Friendship

India
February 23, 2009 3:42am CST
What is the first quality that you would see in a person before you choose to make friends with him/her? Also what is the essential quality that you would like to have in a person whom you choose to make your best friend?
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@ank_47 (1959)
• India
24 Feb 09
faithfulness and intimacy and closelyness should be there first for any friendship. I believe that a friend is like a twin brother or sister. This is the reason we rely on friends so much and don't stop to think about life without them. In my opinion, the three most important qualities of friendship are loyalty, a sense of humor, and being a good listener. One of the basic needs of people is to know that they are not alone. A loyal friend is always there when you need him. A friend supports you in times of trouble. However, just spending time with someone is not all there is to friendship. Good relationships are based on good communication. One of the basic needs of people is to know that they are not alone. A loyal friend is always there when you need him. A friend supports you in times of trouble. However, just spending time with someone is not all there is to friendship. Good relationships are based on good communication. A good friend is not only someone you can talk to about your interests, but is also someone who is willing to listen to your opinions and keep all your secrets. You can't expect your friend to accept everything you say. I have some friends who are entertaining, intriguing, thought-provoking, and/or inspirational, but I can get sick of them if I am exposed to them too much. This too isn't inherently good or bad. If you eat caviar every day, you will be sick of it, no matter how good it is. When you are young, you tend to make this type of mistake often where you rush to get to know someone and ruin it for yourself. Some people depend on their friends and families to fill their void inside. They procrastinate for hours in bars, or talk on the phone endlessly. This is equivalent to junk food. You eat junk food not because you need it for its nutritious values, but because of its effect of filling the void. Some friends are good for parties. Some are good to travel with. Some are good to talk with. Some are good to do business with. Some are good to play games with. Some are good to live with. This also means that there are opposite scenarios where some friends are not suitable for certain occasions. For instance, just because you have fun at parties with Joe, does not mean that he would make a good roommate. Just because you talk to Jane about everything in your life, does not mean that she would make a good business partner. Just as certain types of food are appropriate for breakfast, lunch, or dinner, there are certain types of people that are only appropriate for certain situations. Trying to force them out of these natural boundaries will only cause conflicts. a good friend should have below qualities and those qualities should be there for every friend : 1. A good friend is honest : A good friend may not share every detail of every second of their life, but they do try to be clear about their intentions. This means that they try to present an accurate picture of who they are and of different situations. When something doesn't seem right, they let you know. 2. A good friend is fun, unique and interesting : OK, this is a given, and probably the reason you became friends in the first place. But there's a lot to be said for chemistry and shared interests. As for fun, it depends how you define it: Some friends are fun because they're the life of the party, others are fun because they notice every strange little detail about a situation. Some people are fun simply because they see life like no one else does. 3. A good friend is attentive and adaptable : A good friend is at least a fairly good listener and notices how little, day-to-day things affect you. They can't read your mind, but chances are they can usually tell when you're happy, sad, excited, shocked or upset. If they're aware that they're doing something that annoys you, they try to change their ways or at least talk to you about it. 4. A good friend is supportive of you and your goals : Sure, your friend may think you're cool, but are they on the same page as you? Do they know what you want most out of life? A really good friend will know what makes you tick and help you become the person you want to be. They won't try to change who you are or drag you into situations that make you uncomfortable or put you at risk of losing something that matters to you. 5. A good friend is a friend you can trust : A true friend won't try to steal your girlfriend or boyfriend, your job or your personality. They won't gossip about you constantly or try to damage your reputation. They will let you know when they're concerned and do their best to stick up for you when you're in trouble. 6. A good friend makes it clear that they care about you : Different people may have different ways of letting you know that they care about you. One person may give you a big hug whereas another person might gently tease you. A big clue that someone cares is that they talk to you fairly often and, in general, know what's going on in your life and act interested about it. 7. A good friend sticks with you in good times and bad : Loyalty is a quality almost everyone lists when asked what they look for in a friend. A loyal friend will stick with you when your new play is a flop, when you bomb the SATs or when your parents get divorced. If you move or switch schools, they'll do their best to stay in touch with you. 8. A good friend accepts you for who you are, even when you're being a butthead: In friendship, being accepting goes hand in hand with being loyal. A true friend rolls with the punches as you grow and change and know how to deal with your quirks and faults. They are also patient with you when you make mistakes -- even big ones -- and learn how to forgive you when you hurt them. In other words, they treat you as you'd like to be treated, even when you aren't at your best.
@katsalot1 (1618)
23 Feb 09
I think the first thing I would be looking for is kindness. If I saw someone being kind to someone else, I would immediately think that they were nice. Another essential quality that I would look for in a best friend would be a sense of humour.