just tell me am i wrong ?
By abcnadz
@abcnadz (457)
India
February 24, 2009 7:41pm CST
hello guys. i'm in a big confusion. hope you guys can help me out.
i met my guy from a social networking site almost a year back. he lives in a distant city and so we haven't seen each other directly. romance was really high in the beginning. i love him truly and i am quite possessive about him. he loves me too.
from the past 2 or 3 months, i feel that something is going wrong somewhere. i had a feeling that he isnt interested in speaking to me. the phone call duration reduced from 3 or 6 hours a day to 10 mins or even less. but i'm fine with it.
because of the sudden gap, i felt like he has lost interest in me. and now comes the foolishness i did :D. i statrd a fake a/c in a social site and added him to see if he flirts back. but my clever guy found out that it is a fake profile and he called me up and told me that some1 is playing with him. i didnt react much. and in the end he told me that he had a doubt if it was me :D
i think he has understood. i know i shouldn't have done this. and i'm very bad at lying.
i cant confess either coz i'm sure he'll dump me.. :(
wot do i do ?
i am not looking for an expertise love guru advice or so. just tell me guys what would you have done in this situ? do you think what i did is wrong ?
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8 responses
@ninzy_winzy14 (34)
• Philippines
25 Feb 09
i think what you should do *if your really don't want to admit that it was you" is to delete the account all together and erase any evidence that it existed all together.. as for the relationship, i guess you could just ask him directly.. cause it will just hurt you even more if you continue on to the relationship and the connection between you guys are not there.. i know it might be hard to accept whatever it is that he has to say, but you have to accept it in order to move on..
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@abcnadz (457)
• India
25 Feb 09
even i thought of telling him. but i'm sure once i tell him,almost everyday he will keep reminding of what i did. and i will feel guilty. and till today he ahs never given me a promise that we will b together. he says that only 40 percent of the things are alright between as.
i think the only way is that , i should be more strong and i hsould be ready to face anything that is going to happen.
thanks so much for your response. this of great help.
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@ninzy_winzy14 (34)
• Philippines
25 Feb 09
well, i think you shouldn't wait for him to tell you what your real status is.. cause i think the more you prolong this kind of gap between you guys, the more it gets harder for you to fix things.. so i suggest you ask him straight on what's going on and what's wrong and what's happening to your relationship right now.. honestly, 40% of things being okay is not a good odds for you sweetie.. you deserve better =)
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@juliotostado (168)
• Chile
25 Feb 09
I have to say that youre very sweet, because of the things that you did and you say. Youre a good person, but you need to bemore sure of what you are and what you offer. I think that hes been busy, or stressed out, who knows. But its better not to think whats its happening, the best thing is talk about it with the truth.
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@chabawel (329)
• Philippines
4 Mar 09
Question though, why invest in a relationship for so long, when the guy has not even given the time to see you in person?
Girls are very emotional and we do things that are "weird" just to get attention or make certain that our partner is there for us.
Now, if your time to communicate has lessened, then there is something wrong. There is definitely something wrong when the guy don't attempt to see you anyway in person.
If he does loves you, he'll find ways to meet up with you. He knows you have time for him, but how about him to you?
Check yourself here. You might hurt yourself in the process if you continue to stay in this long distance one way relationship.
Take Care.
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@delkar (1712)
• Romania
27 Feb 09
well, i`m 90% sure that he is cheating you. Or he is inloved with somebody else. You did the right thing. Don`t be sad for this. I think that you should find another guy for you. I`m sorry beause i need to tell you this straith , but it`s better like this. I know that you really care about him, but he don`t deserve your tears. If i were you, i would tell him that i don`t want anymore to be together, or you`ll find a way to break up, even if you really care about him. It`s better like that, then to come a day when he will tell you that he loves somebody else. Hope that you`ll pass on this, and i just hope that you`ll find your soulmate as soon as possible. You seem to be a quite nice girl, but a sad one, in this picture.. You don`t deserve to be sad! Just smile! 
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@yichuhehua (160)
• China
25 Feb 09
Hi, abcnadz, do not so worry. May be he is too busy, and maybe the time he phoned you he is not happy. That is not your fault. I think the most effcctive methord is to go to see him regularlly. Maybe he is miss you but have no time to see you, then you should to meet him actively. Hope you well!
@robertshay00 (446)
• United States
25 Feb 09
Ok you did a good job my wife now did the same to me when i was on c-lounge .. chat room on the cell phone I new she did that to me but she felt insurcure and needed reinsuring that I do love her and wanted to persure her..
If he leave's you then trust me he got someone else (don't you wish you could check his email's and text's)
All our hear't are out there for love will we get hurt well got to take the chance let your heart lead..My mom said something to me along time ago DO WHAT YOU DO TO MAKE HER FALL IN LOVE WITH YOU ...AFTER THAT DO IT EVERY DAY FOREVER..
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@n30wing (4767)
• Philippines
25 Feb 09
Well before my fiancee do that to me cause she just wanna find out if I do flirt with someone else. But she confess to me, that she just loves me that much, and just finding it out if there is someone else cause I was that far away from her. Id your doubting why not ask him directly. But it's very hard I know cause you don't wanna loose him. But also finding out the truth will hurt you sometimes but you will know were you stand then hiding from the bush. If she likes you and honest with you he will tell you the truth, but expect sometimes from the worst so it will be not much hurts. I don't think that is foolishness, you just wanna know the truth but scared. If he gets mad with you with what you did and telling him it was you, well I'll find it shallow, cause yo just wanna know the truth about his feeling for you. Then not being honest about it, and what you feel. Have a great day!
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@Canellita (12029)
• United States
25 Feb 09
Honey, it's time to move on. You need to go to a site like Meetup.com where you can meet people that live where you live who are interested in meeting in person to make friends and have people to do things with. Once you have a new social circle of people who like what you like you can meet someone for dating but you have to get out in the real world. Online relationships tank primarily because of the distance and because people are not really being themselves. If he didn't insist that you meet right away the way most men do on those sites chances are he wasn't that serious or he has met someone else in the real world. The distance thing gets old real quick and you just never know if the other person is really who they say they are. Move on and find someone who will appreciate you.
@abcnadz (457)
• India
26 Feb 09
there is truth in what you say . but i'm not desperate for anyone in my life. my age is also like that. i have more time. i should stick on to my real life things like career and family and focus on it. and will look for some1 once my heart tells me that i need someone. right now, i'm kinda feelng fed up with everything.
have a nice day :)
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@Canellita (12029)
• United States
5 Mar 09
It is good that you don't feel desperate to have someone in your life. That means you can make smart choices about what you need. I think focusing on career and family for now are a good thing and when the time is right you will find someone who is deserving of what you have to offer.
