How do you handle departures?

I hate departures too. My parents, sister and niece went overseas for a holiday last year; my parents were going for 4 months and my sister and her little girl were to go for 8 weeks. I was not upset because they had been saving for this a long time and I knew the time would fly and they would all be back so I was absolutely fine at the airport; we had a coffee and chatted while we waited for the flight to be called. Well when they got up to go my seven year old started to cry and that was it; I was a mess and I sobbed all the way home! I cannot stand goodbyes even if it is for a holiday. It cannot compare with what you are experiencing though; it must be awfully difficult to maintain a relationship like that. Is there any way you could go to him? Would you live in his country? I know that's easy for me to say; changing countries is a huge thing to do. I sincerely pray that you and your boyfriend find a way to be together. Hang in there! Message me if you get lonely. Good luck to you!

I am in a long distance relationship as well, we live in separate countries. We were hoping that she could come here and live here next christmas, but i recently found out thats it harder to bring her here than I thought, I havent told her about it yet. But we only get to talk once a week, her family is very poor and she doesnt have a lot of money to come and talk to me, which is ok. I understand that 100% We love each other very much and she means the world to me. I would wait a lifetime for her. I miss her more than anything in the world and I cannot wait to have her here in my arms forever. I dont like the feeling of not having her here with me either, but I know that we just cant do it right now, and there will be a time for us to meet. God will let us meet when the time is right. You just need to be open and honest with each other. You need to be able to trust one another a lot and if you can do that, that is a great thing. Just remember that God has a plan for you, there will be a time when you two will be together forever and there will be no distance between you, no emptiness, no hallow in your heart, just you and your bf together forever. Just believe and everything will work out. I pray everyday that me and my gf will meet soon and i believe we will this summer. Just keep believing, I wish you the best of luck with your boyfriend :) Have a great day! God Bless.

Distance is really hard but for me as long love is there it will work. Sacrifices and a lot of patience is the key. Like you i hate departure or goodbyes. It really breaks my heart but what i can do as for now i will sacrifice as well as my fiance. I just think that very soon when we will be together then all our sacrifices will be worth it. Just make your busy it will help you ease the loneliness. Anyway you can still communicate whenever you like, that's the only alternative you both have. It will somehow help you not miss him.

I understand your misery, as I've had a a relationship like that. It was long, long ago but I remember it like it was yesterday. I was foolish and it ended due to my stupidity, I've always wondered how my life would have been had I not been selfish and demanding because I missed him so much. There's nothing you can do right now but bear it. Since he can't move to your town, can you move to his? Are there jobs for you there? It's not forever, even though it may seem that way to you. Be patient, keep busy, be with friends a lot and also learn to be comfortable with yourself. Just don't give him demands. Learn to accept your situation and enjoy the time you have with him, it won't be forever.

never have this sort of thing yet...but tell me more about your relationship...how it all started?i want to know more of it...

hi, i know how you feel and there are no words to ease your pain but let time to cure. No one can skip that process, so just let time cure your heart and soul. When i was blue, i used to think it would not pass, i would not get rid of it forever, but walking on the city street, just keep walking and walking, one day, my pace sped up suddenly because i found i just got out of it, finding my new direction, to pursue so many beauty in life. So trust me, any torture can phase out. I once pestered by my past emotion trouble for four years. now i am happy.

I would do the same thing. Last time I left my boyfriend I hugged him kissed and I started to cry but he told me not to so I waited until I got on the plane. It is hard to have a long distance relationship. He is trying to find a job in his own city and then he wants me to move in with him. I was supposed to go in a few weeks, but he wants me to wait til he has a job so he could take care of me...

I hate for someone to be here for awhile and then have to leave Like son and wife that week just isnt long enough when It might be 2 years before we see him again . I do cry when they leave and my daughter gets on me for she dont want to cry either! but if he comes every weekend you are lucky for him to see you or fly to see yu so often!

i do know how u feel. my ex use to work on a riverboat & he'd work 30 days & be off 30 days. i hated those goodbyes, at least u get to see him every weekend just think about the women whose husbands are in iraq. what they'd give to see their's everyone weeekend. u can always look around & see people w/more troubles than u have. be thankful for the good relationship u have w/him. everything will work out for the best. good luck.

