Today parnets or younger parnets. is it just me or what ?

First of all its not just younger parents. I'm in my 20s and all the "clubbing parents" I know are in their 30s or up. Second I don't think there is anything wrong with a couple who choose to swap watching the kid and going out. Sometimes as a parent its nice to have adult time too. If the parents don't mind this arrangement its really no one else's place to judge them for it. Needing a night out once in awhile isn't being irresponsible. I'm a working mom who takes her daughter with her to the office and home schools her. I'm with her almost 24 hours a day 7 days a week. Its nice to be able to get out once in awhile. And that's completely healthy. As far as respect goes....I know just as many 30s and 40s parents who think its the grandparent's responsibility to raise the kids as I do 20 somethings.

I think the majority of younger parent lack of experience in parenting or level of maturity is lower compare to older couple probably contributed to these type of behaviors, but the actual causes probably are much more than the two i just mentioned. I can't see why any married man want to go to club and left his wife at home alone is using his brain. lol!

It can be pricey to hire a baby sitter so I think it is sensible to a wife to go out one or two nights a week and her husband to to do that on one or two different nights. For example on Monday evening he might go to a music practice, Tuesday night she might go to a language class, Wednesday he might go out with friends and on Thursday night she might go swimming with a friend. Then on Friday night the couple might have an evening in together watching a movie. On Saturday the family could have a family outing to the beach or the park. Then on Sunday the family could have a day at home together or go to visit relatives like the grandparents. I love to see my mum and she enjoys seeing us. I have lots of respect for older people.

When the kids were young we did not go out a lot but if we did we always had a baby sitter or left them with a relative. As to clubbing the only sort of clubs I go to are BDSM clubs when I am working as a maid. I have been to other clubs but they are very boring

Well for me those parents who became parents at their young age differs on how they take care of their kids. I got married in my early twenties and I now have a 5 month old son. I grew up in a way that I never get addicted to parties, clubs and night life. I just live a simple life wherein I am more a homebody person. I just go out if I have work or there is a need to buy something in the mall. My husband who happens to be older than me for a couple of years has also the same attitude as mine. He never enjoyed going out at night to party or to go in clubs. SO I am lucky enough to say and I am very proud that I am hands on taking care my son and my husband. I am a full time mom and wife and my husband is the only one working at the moment until we get a baby sitter. Well for me it all depends on how you started your lifestyle and how you manage to discipline yourself. If you are not really ready to settle to a married life first because you will miss your outings and night lives then better not enter into marriage first. The worst part of it is that if you already have a kid and you fail to do your responsibilities as parents. Kids especially children and babies needs our attention more than anyone in this world. They need parents to grow in a right way and to have more confidence to themselves. I may never grew up with my own parents because they worked abroad and they left me with my great grandparents but I swear never to do the same with my son. I will just work hard in my own country than left my son growing without me on his side. It is just again a matter of readiness and lifestyle that determines how well a person who became a parent give importance to their kids. They have to choose and sacrifice a part of their life just like what I am doing now. It is part of being a parent. If they miss hanging out, why not bring the kid and husband or wife and travel together. Visit nice places together and eat together. It is not a burden to have kids. In my part I can't last a day without seeing my kids. I still remember when I and my husband went to a nice place and we left our son to his mother, that lasted for 13 hours and I feel very happy because I was able to go out with my husband. But on the other side of my heart and mind I miss and I kept on thinking of my son the whole 13 hours I was away with him. I and my husband usually bring our son to his grand parents. We wanted him to grow normal and to know all our relatives and love ones. Of course we need not to sacrifice our likes and habits but we need to balance things in life. Again children should always be priorities.

when it comes to the age of parents i think it's about normal. if you look back about 50 years the normal age to get married and have kids was like 14. i'm not saying that is acceptable these days, but it was normal at one time. we put less emphasis on marriage these days and more on education. i'm a young mother and i feel i am extremely responsible. her father and i go out maybe 1-2 times a month and we always leave her with her grandma. i travel 3 hrs to take her to see my parents about once a month. if i could afford more often i would.

