Posting too personal problems here. Do you really like it?

Everyone needs a listening ear once in a while when personal problems and struggles becomes too great a stress and pressure for us to handle alone. What is better than Mylot where everyone is supportive and more than willing to listen? Nowadays with the fast pace of life and the availability of the WWW, people are no longer like those of the past. In this present days, not much people have enough time for others, and everybody has their own problems to ponder on and solve. No one wants to listen to YOUR problem. That's the sad reality of life. I too, write on Mylot my problems and struggles in life as I found that I am better at expressing myself in words rather than by talking. And that's a huge hurdle for me when I want to share with my real-life friends my own problems. I discovered that no one is really listening and they just want to talk about themselves too. In the end, it seems to be like a competition whereby its like comparing who leads a harder life, and who has a much more bigger problem to handle and solve in their lives. I am just sick and tired of that. To me, I find it an acceptable trend and practice. And it is definately normal and healthy. Afterall, everybody likes to share and by writing about our personal lives on Mylot, we are just sharing ourselves with others. There is nothing wrong with that. Well, take care and happy mylotting!!

I think that this is perfectly normal and very healthy. It is common knowledge that bottling your feeling up isn't healthy. I know that there are a lot of people that don't have friends or family that they can talk to about these problems, that is what mylot is for. Mylot is a place where you can talk about your innermost thoughts and feelings without fearing that you will be judged. I think that once you have been a mylot user for a while, you will come to get used to it and even appreciate that level of openess and honesty here. I know that one of the reasons that I love mylot so much is becuase it is a place where I can be myself and start dicsussions that I know my friends and family don't like to discuss and it is because of that openess that mylot has. I hope that you enjoy writting here and that you make lots of friends. Happy mylotting.

I agree with you. My ex used to be horrified that women would discuss their most intimate and private details with total strangers. I could be guilty of doing that to a degree because it was impossible to talk to him and get him to enter into a discussion. When I explained this to him he still insisted that I had no right to disclose his personal details to anyone and I had to agree with him. If I discovered him talking about me that way I would be hurt, humiliated and ashamed. So in this way it is not healthy. But on the other hand it gets the problem out in the open so the person is not dwelling on it, worrying about it and being frustrated and possibly depressed because they could find no answers, then it is a good thing. It's a pretty hard call that one cvrajan. Welcome to myLot.

I think it's perfectly fine. People on mylot can talk about their personal lives and know they are gettin unbiased advise, support from someone or any other thing they may need. And they may need to talk to someone about something but don't want real life friends or family to be aware and mylot is a good place to get that kind of help,support and advice.

I see nothing wrong with that.. i mean, people here in mylot seem to be very comfortable sharing their predicaments with other mylotters.. i must admit that i'm one of them.. you wanted to know why? simply because i can't confide my problems with my family.. i don't want them to worry about me.. so i just opt to share it with my friends here because i know they could help me out somehow.. you know, you've got a choice whether you want to share your dilemmas or not.. if you feel like not posting your problems here then don't... you always have a choice.. =)

I think one of the benefits of a forum like Mylot is the anonymity that it offers. It's sometimes nice to just unload and get advice from people that don't know you or the people involved in the situation. Sometimes advice from an unbiased third party is valuable. And yes, sometimes it's a little voyeuristic to read all about the problems of people you don't know but it is human nature and if the people with the problems didn't want other Mylotters reading all about it then they wouldn't post them.

I am not a fan of reading people's personal problems. I mention my life in aspects of how things can work like long distance relationships and stuff. But there are many that just go above and beyond what is proper on a public site like this.

It is very normal and healthy to get things off your chest and wanting to get outside advice is a good thing. We can get ideas and sometime talk to people that are in our situation and just knowing that there are other people out there just like you is a comfort even if you can't see them.

I think it is okay to post personal problems here. Sometimes it is better to seek advices or opinions from strangers because they won't be biased to you. I haven't posted any personal problems of mine here though.

This is only the tip of the iceberg. Being here only 4 days you are yet to see many more shocking revelations which you might never believe that people can really 'undress' in a public forum like mylot. I can tell you this type of topics are crowd puller and they excel in getting to the top list. It is only human nature to be curious and some take advantage of such situation. So get ready for more shocking discussions that you might encounter here. Welcome to mylot and hope you have an enjoyble time here.