Many, many people deal with this. You will someday treasure these days and remember them of some of your best. The time that you have together is so good because it's limited, it's just human nature to give it more importance then you will when you are together all the time. Blessings

I can understand your feelings.It' very painful to bid farewell to the beloved.It also indicates your deep love to your boyfriend.I share your feelings.

Hi there, I really do feel for you. I have never been in a long-distance relationship but I don't like saying goodbye anyway, even if it just for a couple of days! I don't know what the best advice is to give to you, but just stay strong. If it is your destiny to have more than this one day, then believe it will happen. Just make the most of what you have right now. At least you do have someone that you love deeply and somebody that makes your heart feel this way. Good luck

Hi, if this is the case you have not loved each other yet and now you need to start how to love a person. Why do you break and cry your strength out? If there had been real love between you you would be rather happy at the moment of each departure for he has not gone any far but just there attached to you. Why do not you think you two like the two legs of a compass? What happens with them? While one leg is in the center the other is far away but not detached, just making a round and still looking at you from the other end. How can true love cry for nothing? Be like the two legs of a compass and be resolute that you would no longer fret. Do you think you boy friend is in a free mind to work as he remembers you crying and he too would feel like seeing you to console. Would this state improve your economic condition. Be practical. Say him bye bye with a mouthful of smile and he would be double of himself. Instead of trying to broaden your sphere you are narrowing and this should not be there in any relation. hope you do not take it otherwise. Just read between the line and would find the truth underlying.

I have been in a long distance relationship for about three years now and though he does come home every six months, I still havent really wrapped my head around it. It still hurts everytime I take him to the airport and we say goodbye. And yes I still cry. I feel for you. People have told me that it's gonna get easier as we get used to the situation but so far it has not for me. it still stings and it's so hard not to have him here. we've finally decided to get married and it hurts that he's not around for the preparations. I'm just looking forward to the day we wont separate anymore.

Its really hard to bid farewell to our loved ones. I hardly drive them to the airport or stations myself, its extremely painful! but then, that's but life. We part only to meet and meeting is beautiful. Denise, I know its tough for you two but you are doing this for the hope to stay together forever. So, try to accept it as part of reality and the time you two are apart try to make life special by showing each other that you really care. Leave chat messages, mail him, phone him, tell him that you care. Trust me, it makes a huge difference. Good luck and hugs to you dear.

I recently experienced that kind of scenario wherein my students had to go back to their country after staying here for a few weeks on practicing their english skills. I really felt sad but, sadly enough, I couldn't cry. I know I was sad of the fact that they were gonna leave but, I simply couldn't cry. All I could do is hug them tightly... To cope with my longing for them, I try to send email and even chat with them whenever they are online. It takes time to get use to..

Hi Denise_Tung! Just remember that you are both doing this for your future. It is really difficult especially when you are used to being together all the time. However, try to be strong and supportive of him my friend. When I lived in London for almost a year, I was away from my husband then. It was really difficult but we both managed somehow. We talked on the phone everyday and sometimes twice a day although he phone bill was so high but it helped us get through those lonely times. We chat everyday and we exchange emails. Aside from that, we were both busy with our careers and studies. I know you can manage this dear and I am sure that once he find work, maybe you can follow him there. Take care and have a great day! lovelots..faith

i had that problem too but if it is needed we have no choice just to accet the fact of life!you still can call him or send sms to continue the communication and taht direction you feel that he is still close to you and your heart.you will use to it sooner or later

ahi friend Denise_Tung! As the economy has worsened badly cant help the one who go for their job in far distacne we have to be very much bold enough to make them departure. For me and my husband both were together until last year we have not departed . When we used to visit out village and return back from their to depart the relatives it was very much heart felt and used to cry a lot. My husband left me last May 2008 due to cardiac attack after living 20 years together. Now I and kids are alone with his rememberance. Happy mylotting and have a nice day.

i don't know how to comfort you . Anyway, just to face it bravely!Everthing will be better~