I think that it is a good thing to share the responsibility of taking care of the kids. Besides, it is a lot cheaper for one of the parent to stay home and look after the kids while the other one is out. Hiring a baby sitter can be very expensive so it is better to just let the other spouse watch over the kids every now and then.

there are surely lots of young couples nowadays who like to have a partner. but mostly are not married or just live in couples. but still i think their relationship still last or work. anyways, i think that people now like to experience having partner earlier cause teens are more active now. they experiment more and they want to experience things as early as they can. i remember reading on the news of 12 year old being a first time father . though he more look like an 8 year old. and his gf is a 14 year old girl who looks right for her age and so it looks as if the girl is just much an older to the boy and like she is with a very young brother. no one will suspect that they are actually a young couple.

My hubsband an I rarely go out at all, but if we do, we go places where we can take the kids with us. To both of us, our "BREAK FROM THE KIDS" comes when we go to work. Yeah, there are rare occassions when we will hire a babysitter and go out to eat or go shopping, maybe even a movie, but I think the last time we did that even was two months ago, and before that it was over a year. AS far as the Grandparents go, my parents are pretty far away right now, but, we do keep the lines of communicaton wide open and we all know that the phone works on both ends. Sometimes, I am really bust and don't get the chance to call them, so, in those instances, they call us. As far as visiting goes, it just depends on which one of us has the time off and the money to travel. It isn't always easy, but my parents are still very involved i nmy kids' lives. If they do good, grandma and grandpa hear about it, likewise if they do bad. Grandma and Grandpa also get to tell them what they think about the situation, good or bad. I think that too may times, these young couples get married without realizing what it really means, and as far as respect goes, it just depends on th couple.

Hi syankee! I see where your coming from on all these issues. You better tell that boy of yours to bring those granbabies over or I'm going to As far as young parents going out..I think they are not on the same maturity level that some of us have had to be on. They are still stuck between times. I think that some of them won't even realize until it's to late how fast their children grow up.I think also that their single friends may have a little imfluence on them. Not that the single friends are bad..it's just hard trying to fit in with both sometimes and I think the younger parents don't quite know how. Doesn't make it right though.

I agree with you! But I'm not a parent yet, so I may not have the right to say anything, but when I went clubbing with my friends, I saw a pregnant girl there dancing! I couldn't believe it.. she looked like she'd go in labor any minute.

I deal with the opposite problem really. Todays grandparents know nothing about being a good grandparent. They have the attitude 'well, I raised my children already.' don't even let the young parents have a night out for dinner alone 1 time a month! My dad actually makes it very clear that he favors my oldest daughter over the younger 2. Which is great for her, but what about the younger 2? He also goes out on spring break and dances with lil hoochies. Haha. But, really. This behavior is regular these days. The idea that just because you CAN have a safe pregnancy at age 30 means, you have to wait until then to have children is mean. I don't go out clubbin. I did that for all of one month right when I turned 21. My mom told me I needed to. So, I did. I don't like it, not my thing. My children were always my thing. However, sometimes a mom needs a hand. Or a break or something. For me, I'm not even asking for 1 time a month, how about every couple of months. But, no, not going to happen. They don't even want me to bring the children to their house because they are afraid that the children are going to break stuff. So, maybe there is a trend out there for SOME young parents to be stupid. But, there is a decided trend for grandparents to be stupid too. It's really everybody, the dang family system is all screwed up, okay!

Well im only 21 and dont have any kids yet, but I plan on having them withing 5 years and no I dont plan on giving up going out when I have kids. I think our generation is so much different. Im not saying im going to go out every single night and pawn my kids off on someone else. I barely go out as it is. But why should some1 have to give up stuff like that when they have kids? Kids should absolutly come first but I think times have changed and there are lots of opportunities to have a balanced life when you have kids. Im not just referring to going out and clubbing but any other extra activity as well