Just not sure what to think...
By smartie0317
@smartie0317 (1610)
United States
February 26, 2009 1:54am CST
Life has been really bad for me lately. I don't like college, I'm having money problems, and my home life is not what I want it to be. I find myself stressed and busy. I don't even have time for MyLot, and I love it here. 
As some of you may know, I have a "friend" in CA. He used to live in NJ, but that's a long story. I haven't apoken to him since late Dec or early Jan. He was supposed to come to NY for work stuff and he couldn't be bothered to give me details to meet him and I've been annoyed since. Well yesterday, I go online to relax and he ims me out of the blue. Just nice as ever. I don't think him serious because he's prone to on and off behavior. We talk and he mentions something I was surprised he remembered, but was glad he did secretly. I didn't show I was glad because I didn't want to incase he did it for the wrong reasons or just mentioned it but was not thinking of me. Later, I have to go. He says "Will you be on later?" I tell him "No, I have things to do and will most likely fall asleep when my errands are done." He says to me, "You know, I was thinking the other day I really miss talking to you regular." I was touched by just said my normal good byes and he did, too. I cried for two hours after that. I was so happy to see someone thought of me. 
Anyway, not sure what to think. Do you think he's becoming nice and more caring? Is he less selfish and passive aggressive? I just feel so unsure. I don't wanna make time for nothing. I really think if if were to pull his games, I would call his mom and get his phone number and cuss him out.
As some of you may know, I have a "friend" in CA. He used to live in NJ, but that's a long story. I haven't apoken to him since late Dec or early Jan. He was supposed to come to NY for work stuff and he couldn't be bothered to give me details to meet him and I've been annoyed since. Well yesterday, I go online to relax and he ims me out of the blue. Just nice as ever. I don't think him serious because he's prone to on and off behavior. We talk and he mentions something I was surprised he remembered, but was glad he did secretly. I didn't show I was glad because I didn't want to incase he did it for the wrong reasons or just mentioned it but was not thinking of me. Later, I have to go. He says "Will you be on later?" I tell him "No, I have things to do and will most likely fall asleep when my errands are done." He says to me, "You know, I was thinking the other day I really miss talking to you regular." I was touched by just said my normal good byes and he did, too. I cried for two hours after that. I was so happy to see someone thought of me. Anyway, not sure what to think. Do you think he's becoming nice and more caring? Is he less selfish and passive aggressive? I just feel so unsure. I don't wanna make time for nothing. I really think if if were to pull his games, I would call his mom and get his phone number and cuss him out.2 responses
@ninzy_winzy14 (34)
• Philippines
26 Feb 09
i think first of all you have to look at the situation objectively.. because you are emotionally attached to the person, you are more vulnerable to get hurt.. you just think of it like being in touch with just a friend.. answer him when he ims you just let him make all the first move and just don't fret about him not calling or ims you because the more expectations you set for yourself the more disappoinments and hurt you'd encounter after..
@melissapalardy (213)
• United States
26 Feb 09
i think you need to talk to him and tell him how you feel. this all can be taken care of right away with just a simple phone call or message telling your friend how you feel. you should never hold your feelings inside to sit and fester. then one day he is going to do something little and you are going to blow up at him. you should just talk to your friend and tell him how you feel. i'm sure you will feel a lot better
