Will you marry a guy or a girl is infertile?

No, I really don't think I would end up with a person who is infertile. It would be a boring union without the joy of having children around. No matter how great the love is it will one day turn stale and cold if you come back home only to be met by the same person year in year out without the greetings from children. The ultimate aim in any marriages is to produce children and that cement the love of a couple.

I wouldn't mind. I can't stand the thought of having something grow inside of me for nine months, and I was planning to adopt anyway. At least we won't have to worry about birth control. :o

Yes, because there is a strong possibility that I, myself, might be infertile. If I am, I will adopt children, of any race or ethnicity, but I am hoping that I am fertile. My boyfriend and I would really love to have children of our own one day.

I am a big advocate for adoption, so I would definitely say to stay with the girl. I also understand, however, that building a family is an extremely personal thing and peoples' feelings can be very different regarding whether they want to bear their own children or adopt. I would advise this man to really consider the matter before making any decisions, and to think about whether not being able to bear a child of his own blood would be an absolute necessity for the success of the relationship with this woman. If the answer is no, that he would be very happy with her either not having children, or with adopting them, then I would say, this really isn't an issue at all, and I wish them and their future family the best!

Hi ktosea....That is very difficult to say what I would do unless I walked in his shoes. However, in my own mind, I would still marry my partner. So what if she cant have children. There are so many precious children in this world waiting to be adopted and loved. But perhaps his country does not believe in this. I would say its his life and he should follow his heart. Sorry but happiness is more important than pleasing a tradition I would think. You only live once and should make the most of it.

nope, i would not want to marry a guy that is infertile as in the future i want to have my own kids. so before you commit into relationship make sure you talk about anything including having a family in the future so you both know what you want in the future, i think thats a very important to discuss about to your partner if you want to have a family with that person. happy mylotting!!!

If I were in his shoes, I'd let the girl decide what she wanted instead of deciding for her. While I'm not generally the marry'n type, infertility or fertility isn't really important to me...so sure.

I think he really is in a dire situation. People who don't really know the life of conservative families or communities won't really understand. But you see, there are many ways to conceive, there are test tube babies, etc. By the way, why did you say that after surgery she won't be able to give him a child? Why is that? Is she taking out her mattress or ovaries? It's true though, that there would be complications with the family should he not obey his parents, but on the other hand if he loves the girl, it would certainly be tough as well because you just don't turn around when things aren't how they are, right? I know of a friend who's around 66years old now. His wife wasn't able to give him children and it was already in their 50's that he found out that it was not him who wasn't able to have children, it was his wife. And you know what, I was surprised when he told me that he shouldn't have married her in the first place, yes he did love her, but they should have just became lovers than being married. Well, perhaps he has his reasons, or perhaps it was due to old age. Anyhow, the man should decide. He should be honest enough to himself and to the girl. Yes, the rejection could hurt the girl, but in time she would accept it specially because he was the only child. On the other hand, if he does choose the girl over the family. Sooner or later, they'd understand as well because they have nothing to compare her to. Since she's the only daughter in law. Anyhow, time heals all wounds. And besides, perhaps by the Grace of God they would have kids, right? Nothing is impossible with God. Good luck!

i think if this is known before marriage and the other person really wants children it can be a real problem. but many times people marry and then find out later after trying to have a family that there is a problem. i think it is a hard thing for both people to deal with especially if they love each other and want to be together. not being in that situation i cannot say what i would or would not do.

Hi there ktosea! If I were him I will still marry the woman. Love beats all the odds. Why should he listen to his parents? Marrying someone who cannot bare a child is not a crime and besides if I really love the woman I will not let anything stand on our way.

If i was in his position i would never leave that girl. love has no measure and it sees no mistakes in the other person. Because i love her i will marry her and i will if in future want children will wholeheartedly adopt children who are orphans. there are many children who has no home, no parents and who are waiting for love and affection, why should someone give birth only and love a child, cant they love orphans? these kids are also humans right? and real love is loving others more then loving our own people.

Hi Ktosea....man thats a difficult name to spell as well as speak out....m wondering how it is spoken....anyways about the topic now....i would say that if i am in love with a girl and know that she's the one for me then no damn thing can stop me from marrying her....yes she should also accept me.....even if she had a disease of any damn kind.....even if i knew that she wont live long or whatever....i know myself....and in thins case even if the girl is infertile i wont let anyone stop me from being with her....obviuosly i can adopt a child..... now talking about parents....firstly i know that my parents wont object to anything that i do..... but if someone's parents do object i'll just not care coz i've already decided that the girl is the one whom i want to care about....yes i also cant leave my parents....so i'll keep on trying to explain to them that what i did was not wrong and that nothing can be done now so they should just accept it...... i just gave the answer from my perspective....if you have any other doubts do comment back....

I will fight for that person whom i love regardless of incapability..the most important thing is you love each other..

as long as i was in love with the person, and had very strong feelings for the person i would marry them. im spending the rest of my life with that person, not with the criticks, we could always adopt a baby, and love it and treat it as our own

Well I have nothing against a girl who has to go through this situation.. But to marry a girl who wants children but cannot have any is a really tough decision to make.. If you can't understand her feelings and start abusing her for being so sad about it or something like that..Then you might end up being a divorcee

Well having a child of your own is very important when deciding to be married with somebody. That is why you decided to build a family for the sole purpose that you want to have your own children too. But in this cases it is really depends on how the boy really loves the girl. Sometimes childless marriages can work if both do understand the consequences of their partnership. If the boy could love her despite the inadequacy that the girl could offer in the marriage then go for it. There are many options like adoption and many other creative ways to have a child in the marriage. But if he cannot stand having no child with him it is better for him to leave the realtionship this early because it would only hurt him more later.

I really don't think I could, its very sad for the partner, but I adore children, I couldn't imagine life with out children

Fertility is definitely not an issue for me when considering marriage. I really want to have kids one day, but I'd be just as happy adopting a child as I would having my own biological child. If he loves her and wants to spend the rest of his life with her, he should definitely marry her no matter what his parents think! If they want to have children, they can adopt. His parents might not like the idea at first, but once they meet their grandchild for the first time they might think differently.

I think he needs to do what is in his heart! When you are truly in love with someone this shouldn't be an issue now or in the future. There are alternative ways of having children than just giving birth. If you really want to be with someone you should be able to work through anything...anytime. He needs to be his own man and make his own decision on what to do and not let his parent run his life...after all he won't be spending the rest of his life with his parents...he will be spending it with the one he loves.

if im that man ill marry the girl because not having a child is not the barrier for getting married, you can even have a child of hes opwn by go to a adpotion of a baby. the mean point why we marry because we love that person, to be with her by the end of our lives and to be live happy to the someone you love