Have you ever had an unwanted admirer?

I remember when AI was in my teen years being a silent type boy and as much as possible avoids being seen in the background in short a loner guy I was surprised that I attracted a group of ladies that followed me and almost stalked me back then. They would follow me wherever I go and I felt a little bit harassed because I never felt attracted to them at all. It lasted very short because I think they felt I was not interested. At the back of my mind I felt good too that someone took notice on me but I think being young at that I felt I was just not ready to jump into into it. Then I remember during the last years in High School there was these group of girls again from a lower year level that did the same thing. They even made friends with my teacher in one of my subjects and teased me during those times. During graduation, I was surprised that she took initiative taking pictures of me and before I finally left High School he gave me a charcoal illustration of myself. I did not appreciate her gestures and I never did see her when I went to college.

Hey there jesssp I have a hard job getting an admirer even an unwanted one!! Seriously though I can imagine what a difficult situation it must put you in and sometimes people don't get the message not matter how you put it to them, softly softly or as blunt as you like. I think also you sometimes have to be nasty to someone in the hope they understand you are not interested and then onlookers look at you in a different light. I hope this doesn't happen to you and it doesn't grind you down too much. Take care and good luck!

Yes I had been one. There was this schoolmate, he had been eyeing me since we were in grade school, we were as young as eight or nine years old. When he tried to court me during that time I told him straight forward that I am not interested in him, but he still continued until high school, even though I transferred to another school. It's a good thing that when we were in the university there wasn't any form of communication until the time taht I started working. But now since there are a lot of social networking sites where I have accounts, he messages me every now and then and wants me to include him in my pool of friends. I have nothing against him personally but I don't want this kind of attention. It's really annoying and unpleasant.

I had an admirer that I never met. When I was in business school, there was a guy I used to talk to often, and he used to walk me to the bus stop. One night when I got home, I received a phone call from a man I did not know, who told me that the man from my school had given him my number. He knew what I looked like, but I did not know what he looked like. He would call me every night, and we became telephone pals for a while. It was really strange, because I did not know who he was, but we did have nice conversations.

Years ago. I didn't deal with it at all. I told my sister about it and she dealt with it herself. All it took was one SMS and then he just stopped bothering me. My sister never told me what she said and I don't really thing it matters to me :) Thanks for the response on my discussion!

Hi jesssp...I have to share this funny story. When I was a teenager, (many years ago) I used to get this valentine delivered to my door every year at valentines day. Whoever it was, put it in through the mail slot and ran. I was never able to see who it was and it was always written in french,.(which I dont speak)but it always said, "to a very pretty girl. love you always" When I got older and more frustrated as I never knew who did this, I devised a plan. The day before valentines day, I pinned a note to the outside of the door. It read "Thanks for all the years of lovely cards but if you love me that much, how about a diamond ring next time?" I never received another card!!..and never knew who it was either!!

I was as blunt as I could possibly be. I told him I wanted nothing to do with him and couldn't even be friends with him because he just couldn't let go of his feelings for me. He would get mad everytime I would go out with a guy or he would run out of his classroom when I walked to mine (we went to collge together). He gotso annoying. I just stopped answering when he called, or opening the door to him. My friend had to threaten him to get him to leave me a lone.

I had an admirer that I definitely didn't want. From my preschool years up until highschool that guy chased me everywhere and was constantly trying to convince me to date him. I always tryed to avoid him as best as I could but it never really worked out and he just never got the hint that I wasn't interested in him. Before I graduated highschool, he actually was with a girl and he got her pregnant. They eventually got married and they have a little boy together. However, whenever he sees my mother he has to know exactly what I'm doing and why I'm doing it and where I am and my mother happily gives him this information. I really hate that she does it because I really don't want him to know and I tell her this but it doesn't seem like she always gets the hint.

Yes, I had one, about 5 years ago. I had been straight-forward from the start and stated I only wanted to be friends. But, he bought me gifts every chance he had. At first I accepted them graciously. Thank goodness he did live 2 hours away from me, so I didn't see him all that often, but even seldom got to be too much. I tried to be pleasant about it, but ended up having to be a biotch about the whole thing. He did cross the line from admirer to stalker. And in the end, he left me alone........after he lost his job, for making harassing phone calls from work. He really underestimated me and who I had connections with.

I had that experience when I was in 2nd year college and was also working part time at Pizza Hut. There were two of them, both Delivery Riders. They were both persistent but I didn't like either of them. But I just told them that I'm not into a romantic relationship at that time. They persisted but I told them that I didn't want to keep their hopes up. Maybe it helped that they both "lost", there's no winner. Fortunately, they did stop and respected what I wanted them to do.

That happened to me a couple times and I ended up having the call the cops, I was followed everywhere. This was before stalking laws and the guys got stern lectures and some pretty serious threats. After that it stopped but it was very scary. I'm glad yours is only making puppy eyes!

oh yeah plenty lol its pretty exhausting. i have one right now but hes not getting tht hes the wrong ssex lol. hoping he will move on soon as i have no desire in hurting his feelings

i have not experienced that in my life though. as far as i know none, and i understand why. i am not gifted with nice looks. and i am below average in terms of look. and sl i wish sometiems i do have some admirers. but of course from someone i will want to have some admiration from me. form some one i am atrracted to or find attractive so that i will not get bothered of the person's staring at me.

haha yes, and it sucked. he was like a complete starlker and creep. i hated it because im not a mean person, and couldn't tell m=him i didn't like him at all. he got the idea that i didn't like him, when my friend monalisa yelled at him, and then my ex thretened him.

Ya, I have. Working in the public, often times simple friendly & courteous gestures are misunderstood to mean much more. I just thank them and tell them that I am already seeing someone (whether I am or not). That usually works pretty well.

i have had several of them in my life and most of them were guys that i was friends with. i had no interest in them other than friendship but they had other ideas. it happened to me three times and then i just stopped being good friends with guys because of it. i needed a friend not someone putting pressure on me to try to make into something it was never going to be on my part.

I had one back in high school but he knows that there wouldn't be a chance for us because I do have a boyfriend at that time plus we were never really close at school. funny thing was no matter how I tried to avoid it (I was nice to him though), he happens to be on the same school as I was in college and we also had the same workplace when I had my first job!

Been there sister,there this guy at school keep texting me and said he wanted to chat,god know how he got my phone number,but it get annoying sometime,even i constantly gave massage that I'm not interested,he just would;t back down,it doesn't make me feel flattery at all,i hate when things like that happen.

yes, there was this lesbian i befriended at work, well if you're the supervisor you need to maintain some sort of camaraderie with your subordinates that's what i thought. but this lesbian may have misinterpreted me and then started sending messages, and that she likes me, blah blah, i started avoiding her, good thing i got a new work so i didn't stay long in that company.

not just one but many....!!! And the best part is one of them was my bestest friend.....i knew about it but i never felt the same about him so i indirectly tried to tell him so many times...that we can only be good friends and i will love to have him as a friend....but he never accepted that and kept trying to impress me by one thing or the other. But when i actually found some one with whom i fell in love then he pretended as if he wanted my happiness all the life and that he is happy i found someone....but later on he fought with me so badly and blamed me for his low scores in classes and for everything that went wrong in his life...!!!! I just hate these type of people.