Big Age Gap
By Chrystal08
@Chrystal08 (28)
Philippines
10 responses
@twistedangellinda (174)
• United States
25 Feb 09
I personally don't believe love knows the difference between age gaps. I'm sure it's possible for an older woman to fall in love with a younger man just as it's possible for an older man to fall in love with a younger woman. I think though that society finds it more acceptable if a older man falls in love with a younger woman than if a older woman falls in love with a younger man. Why I don't know. Maybe it's the mother thing. Maybe they think the younger man is looking more for a mother than a partner. I'm not sure on this though. I personally have never given society or society's hang ups much thought. My partner is 11 years older than me and for me I find this works much better. He is far more mature than men my own age, he plans ahead, he's much more mature where wasting money is concerned, and he's already settled down. I myself have always been mature for my age, so I think it's natural that I have chosen a more mature partner.
@extromadball (70)
• United States
23 Feb 09
yeah thats a big age gap. but it would depend on the big back end of the age. example, he's 20 and she is 45 or the man is 50 and she is 25. maybe i'm wrong but the last time i checked if your an adult thats not a crime. Some people have very old souls and can match up with someone older in age to them. love is undefined by many standards and its not many accurate descriptions of what love is to the masses. we all define love a little different depending on the state of being we are in or mental capacity. if it came down to it i would probably do the same life is hard and cruel, love is the getaway even if for a few months.
@Yori88 (1465)
• Philippines
23 Feb 09
I myself could not tell if true love is really possible if the woman is older than the man. But I believe that it happens. Maybe those people involve have their own reasons. In my case my husband is 16 years older than me and we are very much compatible. Maybe this also applies to some who have big age gaps. But I don't know if the woman happens to be older than the man because I have never tried that so I'm not in the right position to comment on that. I just think that it could happen as far as my case is my basis. At the end of the day as long as there is love it is always possible no matter how big the age gap is.
@myfb2009 (8296)
• Malaysia
23 Feb 09
Love is blind, so it is no wonder if you do see big age gap couples around. Even nowadays, it is quite common if you saw a couple, whose wife is older than her husband. l ever read from a magazine, where an old granny married a young boy, whose age gap is 29 years apart. They said they are in-love very much. Love is blind, right?
@smileonstar (4007)
• United States
22 Feb 09
Hi, well... most of the time I would say, it doesn't make any different and it won't bother me about aging. However, about 25 years old different is a lot. For example, if I am 25, that what I am now, and the guy is 50 so he is about my Dad's age... I could love him as a uncle or Dad, but if it goes to Love Love then I can't do it. I know it suddenly happened and you couldn't help it then I will find some good reason to answer to all kind of questions that might have for me. About woman is 25 years older than a man then it might not a problem, I guess... cuz most guy never care how old the woman is as long he loves her and she loves him back. If a woman is totally in love with him and he does the same, I believe it is ok.
@krajibg (11922)
• Guwahati, India
22 Feb 09
From your post it becomes evident that there are two kinds of love - true and false love. well true love is possible between any age group. The reason is that if it is true in nature it knows not age, nor caste, nor creed nor religion. It is in the heart and emotion. I know a couple where the woman was 14 years older than the guy. As they were in deep love they materialized their relation entering into the marital tie. Now they are husband and wife. The big afe difference did not count.
But if we look at the flip side of it, this big difference in age could lead into emotional disparity between the two in the long run. But if their commitment for each other is strong nothing would change them.
@sagarthe7th (89)
• India
22 Feb 09
love have no limits no matter how much is the age difference or who is bigger than whom its all about being loving someone truly.