Personal Ambition vs marriage
By blungel0830
@blungel0830 (841)
Philippines
February 23, 2009 6:17am CST
A 36 year old lady is confused whether she should wait for her boyfriend to fulfill his ambitions first before they get married or should she just look for somebody else who will make her interests his priority over his dreams. She wants to get married and have children, he wants to study another course for another 3 years and try for a career change which could mean an indefinite postponement of marriage. Should she wait for him?
5 responses
@nansheeca (215)
• Philippines
23 Feb 09
the lady must be confused, just tell her to pray for guidance and weigh things before deciding. i mean for her to choose she should consider its advantages and disadvantages. and also what would make her happy then its what she should choose. so there'll be no regrets afterwards!
@tatiana07 (497)
• Philippines
23 Feb 09
is she willing to wait?!if yes then why not? and if the guy really wants to marry her or not.because he can still fulfill his ambitions even if they are married already..at her age, well, if there's someone who's eligible, and she loves him also then why not give it a try..because what if she's waiting for a long long time for no one?!
@eshaan (6188)
• India
23 Feb 09
if both of them love each other and if the boy is still capable of fulfilling the needs of a family then they can be together, get married and both can proceed on their own ways, she can ave family and children and he will get support in going further in his career, but if money is the problem then the solution is difficult, coz 36 is already a late age to marry and if she waits more, there will be problems in having children. She cant wait....if the boy is earning enough and loves her too much then he will take decision in her favour.
@mailtoramesh (815)
• India
23 Feb 09
To think of this discussion the first question that come to my mind is "How much do you love him?".If your answer is Yes.I have a great love with him,I would obviously prefer to wait for him and dont think of any one else.
Love matters in life.You may think of any other person whom you widh to be but he may not be able to adjust with you after marriage.I know this happened to many of my friends.I dont wish this happen in your life too.You may think of ageing.
Love is blind and has no limits also.SO ageing is not all a problem.So before taking up a decision just think a number of times as we know the proverb"LOOK BEFORE YOU LEAP".
If you say that he is just a boy friend to me nothing more than that I would suggest you marry another guy without wasting the time on waiting.
Think and act wisely.
Happy married life and Happy myloting
If you say that he is just a boy friend to me nothing more than that I would suggest you marry another guy without wasting the time on waiting.
Think and act wisely.
Happy married life and Happy myloting
@aamitd_007 (95)
• India
23 Feb 09
It's a saying that don't marry to them who you love but to them who love you. Because he will the one who will having the real attention to wards your ambitions. And he will the one who will be able to take care of you so just stop westing time for those who are not having any value of your thinkings and ambitions of your life and go for the best.
