are there anything called LIMITS in friendship...
By KetanGulati
@KetanGulati (579)
India
February 27, 2009 7:01am CST
this one might sound weird and vague to you, but is not as vague to me... do u think that there can be a defined line for everything... a relation needs some lines of controls? For me frienship had been a relation of the same sort, as sharing a relation with god...friendship if true is selfless and pure, is amicable and elegant, and indeed is worth a prayer... so when we dont hide anything from god and we know we r the same to god as we r within, then why do we have to hide certain things from our friends.... what is ur take on it... i even don;t know if i m actually crazy to take this relation so strong or are there people of the same league to support me?
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6 responses
@syankee525 (6261)
• United States
27 Feb 09
oh yeah i have lot of people that i have limits with as friends, i might not someone everything where i have a few close friends who i can trust telling them anything or being in my house alone.
but yeah i have friendship i have limits on
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@KetanGulati (579)
• India
27 Feb 09
hey syankee... thnx for the response... but i guess i forgot to mention that if 10 people i am moving with they all r not my friends.... when I said friends here, I just meant by the very special frnds of mah life... and it does mean one or at max two of those very special frnds who u share ur life with....
@KetanGulati (579)
• India
27 Feb 09
hey syankee, thnx for ur response bro...
I hereby meant by the term friends, those fewest very very special friends for life...and i believe that is one or two persons at maximum throughout your life.... i did not mention ten people with whom you freak out or something... coz for me there is a complete and clear distinction between a friend and a company....
@syankee525 (6261)
• United States
27 Feb 09
with just my few close friends i have no there is no limits to what we would do for each other. we as friends had left our houses at all hours of the night to help each other out. drop what we were doing to help each other. limits with close friends is like getting married, we promise to be there for richer or poorer, health and sickness.
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@venchaul (541)
• China
27 Feb 09
I am a green hand here. please understand me if my words are not suitable for the situation.i am appreciate it. In my opinion, sometimes it is necessarry to hide something we called "secret" in our own deep heart. Maybe on one hand we want to give ourselves a private space to communicate with ourselves. on the other,it is a "white lies" for our friends when we hide the "secrets" as we don't make them feel the sorrow, but we'd like to share the good times,wouldn't we? so just keep a calm and common mood. let everything be narural. Good luck to you!
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@alindahaw (1219)
• Philippines
28 Feb 09
Everything should have its own limits. Even friendship need to have limits. You cannot just allow a friend to use your things or meddle with your affairs. Sometimes, it is better to keep secrets from your friends. It is not as if you do not trust them but it is good to let them stay in the dark sometimes to protect them. It is always a good thing to let your friends know their limits where you are concern.
@pergammano (7682)
• Canada
27 Feb 09
I personally feel, that every relationship has parameters...lines of do not cross!
And that's what makes us each individuals! Yes, friendship is selfless and true, but their are also abusers of that morality..and therefore I set my boundaries, and if you choose to allow me to be your friend, and vice versa, we will each respect each others parameters! My relationship with the Lord is much simpler, as he gives me wings to fly...and is there, as a soft place for me to land, an all encompassing, enduring love! Cheers!
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@KetanGulati (579)
• India
27 Feb 09
hey there... a lovely thought of urs!! i do respect it!!
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@pergammano (7682)
• Canada
27 Feb 09
Thank you, also, for your kind response! I am HUGE on respect, of all things "great and small!" I have tried, with all my heart to deeply impart this in my son.....and it seems to have worked! Hope you have a great weekend!
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@pickwick (858)
• India
27 Feb 09
Hi Ketan, there should be limits in every relations,even in friendship.friends with two bodies and one soul is all right...but we dont know when the soul will start craving for its own identity.So as we all are individuals, we should have a limit when it comes to any relaton so that we maintain our space and individuality.
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@swaroopmsc (241)
• India
27 Feb 09
Hi dude... I think there are no limits in friendship. Till now i did not face any situation which made me to think that there are limits in friendship.
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