What should I do? Is this the right decision?

In my experience, if he does love you he will try to get to the middle point between what you want and what he wants. The one in which the 2 of your can deal with this. He's too far on the deep end, I think since you have thought of this and he is locked up. Try to move on from him, I think you can do better. He doesn't seem to want to change, and would you really want to be with someone in which someday the cops will be knocking on your door looking for him? It will endanger you and your son. He's young and he doesn't seem to want to change, he seems quite rebellious and just doesn't want to change.

Since you ask this question " if you are wasting my time by waiting on him or should I give him another chance" i feel you know the answer too. Try and analyse what your priority is, is it your son, or your boyfriend or anything as a matter of fact for you right now. And when you find out what your piority is ,work accordingly. As for me i think, you are wasting your time. Anyways he is not there for you and you take care of everything on your own. And when he is not ready to leave his friend circle he is bound to be caught if any of his friends are caught...even if he dosnt do a thing. Think about it" do you actually need him?"

This is his second lock up. That would be too much drama for me, and a perfect picture of what married life with that person would be like. Not a pretty picture. The last relationship I got in before I got with my wife was full of drama. The Cops were constantly after her--and oh, by the way, the fights she got into were NEVER ever her fault. She had about maybe two probations at the time that she was trying to pay off!

You said that this is the second time in a year that he ahs been in jail. That tells me that he may not know how to change. In order for him to change, he has to stay away from the old crowd. They can refuse to stay away, but in reality it is up to him whether or not he hangs out with them. The people he hangs out with are obviously a big influence on the way he behaves so he won't change as he needs to without making different, more responsible friends. I have been in that sort of situation myself, and in the end, he didn't change at all. I spent 6 years of my life with him, standing by him every step of the way, just for him to keep doing time. Every time, he said he would change, and he never did. I divorced him after 6 years, and guess what, we have been divorced for five years now and he has gone back to prison twoce already. The first time he went back, he spent over a year there, and the second time he went back, well, as far as Iknow, he will be there until 2011! You need a man in your life who is going to be there for you all of the time. Not someone who is going to continue to run with the same crowd and be in and out of jail, and impacting your life,and your child's life negatively. This is whay I would do. I would tellhim that if he really loves you and ants to make a change, he has to stop hanging around with the same people. He has to get a job and really be there for you and your child. If he refuses to stop hanging out with the same people, I would get out of that relationship. The truth of it is that people can change, if they really want to. You are giving him a reason to change..you and your child, if that isn't reason enough for him, then you really don't need him in your life. Whatever you decude to do, put your child's best intersts first. Your son only ha you to protect him, and unfortunately, if you put him in a bad situation, these days, you could have him taken away from you. Your son needs you more than anyone else in the world does. It is a great thing to have a love in your life, but if that love is not going to do what is best for your child, you have to do it yourself.

Sexy Diva19 ,I think you are wasting your time and comsuming your youth .Both of you are young ,what'more ,you two have child to nuture .Perhap ,you love him much more than he do ,because he did not want to change .you should weight your future and your boyfriend that which one is more important .love is important but there are one more important .It is the relationship between you and your son .Envirement of living will influence a person's all life .As a mother ,you should provide a sound and peaceful lives for your son .Love will pass away one day but the affliation of your son and you will not fade .leaving him ,you may felt blue for a while ,but if not ,you may be sad for your life .I did not discrimated the person locked up ,but everyone is selfish ,he will just think on his favor side .Bless you with a smart wit .

Hey, I can clearly tell you that you are wasting time on waiting for him. I am a guy and I know how guys think in this situation. He don't want to loose you but then he cannot change himself. Already twice he has been locked up and still he is not ready to clean up himself, rather he wants to take a chance having you with him and also meeting his old friends...... I will suggest that you should not waste your time waiting for him.......

Hey, ive been through a sorta relationship as u, although i have no kids. i do think u r wasting ur time on him. if hes not will to absolutly try to change then he wont change, and u cant make them change they gotta change on their own. once he gets out who knows he might just end up back where hes at now. i think u should find a man that is willing to support u and ur child and someone whos not playing games. thats my point of view. i hoped that helped :)