Hi cvrajan. Well, good for you that you also noticed those discussions here. I find it normal but healthy? No, for me it's not. Maybe case to case basis. I've tried posting my personal problem here once, but it never happened again. I don't know but for me I want some things in my life to be kept secret. Even you know, I don't know you and you don't know me..still the impression will last. I don't want that to happen to me here. But I am not against to those people who is doing that just to earn or not. Because some of the member here says that they are not after the earnings but they are here to have friends ans share their feelings, knowledge and skills. Maybe that's more important I guess.. We have different preferences in life and maybe some people are just look up to, and make some ways to ease their pain in some way. I understand that and I admire them for that. Thanks for your discussion. Have a great day ahead and keep up the good work in posting new and interesting discussion, I will wait for another discussion...

Welcome to mylot, cvrajan! I don't agree that we have a "peeping Tom" mentality here or that we necessarily enjoy reading about other people's problems. I believe that the majority of the members who read about something that is going on in another member's life genuinely want to help if they can. I agree with the other posters who have said that, yes, it's acceptable and that sometimes there really is no one in a person's life who they can be open and hones with.

Hi welcome to mylot . Regarding the issue you have raised, i feel that it depends on the individual. Some people do not feel comfortable sharing or talking about their personal feelings. But at the same time I see some of the members here going through difficulties in their personal life, unable to share it with any one else. I feel that just the act of sharing and discussing their problems here, lightens their burden and gives them the feeling of being wanted, that there are people out there who care ! I personally feel that there is nothing wrong in such discussions, as long as something positive comes out of it

Actually there are lots of scenarios you will try to figure out as you grow old here, heheh! i am just like you when i started here at MyLot. Things go by smoothly to me until the more i participate, the more comments i get from fellow Mylotters. Just a tip for you, just ignore those who will write negatively on your opinion. I get a lot of annoying messages but it does not let me down. I will continue to post what i know is my answer to their query. Anyway it is not because of reading other peoples problem that you are here. The main concern is your participation in every discussion so that you will be earning something from your end and at the same time, help other users as you share your idea to them. It is just normal to post questions but for me if it is too personal, i better keep that to my confided friend, not here , but you know, people are different from each other.

sometimes when ya cant talk to your family or they dont want to hear it, a little outside help works sometimes. if it gets to elaborate i just pass on that one

alot of times you cannot even come to your own family with something because it makes them too 'uncomfortable'--i say, all the power to the fellow mylotters.

As what they have said, different folks, different strokes. Some people do share just about anything in their life here. Maybe their comfort level of being here in the forum is high so I can't blame them. I have not heard any rule that says you can't share your problems and worries in life here. As long as you don't curse or say foul language which some people even do find a way of doing it, I think it's fine. In the long run it is really all up to us if we respond to such qualms or not. ;-)

I love it! First of all I'm an extraordinarly nosey person and love to know everyone's business. lol. I don't mind to share my personal problems with strangers either. Heck, it's a lot easier when you're anonymous. Sure beats asking family for advice! Also, on discussion boards and forums like Mylot, you get a lot of different opinions. There is a wide range of cultures and beliefs represented here and that can certainly broaden your knowledge and help you solve problems in your life. Sometimes it feels good to vent. Just let it all out. For many of us this one of our only outlets to let our voices be heard loud and clear. I say, if it's on your mind...let it out!

I think it's up to the person writing the discussion to decide that. Sometimes I put my personal info out there, but it's only with the intent of making a point and an example of the actual discussion question. I try to make my questions open-ended, such as by sharing my own experiences first and then asking others if they've experienced the same thing. *shrugs*. I think it's acceptable.

I feel that a lot of people are able to share their personal problems because there is a level of anonymity with talking to others online. I feel it can be really helpful to know that someone else "out there" understands how you feel and might also be experiencing the same thing. Overall there are a lot of people here who really do care and want to help each other. I don't see it as "peeping tom" or even that someone is getting enjoyment out of it. Personally if I can help someone by commenting or giving advice I feel really good. People here have definately made me feel better when something was bothering me.