First time pregnancy at an advanced age...

Coincidentally, i'm already 29, though i don't look like my age either, much younger, i still don't have a kid. We only differ because i went intimate with some of my girlfriends. Are you in Manila? Maybe we should meet up then settle this once and for all. Lol! Just kidding! Don't worry, just don't think too much about it. Later on in life, when you're already a mom, you'll just laugh thinking about this desperation.

Advanced age here for pregnancy is in your 40s, so you have time. I met most of the men I've known to date in school or by exploring my interests and hobbies. Like Martial Arts, Civil Air Patrol (where I met my husband), etc. The risks are more for the child in advanced age. If you search March of Dimes, they can tell you more. How to prevent many birth defects. That would be where I would start. Take care.

It's not a big deal until you are in your late 30's. I think 35 is when the risk of problems starts to go up. But lots of women have babies after that, even in their 40's. It's not as risky as it used to be because of advances in medicine and prenatal care. Just take good care of yourself, see your doctor and follow any advice he or she gives you regarding your health and how to have a healthy pregnancy.

Hi kissieme - Well, first off hon... you aren't at an advanced age yet! Don't worry, you have plenty of time to find the right man and settle down to have a family. Actually, you mentioned that you have finally found the right guy but he is thousands of miles away. I see you live in the Philippines. Where is the guy?! :) This happened to me too and I am now married to him!

31 is certainly not an advanced age. The doctors do consider a first pregnancy after 35 or so to be a 'geriatric pregnancy'. And some risks, such as the possibility of having a Down's syndrome baby, do increase with age. My first pregnancy was at 38 and my second was at 42. I didn't have any problem getting pregnant either time and I didn't have any serious problems with either pregnancy. But some people do, so I don't want to downplay it.

It's always God's grace kissie. I wish you the best. But everybody else here said it's nothing to be scared about because of the advanced medical care and prenatal care. Just take care of yourself and get the best doctor and of course, prayers. Hmmmm....never been intimate with someone, huh? So I think you could relate to the sealed cheeseburger! LOL

I think you should draw the line at 35, beyond that it just might by risky, you never know. They say that the eggs mature with our age and aged eggs are not surely in the prime of their health to produce the desired healthy baby. Its all very true but nothing is certian...you may as well have a perfect baby at 40 but the chances of deformity are also there. So hurry up, you have only 4 years left

Oh gosh! same feeling here. I am in the point of my life which i am wanting to have a baby. I am nearly on my 30's and i am also worried about getting pregnant at an advance age. I have found the right man and we are miles apart too and we still don't know yet the exact time that we are going to be together to finally be as one coz there's still a lot of things to prepare. Probably it will a year from now and honestly i really wanted us to have a baby though it frightens me but i am certain i am very much like to have my own baby. I've been taking care and see my nieces and nephews grew as well as God childs but i haven't got my own. So i am pretty much pressure by all things around me including my age.

I am turning 30 years old this year, and I'm going to deliver my first baby in a few day time. Well, I've been reading some pregnancy books, saying it's actually having higher risk when the pregnant women are at age 35 and above, also it doesn't matter whether you are first time pregnant or not, as long as you are pregnant when you are above 35 years old, there is certain risk. But it doesn't mean that you can carry your baby well, just that perhaps you need to take extra care when you are pregnant and also you may need to do some testing for the baby, as the baby may have more health problems.

My mum didn't get married until her early thirties. My sister was born when my mum was 34 years old and that in those days was considered quite old to be having a first baby. However she had her second baby that is myself when she was 39 years old. My sister has four children and she had them at ages 30, 33, 35 and 39 years old. I was 22 when I had my first baby but 34 when I had my second baby. One of my friends had her first baby at age 39 and she got pregnant again three months later. So both her children have May birthdays. Every lady is different and some get pregnant quickly and others take some time. A lady might have more difficulty getting pregnant after age 35. The risk for having a baby with down syndrome increases with the age of the mother. One of my friends had a down syndrome baby at age 34 and then a normal baby at age 36. She goes to a club and one lady had a down syndrome baby when she was 22 years old. Good luck becoming a mother. I think you have sometime yet if you want to wait a few years.

I know I've always heard that there are more risks involved when a woman has a baby at a later age, and it may be true, but things are advancing more and more, and there are alot more older women having babies these days. I know this lady that has two girls they are healthy, she's healthy, she had her first one at age 41 and her second one at age 44. She didn't think she wanted children when she was younger, but she changed her mind, and had two beautiful healthy girls. So don't give up, it'll happen for you.

Here in Sweden the age for getting their first child is almost 30 - so many women gets their first baby after 30! You are not to old! I got my last child (hopefully) when I was 32 and my best friend had her second now at 35 (her first came when she hit 30). I know several women that got their first child late (after 35) and they're doing just fine. Good Luck!

Hello from what I have learned in school, and elsewhere...there are added risks with pregnancy later in life..this is for any mom..not just first time moms. I am not exaclty sure what all of these risks are...i do however know that after age 34, there is a higher chance of a women having an extra or missing (not sure) chromosone which can cause down syndrome. But that is after age 34. But many people have had healthy children well after this age, just as many younger and given birth to unhealthy children. The most important thing is to talk to a doctor or someone like that...who can adivise you of how to take care of yourself before getting pregnant, as well as when you are pregnant. Also make sure to have proper medical attention when you are pregnant. A lot of times this can help reduce the risk of complications. Good luck!!!

It is not too late to have baby when you are in your 30s. My mother had my older brother when she was 30 and had me when she was 36. Do not think about getting old and pregnancy at an advanced age. Just think about how happy you will be once you become pregnant.

I had my first when I was 31 and my second at 36. Many women are waiting until 40 to have their first, because of their careers, etc. I don't see any problem with having kids when you are older. Prenatal care is way more advanced than it was 20 years ago and you can even see your baby in 4D now on a scan. There are so many tests that can be done to see if everything is okay with the baby. I wasn't worried about having kids at an older age. The only thing is that the older you are the less patience you have... If you have any doubts, go to some parenting sites and take a look at the discussions in there. Maybe even ask questions.