Revenge or Moving On?

I don't think it's a good idea if your still feeling bad about your last relationship. Let you find yourself first and love your self first before you go to a next journey. Know what you want first, like your career first, or enjoy yourself like going to places.I know it's not easy to move on, it's only time can tell and heal the wounds. It's kind a unfair for you and the next guy just for a revenge for your ex. If you love again it's a nice feeling that it's because you fell in love in a right time. Have a nice day to you! God bless!

WOW! I don't think you have to make sweet revenge in order to get over your ex. Rocky relationships suck... I've been there. And break ups are even harder in those situations for some reason. I don't think you need to start going on dates right away, nor do you need to forget about your dreadful past (which believe me... I have one of those too). I try and pull what I can from a situation, try and remember that everything happens for a reason and THEN move on. For instance - I dated a guy who was married and left his wife. They were doing horribly together for a long time and he left... although they never got divorced. We were only together for 5 months. The first month was wonderful, the other 4 sucked! We finally called it quits and he went running back to her, as I'd suspected he'd do. Now, they are doing wonderfully! They're more family like - he spends more time with the kids and appreciates her more than ever. I got hurt, badly in this relationship. He said and did a LOT of hurtful things... but if out of it he became a better husband and father in the end... then it was all worth it. Know what I mean?

i think when you aree fresh out of a relationship you will need the time for yourself. your friends arre pursuing you to go on dates that is because they think you are too absorbed i thinking bout your ex. you will not move on by doing that, neither does a revenge will help you move on. you should go out with your friends and not on dates, unwind and reflect, enjoy the singlehood before you enter into another relationship again

Forgetting an ex is not that easy, even you go out on a date. I think you just let the feeling go away first. Do you believe in rebound stage. No matter what you see someone new or meeting someone else it wont work and it's kind a unfair for that person. Even it's a sweet revenge it's you that will suffer the consequences. Even you pretend that your okay, it will still show. Anyway have a nice day to you!

don't waste time for revenge please because it's not worthy of your time. a new prospect is. so if you have a chance to date, grab each and every chance, they'll be a good help believe me.

I think it is better to move on....

I think dating after a break up is good. I started my relationship shortly after my ex. I haven't been happier and he helped me get over my ex. I don't think it was about sweet revenge or anything like that, it was just my happiness and that is what you need to be thinking about. What will make you happy.

Moving is a good choice but dating as soon as possible is not a good idea. I believe that you deserve to have a break from all of that. Starting a new one would just be a false pretense to cover up where you are right now. What I would suggest is to get rid of all of that hatred and pain about yourself and pamper yourself more then only then when you truly found yourself again that you can say you are ready to love others again. Revenge on the other hand is not advisable as it has high risk that you might get back on you twice which could be bad so let go and let God do the work for you and find yourself back again.

Hi, it's often easier said than done. The obvious and logical thing to do, is move on and focus your time and energies on something positive, rather than dwell on the past, making yourself unhappy and bitter. I would agree with one of the respondents that dating now is too soon - maybe it's better to make friends, go shopping or movies, involve yourself in activities you like!

I thought that I should take a revenge from my ex-gf but then I thought that if I loved her then how could I see her in pain. that would be difficult for me to see, isn't it? So, I gave that option up and went away from her life and thinking. I think crying helped me a lot forgetting my love. let your love go away from your mind in the form of tears!

For me I will choose and do a sweet revenge to my ex. I'm a type of lover that if somebody hurts me I will hurt them too. I will not stop unless I see him crying and begging.

hey friend, dont be in a hurry on dating someone just to show your ex that you have moved on. it really takes time to move on as they say "only time heals". it would just be unfair for that someone if you dated him/her just to have someone on your side. take it smoothly and be forgiving or better yet, dont think anymore of revenge, it would just make your everyday life full of hatred. godbless...

truly,just before this spring festive,i had experienced what you are agonizing now.the guy i fell in love with is attendiong school in wuhan,which is a big city in our china.while i study in beijing ,i went to that city and told him that i loved him ,and i wanted to be his girlfriend,maybe you can't understand,it's my first time for me to express my love to a boy.as i anticipate before,he refused enphemistically,telling he had had true lover.let you know,we had loved each other when we were in high school.being sad for about one month,i have got over it.now i accept love from another boy,and i am happy enough.i think each people should rely on her/himself to abtain happiness,don't let these frustrated pass events fill life and not find a way out.only if you can acquire quiet mood and happiness from dating with another guy,who knows how happy you will be in near future. all things are up to you!fighting!have a great day when seeing my reply.

I am pretty sure that everybody is going to tell you to just move on... but I will be a hypocrite, if I'll tell you that, but what I want to say is different. In my opinion, a sweet revenge is not that bad, especially, if a pesron repeatedly hurt you, did not seem to regret it. They just need to learn their lesson.

From the tags below, it seems to me you know how to do next. If you cannot keep the relationship, there is no sense hanging on. But it is difficult to forget, i know. Time is the best cure, or thinks of the happy days you were together and some of the bright parts of your ex. In due time, and with distraction of your busy study and work, and good terms with your family and friends, you might feel better. And time will come when you get to have some feeling with others. "While there are flowers everywhere, why should we cry over a fading one." that is a saying in chinese. The departure is a new opportunity for you.