loving two persons at a time

India
February 23, 2009 7:42am CST
i need ur suggestion to clear my view... that can a person love two persons at a time with.. or it is love for one person and just attraction for another..... or one can keep two in same heart with same feeling of love........
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@Firefly99 (251)
• United States
24 Feb 09
This is a tough one, I believe that it is very possible to love or care about two people at the same time, But I also think that after you have been in along relationship with someone or married for a few years it is very easy to get involved with someone else and MISTAKE love for lust! I also think if you are married and somehow find yourself in situation like this with another man/women and you think or feel like you are falling in love with this other person, you need to step back and think about the reasons you married your husband or wife to begin with? Unless (for some reason) you married for all the wrong reasons when you chose to marry this person, and YES I did say CHOSE, you had to know or feel without a doubt that this was the one person in the world you wanted to spend the rest of your life with and could not, would not want to live without! ANd you had to be VERY much in love them! If you are not married and in the middle of a triangle try distancing yourself from the both of them for a while. See which one you miss the most or think about the most! In the end you will see you only really truly loved one of them! SO maybe you can love two people at one time or think you do, but you are only IN love with one of them!
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• United States
24 Feb 09
Thanx! I am glad I could help! :)
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• India
24 Feb 09
i fully agree with u ... and all my confusions regarding the matter r clear now.... thankx to u ......this is the analysis and clearing of mind that i could get... hats off to u ....
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• United States
24 Feb 09
You are so right! I agree stop talking to them both for a while and see which one shines through to you!
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• United States
24 Feb 09
NO YOU CANNOT NOT! TRUST ME! ILEARNED THE HARD WAY! I lost a good women that I really loved because I thought I was in love with another women. Turns out the other lady was just lust! She was something new and exciting! After my experience I will take something Old and boring any ole day now! "what you going to do, when the new wears off and the old shines through, and its not really love, but really lust and you ain't nobody, anyone's going to trust" Think about it! The grass ain't always greener on the other side!
• India
23 Feb 09
i think that is love for one and attraction for other..
• United States
24 Feb 09
I agree, that is usually the case!
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@dandit (132)
• Indonesia
23 Feb 09
Such problems may have occurred on many people, including me. In the end we are required to choose, because it is not possible to share the love more than one person.
• India
23 Feb 09
i think u r right .. as by doing this we r hurting two persons... who feel we will not ditch.... but in reality we r........ and when truth comes out it hurts.. but wht if we dont want to leave anyone
@rroshanr (35)
23 Feb 09
Many will say that a boy loving two girls is just infatuation. You love a girl today and then you come close to another girls and like this you have feelings for her. The problem is that it is difficult to forget one you have been loving for one that you loves now. Am saying this because am in such a situation right now. I love two girls and do not want to lose any of them. I have to make a decision and am delaying this. It will be a very difficult day when i will have to announce to one of the girls that it is over. So it is possible to love two girl, by love i mean true love.
• United States
24 Feb 09
I dated a guy when I was in my late teens early 20's that told me, (in somewhat different words) what you just said! And I told him he was full of it! He was a little older than I, and was engaged to a girl he had been with since they were 16. I met him and we hooked up not long after the two had split. Everything was great and we had been together About 6 months when I found out that he had started seeing his ex again! He then tells me (ONLY AFTER I BUST HIM) that it was very hard to cut all ties with his ex after all the time they had been together and that he did still care for her but he loved me and I was the one he wanted to be with, he just did not want to hurt her! So if I was the one he really truly loved than how was it he could hurt me so easily? Either way I was done! And it was a good thing too, It was not even a month later his Ex turned up pregnant with HIS child, which proved he had still been sleeping with her! He still protested his love for me years after and insisted I was the one true love of his life even after he married and had 3 kids with his EX?
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@sbhuttan (21)
• India
23 Feb 09
no a person can not love two persons at a time. It is surely atttraction nothing else. how can a person feel the same type of love for two persons.take an example of a husband who on one side taking care of his wifes' need and also on the other hand he is engaged in some extra marital affair too. then is it possible that he loves both in the same way. no thats simply untrue. either he loves his wife or his girlfriend. he would be living with his wife because of some social limitaions.or may be because of kids if they have. but i dont beleive that he loves both of them in the same way.
• United States
24 Feb 09
I agree, I do not think you can actually LOVE two people the same way.
@marty3888 (2355)
• Acme, Michigan
23 Feb 09
I suppose it's possible to feel love for two people, however, that's no excuse to be romantically involved with both. You have to decide which one you're going to have a romantic relationship with and which one you're going to have a platonic relationship with. The one that you have a romantic relationship with is the one you have to spend most most of your time with, too. Either that or just have two friends that you love.