Marrying for money...would you?

I could never marry someone for money. I am currently dating a military man (US Army) and I am drawn to his personality and sure he looks good in his uniform, but I am more drawn to the fact that he is willing to serve our country I think that takes a lot of courage. I would marry him for love not money.

Hi Beth - I definitely would never consider marrying for money... I think that is horrible. I know what you mean about the military because I used to live in Norfolk, VA and it seemed like everybody there was either in the military (mostly Navy) or married to someone in the military. My first husband was in the Navy. The money wasn't super but it paid the bills and we eventually were able to buy a house, medical was completely free including all prescriptions. When I gave birth to my son, the hospital bill was $1 for using the phone. I actually think people in the military get too much for FREE. It is ridiculous! I understand that they are serving our country but still, it just doesn't make sense to me. My sister got a gastric bypass completely free of charge because her husband at the time was military. I could go on and one about this subject but I don't want to type forever. LoL! Hope you are having a good day BethTN81! Jill

I hadn't heard of that going on... and to be honest, I was happier before I read this post. How depressing! I mean, yes, it would be nice to find a husband who can take care of themselves financially, but I wouldn't want to marry anybody just because they had money rolling in! Besides, the idea of marrying someone just to have them go off to war on me is a sad one; the whole point of marriage is to be with the other person, isn't it? Or at least, wasn't it at some point?

Marrying a man for that sole purpose? Irritating. Even though I'm not married, I have no idea what the future will bring my military boyfriend and I. Then again, he's in the Texas Army National Guard and normally is on the "Reserve" list, he's active duty now and deployed in Iraq. I can't see marrying him for his money. For one thing, a military couple must test, learn and survive a long distance relationship. If their husbands are shipped overseas, then there's no physical lovings, no hugs, no dates and no dinners. That woman will be by herself and who is to say what she will do or see during the soldier's absense. I'm sorry to be so blunt but people are weak and shallow. The only reason I have gone astray from my redheaded soldier is...I don't want to. I've been married before and I have children, I don't have the time. I don't have the desire to deal with someone else's love drama when I sometimes can barely hold onto the one I have now. That and my kids remind me every day of my soldier and his love. IF...a big "if" I was to ever embark on that road again, I'd definately make damn sure it's what all of us wants. I don't want to marry a man and find out five years later that he's the biggest jerk that ever walked the face of the earth. *Pleiades

People marry for all sorts of worse reasons than money. The military thing does not really appeal to me but being older and wiser at this point in life I understand why it is important for at least on person to have at least some money when starting a family because that is what marriage is. It is a new family with a load of responsibility and obligation. Money could not be the sole factor for me though. I have to know I could put up with the person and that we have some things in common and that they were not evil or insane.

I'm so shy when it comes to military men that there's no way I'd just go right up and start a conversation with one. lol That being said, the whole marrying for money is disgusting. I used to hang around a guy who was well off, but though I began to have a bit of a crush on him, I got over it real fast when he started insulting my family. I refuse to marry someone like that, no matter how rich he might be.

I do not know others, i will not marry for money. I think money can make if two person strive tegother. I will marry the man i love, in my opinion, the virtue of a man is the most important. He should have a goodness heart, and he should be self-motivated, money is not a factor.

Yes. Money is important in everyone's life, but money is not equal to happiness, right? I think marriage should base on LOVE. you know, no matter how tough the life is, you can still feel happiness if you have love.