Why Do Some of Us Aim So Low...

Hi Jamton, First of all, I'm really sorry you lost your job. Not nice. Real sorry about that. Listen: I've added you as a friend. I'm in the UK too. If you don't mind writing and you have an email address, I'll send you places where you might be able to find writing work. Also, if I find any writing jobs, I'll be happy to pass them by you. Right, onto the rest of your comment. I never mentioned everyone was aiming low. The title says 'some' of us. Keeping an open mind and making the most of opportunities that one finds (or that come by) can be a great thing as we never know where it can take us. However, 'anything' comes in different shapes and sizes. Though it's ultimately down to choice, I feel some 'anythings' aren't worth taking a look at. Of course we have to start somewhere. That's a given. But can we control where that somewhere is? Or do we feel we can? take care...

Thank you so much, it is very nice to know that people really are there to support you, no matter how rubbish life seems to be at the time! I would really appreciate that. And I do agree completely, many sites and routes of money making are completely fruitless, but I suppose it's just a matter of learning what's worth it and what isn't :)

You're welcome. I've PM'ed you a list of sites to take a look at. take care...

You're very welcome. All the best...

Hi Paula, Thanks for chipping in. The first thing that came to mind when I read your reply was the following sites: - ravens-writing.blogspot.com - freelancewritinggigs.com - chrisblogging.com - allfreelancewriting.com I found these sites really useful. Maybe you will too. OTHER IDEA: Do you have any schools, colleges, nursing homes, hospitals in your area? Maybe you could offer to run writing workshops. For e.g., you could run reminisence workshops with the elderly or sessions with school kids who've recently made a transition from primary school to secondary school. take care...

Thank you very much for the links and interesting ideas. I have taken them on board and will check them out. I really appreciate the help. Thanks again and take care!

Hello irisheyes, Our perception is our reality. Whereas you think it's totally unrealistic for any of us to expect to make anything more than pennies online, I think otherwise. I expected more and I got more. I must therefore be 'exceedingly rare' and 'sought after' :-)

Hello soleya (nice-sounding name), Thanks for your reply. The title of my discussion reads 'Some' of us. I wasn't making a sweeping statement. I have plenty of fun earning what I feel I'm worth. take care...

Hi kerriannc, Thanks for your comment. I'm not here to label anyone as good or bad. I'm just questioning some of our motives/feelings behind what we aim/settle for. take care...

Hi Crivas, Of course some people are happy to earn pennies for the other reasons you mentioned. However, I do feel that, for others, the self-confidence that they lack is reflected in a lot (or some) of the things they do in their lives. That can sometimes include their relationship with money. There are actually some really good programs on TV so I don't think it's necessarily an 'either-or' situation. Watch a good program on TV. Go online and make money. Best of both worlds. What do I think I'm worth? A lot more than I sometimes think I am. I've suffered from a low sense of self for a long time. I sometimes experience chronic schisms b/w what I think I'm worth and what I actually am worth. I'd like to close the gap b/w the two and have a healthier sense of myself.

Hi academic2, I can't cut and paste yet (less than 500 posts) and I'd rather not type it all up again, so pls have a read through my reply to the very 1st person who left a response in this discussion (DanWLox). In it, I pointed out some areas I felt could be explored that pay better - writing, paid surveys, proofreading and affiliate marketing. Do you mean what I'm currently doing to earn online? Well, I mostly earn through freelance writing. I also dabble in paid surveys, proofreading and selling the odd thing on eBay and Amazon. take care...

MLM schemes? I've never been into those either. However, I don't think you have to be a good salesperson to earn online. At the heart of what I was really trying to address was SELF BELIEF and SELF ESTEEM. I just feel there are a lot of us that don't believe we're capable of earning a significant amount of money online. We feel safer settling for MUCH less than what we're worth. I think that gets in the way of some of us making money online more than anything. And it's really that that I wanted to encourage a discussion about - 'cos maybe if we talk about it, some of us won't feel alone or bad about how we're feeling - and then eventually maybe we can begin to empower ourselves to achieve what we're worth. take care...

Hi celticeagle, Thanks for adding to the convo. Could I just clarify: what do you think we should be happy with? The point I was trying to make was the low sense of self that makes some people sign up for really low paying sites when they could do much better. They don't get to the point of even considering other options because they're getting in their own way. That's really what I was on about. Why do some of us settle for that? And how can we break through that way of regarding ourselves? If you're not within that catchment, then great. I'll be happy that you're not. But for those that feel they are, I just wanted to encourage a discussion around it. take care...

I hear you. I think confidence plays a huge factor in a lot of things in life. take care...

I guess I didn't complete my thoughts. I think that people don't try any harder because they don't really understand how the site works and are afraid to go further. Lack of confidence.

1fastcat, Thank you for adding to the conversation and sharing your experience. Some of what you wrote resonated with me. I'm scared of success, not failure, because I feel I can't deal with success. I therefore jeopardise myself often. I'll want something, I'll get it, and then I'll deliberately mess it up. For me, failure is easier to deal with. You mentioned you're getting support for what you've been going through. That's good and is the first tentative step towards healing. take care...