you are physically exhausted, your mental strength is also weakened. Whatever you are feeling becomes much more intense when you are stressed beyond what your body can tolerate. Maybe you should think about re-prioritizing your life for the purpose destressing. Try yoga or tai chi; practice feng shui (see http://fengshui.about.com/). Try to eat a balanced diet and get more restful sleep. Try herbal tea; there's one for every malady known to man. LOL! Get to bed earlier but rise early, sleeping too long will may leave you feeling tired. Find out what your "colors" are (see http://www.beauty-and-the-bath.com/Season-Color-Analysis.html)
If you are a religious person, get intouch with your God. Mingle with church members and/or do volunteer work that gets you out of your house. If you still need a part-time job, think of becoming an event personnel. You can conduct product demonstrations (become a demo lady-they really make much more money than most people realize). You will have to interact with others when doing demos, and you will certainly meet many interesting people.
If, after you make changes in your life you deem necessary, things still seem bleak and you are still overly depressed, you may want see seek out professional help. Regardless of what you decide to do, you'll always have your fellow Mylotters who care about you and wish you the very best each and everyday. Go forth and seek thyself. Live as if there is no tomorrow, love as if it is your last, laugh until you feel tears streaming down your face. Make the best of each day and be glad you were blessed to see its dawning. If all else fails, sing or hum your favorite hymn and you'll be surprised at the difference it makes in your life.
My thoughts and well wishes are with thee; may you find your peace.
@mommamusic (882)
• United States
22 Feb 09
Yes i know God had a reason for this and i understand that.I try to live my life as if each day could be my last,but i dont have any one to love except for kids i do laugh a lot.Your words mean a lot to mean when i have more i will reread this.
@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
22 Feb 09
Hi, i can say that most people go through these phases in life.But time is a great healer. I am sure that being here on mylot gives you a lot of happiness. Try to mingle with people and do something or the other to keep yourself occupied all the time, so that you do not have much time to think.With 2 full time jobs you must be quite busy. I hope you cope with this situation and come out a winner.Over a period of time when you look back it will not seem all that bad or painful- all the best to you
@mommamusic (882)
• United States
22 Feb 09
You are right and yes the pain will go awy but never forgot.God Bless you.
@Lore2009 (7378)
• United States
21 Feb 09
Hello mommamusic,
Why do you work so much!? That's amazing at how many jobs you have.
I feel all alone often too... so you are not alone to feel that way. I'm sorry you lost someone too. I lost someone also. It's is hard and shocking that that one thing in your life that was always there is not there anymore. It's a surreal feeling and you wonder when you will wake from this dream. But it's not a dream and new meetings will replace the old, especially with the new you. Once I found myself, I didn't feel as lonely anymore. Good luck.
@mommamusic (882)
• United States
21 Feb 09
Well i have to work because i have bills to pay,i am a private duty nurse,i also work in the OR and have a part time sitting with the elderly.No its not a dream at all i wish it was a dream at least my hurt would not be so bad.Thank you.
@rane247 (78)
• Philippines
22 Feb 09
I was curious what's with the title and when I read the content I understood what the hello means. I sometimes consider myself a loner because I tried to be myself. Sometimes I feel tired doing the same things over and over again. Studying, etc. the normal stuff students do. Sometimes I hang out with my friends and I agree it's quite fun but there's is something I'm looking for. I don't know what that is. That's why starting this 2009 I want to try different stuffs to know where I really want.
As an advice to you, first i'm so sorry for the loss of your beloved someone. Maybe you should try different things like doing some stuffs that you thought you couldn't do. It might make you feel a new individual. :) Happy living!
@mommamusic (882)
• United States
22 Feb 09
Thank you sweet heart that is a very good idea.My best to you.
@gayathrigs (871)
• India
22 Feb 09
I do feel alone sometimes but i see to it that i do some internet surfing or any other work which keeps me busy and doesnot make me feel as if am alone. but why do you have to work so much? and that too two full time jobs? how are you able to manage your jobs? I do only one full time job and all the weekdays am very busy with my job. i feel lonely only when i have an off.
@mommamusic (882)
• United States
22 Feb 09
Well when my husband left i was left with all the bills,house payment,truck payment,lights phone insurance on the house and my truck property taxes i have a lot of land and hoesty i am happy when i am working.My monthly bills are over 2500 hundred dollars a month.
@jazz_123 (211)
•
21 Feb 09
You should stop working for a few days, and have a bit of time to youreself. You just lost a loved one. Get all the anger and crying out of your system if there is any, and try to stay strong. You should have your family and relatives by you, when your trying to stay wrong. You can do it for that loved one and you can do it for yourself. Live can be so hard sometimes, but if you stay strong, you will be okay. 'Weeping may endure for the night, but joy comes in the morning'
I hope this helps honey. xx
@mommamusic (882)
• United States
21 Feb 09
You are right maybe i will try that crying does help i m still in shock.Thank you.
@queenie1234 (57)
• China
22 Feb 09
My life has a lot of friends when the trouble can find them,they will listen to my troubles,that I am comforted.Your life too monotonous and no friends,tired after work and no one to comfort you,I really worry for you,you should go outdoors to pay more friends,and friends to chat.Sports is also a good way to ease the pressure . So you will not feel lonely.
@mommamusic (882)
• United States
22 Feb 09
I am sure you are right yes i could use to comfort me but that goes back to my trust issues thank you i will try to.
@ibanag22 (35)
• Philippines
22 Feb 09
Well i did... although i have friends and I'm with my family. Too much responsibilities makes me depressed.. it makes me lonely and jealous to other people who can hang out with their family.. I need to do all the work because it's my responsibility. Well you can make some schedules for bonding time.. give some time for less work.. rest....that's all..
@mommamusic (882)
• United States
22 Feb 09
I spend a lot of time with my family but i also like my alone time,i am a workaholic i always have been for me it helps me deal with my problems better,i dont have to much time to worry or gt mad and upset.Thank you.
@destanita (99)
• United States
21 Feb 09
I can relate to you oh so well!! I recently lost my father, saw my only child go away to college, and went through a divorce, all at the same time. This is the first time in my life that I have ever been truly alone, and at times it is very over whelming. But at the same time it has also given me time to reflect on my life and myself as a person. So use this time to try and find yourself, that way when you go out and find some one else to care about and share your life with, you can be truly happy. Don't give up and don't be so hard on yourself, all things in life happen for a reason, we just have to open our eyes and our hearts to find the reason.
@mommamusic (882)
• United States
21 Feb 09
Your words are so true and i want give up i am not quitter by no means i guess it was just the shock,and such a surpise thank you for you for your kind words.
