Is divorce common ? is it increasing ? if so, why?

I do believe divorce is common but I do also know I watched the news the other day and they were talking about how those who want to be divorced are finding themselves unable to because of the costs involved. A couple was actually on stating that they are still living in the same house - seperate rooms of course with the understanding that they are divorced but just don't have that legal title. Had nothing to do with kids or assests it was just a more economical solution at this time for them. I do also believe that young people today like the idea of being married. I am currently engaged to someone whom I've been with for 3 years now. My main rule I had before I got married was to live with the person to make sure I was able to "deal" with their lifestyle. You never truly know someone until you live with them, and though a lot of "old school" people don't agree with this it saves a lot of marriages from ending because the couple has time to understand the little things that one person may do that gets under their skin. I have been living with my fiance for 3 years now and know of a couple who just got married a year ago and have lived together on their own for a year that are having SERIOUS problems because of the "pet-peeve" items they nit pick at. You also have the couples with the big age difference & maturity. Especially when it involves a couple with one person being under the age of 21. I have seen 2 sets of friends go through a divorce early on because their significant other wasn't "legal" and they wanted to do the party stage where as the other had been there done that. It takes a toll when the younger of the two wants to experience life as many put it while the other is ready to settle down.

I think that divorce is too common. I know people in the military that go from one marriage, get divorced then go and get married again within just a few months. Being in your early to mid 20s with 2 exhusbands is crazy. There is way more then 50% of military personnel divorcing.

Divorce is common in my family because people rush into relationships and because they find out that the person they married is not or was not the person for them. It is not a big deal anymore, but it hurts if there are children involved. My boyfriend's parents are recently going through a divorce, and we all saw it coming. His father is total a @$$hole (I can say worse, but that word sums it up for now), and his mother took 24 years of his crap, and she was sick of putting up with him and they way that he treats people. Some women, they get with men, and they jumped into marriage before really getting to know the person that they are with, and once they find out who they are with and they find out the kind of person he is, the damage has already been done. Divorce can be avoided if people just think twice before marrying the person that they are with. Question that person and question the relationship. Does he want the same things that you want? Are you two mentally compatible? Do the two of you want only each other and no one else? Do the two of you feel great around each other? Do you two want to grow old together? Will he take care of you when you are sick? What does he want and what do you want? These are questions that you seriously have to ask if you want to marry someone.

Yes and probably. Why? Because too many people just jump into marriage, they don't think about it. Unrealistic exectations (of more than the religion-upbringing based variety) and not being very good at relationships probably doesn't help for some couples either. Instant-gratification probably contributes a little bit. After the glow of marriage, the good stuff tends to become less intense, less frequent, less constant...especially if there's a relationship disconnect...due to some of the above, perhaps?

Well there are many factors to why divorce is so common, I believe. One is that many people get married and don't ever intend to work on the relationship. People don't realize going in that it's not going to be a piece of cake and that the initial "puppy love infatuation" stage is not going to last forever. Relationships take hard work, and compromise on all ends. When things get rough people don't value the marriages enough to stick in there - but would rather take the easy way out and end the whole thing and then unfortunately, when they start all over again, they take the same ideals and same baggage with them. I do believe as a Christian that all marriages need a solid foundation. You need to surround yourself with successful couples and marriages and/or people that carry strong values of respect for one another and for making things work. Without this, divorce is a huge possibility.

in most of the western countries, they applied divorce but not in the philippines. the churhch is against with it. it's a sacred matrimony to be keep forever. divorce is increasing every year. some believe that why live with the person when you dont have trust, love and respect with each other anymore. the option is divorce.

Me and my partner have been together for two years now, and not once have we talked about marriage. He was married before, and his wife was killed in a car accident. It is something that he'll never get over, and I respect his feelings if he never wants to re-marry. However, we have a daughter together now, and it has made me really want to get married and carry his name. But I have to put my own feelings aside, and understand that he is just not ready for that step. I think that living with each other first is much better than going through the wedding, finding out it's not going to work, then go through the painful process of divorce. Living with each other is way different than just dating. You discover so many little things about one another that you would have never known about while just dating. It's definitely worth waiting and making sure that you are right for each other.

Yes divorce is becoming so common and it is increasing yearly. We see it on tv, we see it in real lives and we are experiencing it. I think this is because a lot of us marry early or marry when we are inlove, During this time we are too blinded to see the real attitude of our partner, after this feeling of inlove, we realize that the partner we have chosen is not right for us. And I agree with you that people marry at a very young age, it's either they want to live away from their parents.

I think, because the world now is full of stress our relationship is also affected. Some people can't handle it, and some people has changed by time and thier feelings changed too. Until they find another happiness and wanted freedom so they decided to get divorce. Happy posting.

it's not common in the past but now I have to say it's a common thing in the world,many are indiscreet to get married before they know each other well.some even get divorced after they married to each other for only 1 or 2 monthes,that's terrible.we should really treat marriage more seriously I think