If I disagree with someone, I'll be polite about it?

wow! what a philosophy. You put the very right things. Just foe me I was a bit aggressive( not here ) but another site where I still put my blogs. But as Time passed by I realized that things are not not good. Getting into the mud I have dirt my mind and body and soul. Whenever I has heated discussion I felt too bad. Now I have changed a lot and you see my approach here. Yes we can be of divided opinions but could put in such a way that the other side is not hurt. i can allude to one discussion that tool place on your topic and the end was so pleasant.

agree.some here are attacking each other instead of sharing thier opinion.some dont consider that this site is an open discussion.they get upset if they dont like your opinion.well in my case ,if i dont like the discussions i just skip and not even reading itmakes me happy even more.

I really do agree with you there.!

Strong disagreement and the expression of it in public would definitely invite criticism of all sorts.As for the responses , I would definitely be on the look out for healthy remarks...not just chiding and advice,but convincing remarks which usher in new ideas.

very well said. zandi.

Hello my friend zandi458 Ji, Nice topic. It requires to burn one's ego and accept the truth. On ehas to lean forward and apply 'Positiveness' pholosphy. Swami Vivekananda said, "Always remain positive". If you hahe to tell children , "not to climb ladder", refine your accepting language by children. Always pronounce, "IF you climb ladder, you are likely to fall down and get hurt". Never say, "Do not climb". Same case is here, we argue, deny, but we should never go beyond our limits. Lewt's not assualt each other. We are here to find out truth about ourselves, and if benifited, accept with smile. In both sentences sited by you as No.1 and 2, I will still find out yet another way of expressing, " I may not be with you, it does not suit me, I totally decend it and so on". So let's be more non-hurting to others type. may god bless you an dhave great time.

I normally be as polite as I can be. I understand that we each have our own ideas and opinions so I try not to tell people their ideas are stupid or anything. I would simply say I disagree with your idea, but maybe we can compromise. I am more about compromising and what not to keep that mutual respect and understanding.

So true zandi. I see people attacking members when they disagree with the response. Before you know it the thread is full of members who have joined in to bash the responder. I'm sure they contact each other off site and say check out this discussion, come and join in while we give this person a hard time. How stupid are they because they are doing to that person exactly (or worse) what they are accusing them of.

I try to be nice and try not to be accusatory toward people as well. But there are times when I get really tired of hearing people say the same "rumor" as truth and I have to say something. I always wish I hadn't. I never ever tell anyone their opinion or idea is stupid. I do say that isn't how I feel or that is not my opinion. I always say their opinion is theirs to give as mine is as well. I have gotten into a "battle of the words" with one lately, and ended it (on my end) today. I hardly ever do that, so your discussion today really hit close to home.

yeah, but sometimes if they will disagree with my opinion i will respect that because thats her/his points of view.. and vice versa, if i commented on his/her post and i dont agree with his/her opinion its up to him/her to response on that.. each and everyone of us has our own uniqueness, and all your comments are accepted, it may helps me more productive, or i may realize my mistakes either.. nice post zandi .. happy mylotting

It is more than agreement . It is polite to speak out disagreement in discussion .I think speaking frankly is a way to respect each other .

you cannot agree with every discussion started, if everyone agreed on everything there would be no interseting discussions, this is for sure. Sometimes it is true that certain people if they disagree with you they write that it is stupid that you are wrong, which is not a polite way to disuss. Everyone has opinions and everyone has to respect other's point of views, disagreement have to be polite and with reasons why you don't agree.

I would express my points of view politely, expain to avoid arguement.

Usually i select the discussion which i am interested in and i respond to them, and if i don't like their argument i politely disagree with them i don't want to hurt someones feelings so i respond in a polite manner. I just want to make god friendship with every one.

There are some controversial topics which make me write me views in the opposite direction. Sometimes, if I find a provoking discussion, I better not for my response to it. However, if I have to disagree with any comment or response, I try to be as polite and respectful, as possible. I will never write like this - "This is a stupid idea". I neither write this kind of language nor appreciate when some one else writes it in response to my post. I firmly believe that we need to be respectful to others even if they are not visible to us and we do not confront them face to face. If I disagree with any view, I would use the cool words, which otherwise I would have used had it been a discussion in real life. I just cannot be nasty to my friends here and do not ever feel like hurting any friend's sentiments. I believe that 'respect begets respect'. Good Post!

Gosh, if I had a penny for every time I've heard this statement, why can't we just get along and agree to disagree, respect and so on and on, I'd be rich by now. Sometimes it takes the hard way to learn such a thing as respect and constructive critisim and some of us never learn. We just have to accept or not accept people for who and what they are and just move on to bigger and better things.

Hi Zandi, I agree with your points sometimes we have strong disagreements and I think we have the right to show the same disagreement in a healthy way. But I have seen that some are replying rudely and I felt it definitely hurt others. In my opinion if one can't give their disagreement in a polite way rather than giving a harsh reply either they can skip the discussion or they can give their reply after two days and by the time the anger will low down and will be able to give their disagreements in a polite way. What I am doing is I will give my disagreements those who are close to me or I will make sure that those who can understand me and of course the second method. Or I may skip that discussion because I don't want to hurt anyone and it is not the purpose being here.

You're so right! Many times, people have tried to goad me and other tactful people on the Lot into anger and nastiness. I'm horrified to say I've thought about it. I don't think I've given in to those thoughts, as I don't consider all that ranting to be at all constructive. Respect is an absolute MUST!

I love healthy discussions. A healthy discussion does not mean always agreeing with each other. I love hearing different opinions as those variations increases my knowledge and tests my own knowledge as well. However, like you I want respect to remain in the midst of disagreement. I have had heated encounters with disrespectful trolls here at mylot. Sometimes, I can't help myelf but really answer them instead of ignoring as I usually do. Imagine how offending it is when you see an intruder who malign you and speak dirty words after you answer a post. I mean he can always respond in the post in whatever way she wanted but not adding comment in my respond and then impolitely contradicting my opinion using dirty words. I could not allow any dirty intruder to get away with her or his dirty speaking just like that. I've always thought myLot is a friendly and wholesome community but quite sad that there have been dirty and troublesome trolls that already invaded this community.

hi zandhi,you can still be polite even if u dont agree with one's opinions.we all have our own views and thats why were here exchanging ideas and opinions.its just a matter of how we relay our opinions to them.to each its own and if you want to be respected be respectful.have a nice day.:D