Ladies: Would You Stay in an unhappy Marriage just for the Kids?

Un happy - Marriage in trouble
By Nic
@academic2 (7000)
Uganda
February 24, 2009 7:31am CST
Many women in Africa stick to abusive marriages fo the sake of the kids. They bare all sorts of abuses, they sometimes die in a really bad marriage! Would you stick in there?
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3 responses
@disvachic (10117)
• United States
24 Feb 09
I hear alot of people say they stay because of the children.I have never experience being in an abusive relationship but I was in one that I was unhappy with.My personal opinion I dont think its healthy for the children.I really dont think I could remain in an abusive relationship.If I'm not happy then the kids are not either.
@academic2 (7000)
• Uganda
1 Mar 09
You are right, if you are not happy, the kids will not be either. Thanks for your views.
@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
24 Feb 09
H[i]i academic, It's hard to talk when I am not in the situation but when it is very traumatic to my kids and to me, I will stay away from that marriage! I've known some girls who prefer to stay in their marriage for the kids and also because they can't afford to be with their own, their partners are the one earning, but no physical abuse for them....only that they are not happy for some reason![/i]
@academic2 (7000)
• Uganda
24 Feb 09
I agree with you checa, and that is the harsh reality unfortunately-even the African scenario I cite here is based on that analysis-it all turns out like some kind of self sacrifice for the sake of the kids! thanks for this response!
@Chispa514 (871)
• Montreal, Quebec
24 Feb 09
If it were up to me, NO i would not stay in a bad marriage just for the sake of my children. I would tell them that they are loved more than anything, and that is why I must leave the marriage. I've seen cases where women have stayed in bad marriages for the sake of children and ended up resenting the children afterwards and taking it out on them when its not their fault to begin with.
@academic2 (7000)
• Uganda
24 Feb 09
Sometimes, you really need to move away, lest you die and if that happens, the kids may suffer even more-staying alive and moving off with them calls for responsibility though-and that is what is difficult for most women!