Which do you listen first, head or heart?

Hi Zandi! Before answering responding to your topic I must settle myself first where lies the heart and where does the mind. So far I know even the scientists have not been successful to determine where these two concepts lie? Are they one single concept or entity or really have separate existence? I am still confused when I wrote you back the reply what was working at tat time? Was it my ming ( Brain) or the heart ( the organ ) a feeling that builds pressure on the chest, and virtually on the heart. And heart is emotion? Now even emotion is controlled by the mind. If I get too carried away no mind or logic would say no I should not. Then? Have not the both mingled here? Then where is my heart and where is my mind? For me emotion and logic both are controlled by the control panel - the mind, the wit, the brain as we do not feel the pressure of this on the head there fore it is felt in the heart. So I listen to both as both are same for me.

Hello zandi,basically I am a level headed and practical person and use my head and act rationally and logically in my every day situations.But I am a mother too and a wife and a daughter and a sister and a cousin and an aunt and a friend,and a human being with a heart too....In some situations especially those involving my loved ones,I just throw caution to the wind,and listen to my heart,for yielding to their happiness makes me happy,and I have no qualms about turning a deaf ear to the NO that I keep hearing from my head.............So you see dear ,on some occasions I let my heart take complete control of my actions and lew\t it get away scot free.........

I guess it is a combination of both that makes the best decision. There must be a balance drawn between listening to your heart and listening to your head. That is why people who can strike that balance are more successful that people who cannot. Most of the time, the head will be thinking about logic. Practicality of looking at a situation. But the heart, will look at a situation based on feelings. And when your head tells you to go ahead cos all the factors are there. But your heart tells you not to as there is an element of fear, what would you do then? Given that most people will listen to only one side of their thoughts, that is why there are so many wrong decisions made. If they can strike that balance of listening to their heart and their head, the world would be a much better place to live in.

I think there really has to be a balance. Some people I have found listen more to their brains and lead a very uneventful life, always doing the "safe" thing. I tend to do that most of the time, but sometimes, even though it seems crazy, I listen to my heart and intuition and just go with it. Surprisingly, it is often the best path to take. So our hearts can often know something our brain's do not! - Derek

It is a complex choice .when we have to make decision ,there are many factors to influence us such as the inner factor ,the outer factor.We must think about a lot .but one important to me is that I will finally be loyalt to my heart when this decision will not harm anyone .It is right that dicision made based on feeling is not smart .but i think feeling comes from my self .it is the oringal .when i chose ,i can't regret any more .I will try my best to finish it even if i have to pay more .it is difficult to say which one win .Perhaps ,everyone have different answer .No matter which one has victored ,what we have to do next is to prove that we chose a right way and reach the goal with all our effort .That is my opinion .Maybe my EQ is higher than IQ ,therefore ,I chose feeling .thanks ,zandi458,a good discussion .

I listen to my head unless my gut is screaming to be heard. Then I listen to my feelings. Like you I believe we were given both for a reason. A good friend of mine who was also my spiritual leader once asked my what my intuition was telling me about a certain person. When I told him he asked me why I was ignoring those feelings then. He told me that mothers have a special gift of intuition to protect their children and they should listen to it.

Thats so true. adn most times I have my own reasons fo rdoing what I do ,,,do. Likewehn I went to my mom in 204 and stayed in the hospital with her 24/7 no one else did and they didnt think I could! But I had done it with so many of my hubbies family I just knew I could stay with her. Even wehn I asked hubby about it I already knew I was going! All he could do weas agree. Even if my brother and Sister didnt want me up there I found out later I think If I hadnt gone she would have ended up usin that damn walker and not drive again. I think when I got there she came out of her funk. And put in alot of time with her therapy that she didnt want to do till I go there and sort of gave her that push ya know what I mean I stayed 17 days got her home got her walking iwth out walker and she drove again after I left I just told hr she could do it. no I have had almost 5 more years on account of it but this time I cant go and she isnt at home so I cant stay with her. So I have to let them do the doing. That time I let my heart lead my head but then I think of it I let my head run my heart

I follow my heart

This is a good question. I believe it depends on the kind of decision...some situations require you to use your heart and some situations require you to use your head. I have a propensity to use my heart to make many decisions if not most, but when I am not sure which decision to make I try to strike a balance between heart and head.

