How Much Is "Too Much"

@margaux08 (1094)
Philippines
February 24, 2009 8:58pm CST
For FRIENDSHIP... For LOVE... When do you say no? What are the limitations? How will you gauge if what you are doing is already "enough" but not too much? How would you know if what you are doing for your friend...or for your love... is "too much" already? How are boundaries set?
5 responses
ronnyb
@ronnyb (6113)
• Jamaica
25 Feb 09
I am willing to do just about anything for friendship ,family and love .However if I am being asked to do something that is against my moral or personal stance then I will say no.I will not let anyone affect my morality and give me a bad conscience In addition if this person is always asking me to do things for them and will never reciprocate then I will say no Finally if I feel slighted that is ,I feel that all I am to this person is just someone to contact when they need something done then,I will say no. Other than that I am willing to extend myself for love ,friends and family. Good discussion
margaux08
@margaux08 (1094)
• Philippines
25 Feb 09
I knew it! There must be boundaries then. Right now I feel as though I am numb of helping those people around me but when I need someone to just listen...just listen... to something I have to say... there is none. I may keep some reservations for myself then... Thank you for clearing this up...
veejay19
@veejay19 (3589)
• India
25 Feb 09
Hello Margaux, good day to you. Real friendship or real love is unconditional.You cannot set boundaries or limits in friendship or love. Its not a trade, ie, if i give you so much, then you give me so much. In love and friendship it is only give, give, and give.There are no expectations or rewards for the taking otherwise it is nothing but commerce.If you expect something from your frien or lover then that relationship has no value. You are as good as a shopkeeper and nothing more.True love and friendship is eternal and as i said before without any pre-conditions.
margaux08
@margaux08 (1094)
• Philippines
25 Feb 09
Hi veejay, Thank you for your eye-opening response. It just smack me out and back to my senses. You see...I am quite aware even before that in the name of love and friendship, there are no boundaries. What you give, you give openly, wholeheartedly, without expecting anything in return. People I love did not request for me to love them that much. I just hope it's easily said than done...
veejay19
@veejay19 (3589)
• India
25 Feb 09
Hello Margaux, good day to you. Real friendship or real love is unconditional.You cannot set boundaries or limits in friendship or love. Its not a trade, ie, if i give you so much, then you give me so much. In love and friendship it is only give, give, and give.There are no expectations or rewards for the taking otherwise it is nothing but commerce.If you expect something from your friend or lover then that relationship has no value. You are as good as a shopkeeper and nothing more.True love and friendship is eternal and as i said before without any pre-conditions.
veejay19
@veejay19 (3589)
• India
25 Feb 09
Hello Margaux, good day to you. Real friendship or real love is unconditional.You cannot set boundaries or limits in friendship or love. Its not a trade, ie, if i give you so much, then you give me so much. In love and friendship it is only give, give, and give.There are no expectations or rewards for the taking otherwise it is nothing but commerce.If you expect something from your frien or lover then that relationship has no value. You are as good as a shopkeeper and nothing more.True love and friendship is eternal and as i said before without any pre-conditions.
veejay19
@veejay19 (3589)
• India
25 Feb 09
Hello Margaux, good day to you. Real friendship or real love is unconditional.You cannot set boundaries or limits in friendship or love. Its not a trade, ie, if i give you so much, then you give me so much. In love and friendship it is only give, give, and give.There are no expectations or rewards for the taking otherwise it is nothing but commerce.If you expect something from your frien or lover then that relationship has no value. You are as good as a shopkeeper and nothing more.True love and friendship is eternal and as i said before without any pre-conditions.