Getting to close

@zenki08 (700)
Philippines
February 26, 2009 3:42pm CST
Hi Guys! My best friend of more than 10 years is having some problems dealing with this girl he met. His afraid to get to close to the girl because he might just fall for this girl. Now I know there is nothing wrong with that, but the thing is the girl has a boy friend that is why I advised him to just play it cool. He knows this too but can't seem to stay away. Most of the time he spends his time with the girl helping her out talking and everything. I'm afraid that he might fall in love with the girl and be in awkward situation. I just don't know what to tell him anymore.
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8 responses
@dismalgrin (2604)
• United States
27 Feb 09
Sounds like this guy is already head over heels in love! Haha, I don't know to many men that would be there for my every need unless they loved me. Sure, if the guy loves you he might get a friend to help with things he can't... but I don't think most men would help a girl unless they are already there. Ya know what I mean? So, he real problem is wether he should let the girl know. At this time, I says no. But, secret love is okay for only a time though. So, if she seems more open later I'd say take a stab and tell her. But he shouldn't do anything awkward like try to kiss her to let her know how he feels. He should just say something like 'I really care more for you than just a friend would.' that is way less awkward to deal with if she feels the need to turn him down.
@eggpoy (133)
• Philippines
27 Feb 09
It is not much having control over them - we are all going to have those feelings because we are all just humans. The trick is facing them head on and addressing them as things happen, as opposed to shoving them down inside and repressing them.
@ddnj2006 (652)
• Philippines
27 Feb 09
there's nothing wrong to be close to the girl, as long as he can handle his feeling. now, it he does not, then, there's no choice but not to get too close, specially when that feeling comes more and more. now, to move on, just tell your bestfriend, there is always who's meant in each of us. if it the girl or not, just be assured not to do any harm or make any complicated move to the girl, knowing, she has her own boyfriend.. saying "i can't" always start in believing he can't. but having faith starting to believe "i can" means she's not the only girl in the world. there's so many thousand ones who deserve your bestfriend more.. :-)
@brew2x (3094)
• Philippines
27 Feb 09
First of all let me tell you that your friend is pretty lucky to have you, you are a true friend indeed. It seems that you've already done warning him yet he still continue in being with the girl. I think your friend already know what might happen and he just should be ready to have a broken heart just in case things doesn't go his way. Just be there when that time comes.
@n30wing (4767)
• Philippines
27 Feb 09
Hi zenki08 for me I don't think so getting close to the girl. I think friendship is a good foundation in a relationship. Their getting know each other more. I don't think so that it's awkward for him to see the girl as a friend as long that his not courting her, just a friend. Now it's up to the girl, cause if she love his boyfriend she wont entertain your best friend. Anyway it's the girls ball or her decision in the end who will she choose. I know your concern with your best friend. If he doesn't listen to you let him learn life. Seeing your best friend happy you will be happy for him too. Just let it flow, anyway the girl is not engage yet or married. We don't know what will happen next. We can't tell in the end if it was really meant for your best friend. Anyway have a nice day!
@kquiming (2997)
• Philippines
27 Feb 09
I think no matter what you try to tell him, if he really can't resist the girl or can't help getting near the girl, he's bound to fall for that girl.
@rsa101 (38166)
• Philippines
27 Feb 09
I guess if they could not avoid seeing each other and working together it is inevitable that the guy would definitely fall for her. Emotions are hard to control if the person you are attracted to is always at your side. If he wants to risk he could try telling it to her and form there know what is his real stand in there and from there too reality would sink in to each and if the girl would start avoiding her then maybe that would mean that he moves on with his life. But there is also a chance that the girl might also respond positively and for that it may be a lucky day for him.
@chej18 (915)
• United States
26 Feb 09
Well zenki, You can tell your friend dont be afraid to get close.The more he fight not to be close the more he will think that mybe he is falling inlove with a girl.But he doesnt know that yet.And if that happened believe me if they are really for each other they will notice it right away.Everybody have a chance to try.The girl and the boyfriend is not married anyway.Asked him what is his reason of helping her?In my opinion i think he already fall to this woman.He must decide itself if he wants to be in awkward situation.It is easily to stay away to a girl who you doesnt care but in his case i think he care the girl as much as you think.Just tell him be carefull and think very good about what is going to happen.A lot of people will be hurt if he fall to her.She will be hurt and also he and the boyfriend.Its hard to tell but you must let him do what he can you can say what ever you want to say but heart you cannot teach.Have a nice day... Greetings from Che!