It actually depends on the situation. Sometimes I use my heart when the decision concerns my loved ones but I also don't let the heart overrules. If my head dictates that using much of my heart will result to something not really good then I change decision. It is better to always use both most of the time but there really are circumstances when either my heart or my heard is very powerful and would dominate my decision.

i use my head first then heart,but as you said depends on it but most i have is using brain then heart.i dont care if it hurts as long as its reasonable.like falling inlove online i use my brain that i will not carry on even it hurts because i know i am marriage ,thats only example zandi.

I think I tend to make more decisions with my heart than I do my head. Sometimes I tell myself, don't do this, don't do that, but my heart overrides my decision. Sometimes it can be a good thing, sometimes it turns out to be a bad thing. I wish I was more head-strong though, maybe I would make such a fool of myself at times if I was.

Your writing and the things you think about draw me in, both emotionally and intellectually. If they did not, I would not be here. A simple question asked here and yet not simple to answer. Yes, the event or the situation we are trying to decide for does make a huge difference. You would not need nor would you try to listen to your heart concerning wall-paper or a new couch. Things are things that are decided on with your head. Will it match the furniture? Is it going to be in my budget? Answers that will come from logical deduction and personal likes. Other issues, such as love or moving away or moving on... they are much harder. Listen to your head when you are falling in love? That is like quitting smoking, cold turkey. When you sit and dissect feelings of love, you cut away sometimes the most important things. Perhaps you have fallen in love or feel yourself falling for someone on-line. People will for sure say "Please, think about it. You have no idea who this person really is. Use your head!" LOVE rarely allows us that luxury. Maybe we can use our heads {gentlemen, that is the one on your shoulders lol} sometimes when we are loving someone. We can cut and slice and make a list of all the why we shoulds and why we should nots. I think if one needs to do that, perhaps they really should use their head. But emotions take over our hearts often without any help from our heads. We only know that we feel emotions for this person. A desire and need to be with them and feel one with them. We may say, using our heads "They are so far away " or "they are so different" "It can never work", but our hearts tell us to follow a path that in all likelyhood will end in hurt or loss. And for me, I am a forever romantic and follow my heart into places that my head KNOWS I should not go. Why? I think because the feeling of falling in love, the very essence of being loved back in that way are too beautiful to pass by. As Garth Brookes so wonderfully croons to us... "I could have missed the pain... but then i would have missed the Dance." Decisions based on emotions can be tornadic and intense, but they can also be the beautiful experience you will ever share with someone. Brains for yard work... Your Heart for Love. I believe I will use this as my writing today in my blog. It truly is a subject that touches us all sooner or later. Always, Darrel

waaaaa its kinda hard huh? LOL i can choose both zandi? hahaha ! because what my mind tells my heart can feel , so i listen to both, *smiles

ha ha ha ha ha ha ha Dear Zandi I want to appreciate again and again your discussion , I find your discussion very interesting ..... You have raised a disucssion we are often in such type of situation ............ Yes the answer is a fight goes on between mind and heart both file a suit against each other and present their logics and sometimes heart wins and other times head wins ..... Thanks for raising such a nice discussion ...............

i always listen to my heart. but i think i should listen to my heard too. in many ways i have got a lot of failure after listening my heart. all the discisions are not taken by heart. i think we should think about what you are going to do.

I do not know, it's so hard to control myself. Sometimes I would like to be more logic, but it's really hard to ignore feelings. We are human, we cannot be pure logic or emotions.

Very much depends on the circumstances. Where food is concerned, most of the times listen to the heart. Not many people will think of calorie count when they are hungry. I have a soft spot for chocolate. Even though I know shouldn't eat too much, just can't help it when there're chocolates in the fridge. But when come to important matter, like which school to go to. Then will use the head. Even if none of my friends willing to take up courses or study in the same school. It doesn't really matter. I will still sign up for the course if it is good for my future.

i always try to listen to my heart....but sometimes, at the heat of the moment, i happen to listen to my head

I've mostly been lead to follow my heart's decisions. Many times I've followed logic too, and ended up feeling that was the wrong decision. However, some decisions we think were wrong, we eventually look back on and think, "Well, but if I hadn't done that, then this or that wouldn't have happened; and I'm really happy that this or that happened." I think if you feel happy or at peace with your decision, very likely that's a right decision. If logic tells you it's a right decision, but you don't feel happy or at peace with it, that's a wrong decision.