Issues with Hubbies Help Around the House??

I am a husband and i do not clean around the house. Do you not realise that once you say 'I do' it is your job to clean the house and my job to make a mess? If it was not for husbands you would not have odd socks. What kind of world would it be without odd socks?

i have no issues with my husband cleaning and doing things around the house. he likes to do it. which most men don't. he cooks, cleans, does the laundry and takes care of our son ( he is currently layed off), and even if he wasn't layed off, he still did the work anyways. he enjoys doing all the stuff, and hey, i can't complain!! can't find too many men out there that are nearly that perfect :) my suggestion is, start with just one job for him to do... like take out the trash. even if it's only one thing, one day a week, it's still something. but let me ask you this, does he take care of the outside stuff? most men think the outside stuff is THEIR job, and the inside stuff is OUR job. i wish you all the best of luck.... don't sweat the small stuff, or it will lead to big stuff, and end up somewhere you don't want to be.

10 years of marriage and this is still an issue with us at home. If his friends are comming over he will help but other then that "he works to hard". I think I work much harder then he does but to argue with him and get him to help is more work then to just do it my self. Id love to find a way to get some help. Thanks for this discussion.

well i dont have a husband, but my partner does not clean her fair share, but she works a lot more than i do. to make it easier for everyone, she hired me a cleaning lady! can you believe it! the cleaning lady only comes once a week or so, but it makes a huge difference, now i dont stress coming home and having to clean something like the bath tub or the floor (two of my least favorite things)..

yup it's a big issue yes he works 12 hrs a day BUT it's 3 days a week and I work 6 days a week and raise a child, while watching his children as well (we are a combined family) and up no help. Once and awhile I come home with kids in hand and he has done the dishes or something but it has to be on his terms. If I ask him to do something it takes 2 weeks for it to get done so it's hopeless, and I really don't like mess or clutter or anything it drives me crazy.

Ok well i must be married to an odd man because I dont have an issue with him helping clean up the house. I do not ask him to help clean on days he works. Although he does help me on his own and in 5 years never once did I catch an attitude or hear him complain. He also believes a female should not have to deal with the trash or clean the bathroom. Besides by the time he gets home from work and eats dinner the only thing left to do is clean the kitchen and the toys the kids were playing with.

My fiance and I don't do much chores as it is, so first let me say that. Lol, we don't have that issue, I've cleaned the kitchen just yesterday and he was upset at me for not waiting for him to help! Lol! I had fun though, as odd as that might sound! When I say clean the kitchen, let me clarify that I took the dishes out of the dishwasher, put them away, put more back in the dishwasher, wiped the counters down, wiped the microwave out, swept the floor, got the trash out of our bathroom, rewatered the dogs, put more food in our cat's bowl, fed the outside cat, gave my fiance the water bowl for the outside cat... lol it seems like a lot but it really wasn't... Hmm, I would say try to get him to do the dishes or something like that by asking for his help while doing so. Got a dishwasher but pots that don't fit? Have him dry them while you scrub!

My husband works full time and I am a stay at home mother. I do my fair share of the cleaning and yes, from time to time my husband does lend a hand. I feel that marriage shouldn't be one sided. I do believe there are marriages where it comes down to the fact that a husband might believe he should have freedom from helping in the home simply because he is working and paying the bills. I say wrong! This ranting and raving has to be tiring for you on your part. I don't think there is any excuse for your spouse not helping in the duties. It doesn't have to be the brunt of the house work. Maybe just give a helping hand here and there. Every little bit helps. You know, sometimes I don't know if the husband realize that they need us.

I am a stay at home mom, and my husband works alot, but he still does manage to help do a few things around the house from time to time. It's not really alot but it's the things that count, when he can tell I just can't take anymore, he'll do things and that's when it counts the most to me.

Early in our marrage (the first year) I was feeling used when it came to keeping house. we both worked the same amount of hours and both came home tired. I finnally broke down as most new wives do and he found me crying. After talking we decided that he would help more. This was nice for a while, then he started to forget to help. Now, because we both still work the same amount of thime, the house only gets cleaned when we are both home and are working on it together. This may only be 15 minutes a day but with two people it is 30. We each have one very specific job to do in addition to this. I cook(he can't and I do not want my pots and pans ruined), and he takes out the trash. Some days we will get going and look up to discover that the house looks great and it has only been 30 minutes and sometimes we will both work at it for an hour and feel like we have made no progress but the point is that we do it together. Our other agreement is that whom ever works the least gets to clean the most.

I grew up with three other sisters. We fought all the time over who was going to do what when Mom said we couldn't go shopping until the house was clean. Finally, Mom assigned specific jobs to us. Each week we had a new job. One week was dishes, another week was watching younger sibling, another week was taking out the garbage. We loved garbage week. That eliminated the "Whose turn is it to ________!" The point of all this is that most people do not like working in a house. Sometimes it's even worse if the person you are cleaning with or for is really picky (I'm the picky one). It's also hard when someone does a job and you just have to redo it. I guess this is just part of the battle. Over the years, I have realized that the house will always need attention. Sometimes it's nice to just relax in the middle of the mess and make plans for cleaning tomorrow. My sister's husband always says, "Why don't you ask the kids to help?" Her reply is, "Because I usually get no help or stupid help." She would rather do it herself or NOT!